To not want people to come into our bedroom when they come over

[thetwinkletoescollective]

My husband and I gutted and did up our house about three years ago.

When we have people come over my husband wants them to see all the rooms including our bedroom. When it was first done he would show people the all of the house.

I really didn't like it as I am of the opinion that the master bedroom is private and I have said that I don't want people to come in there.

Anyway he has a friend coming over who has never seen the house and he has just asked me if he can show him our room. I have said no. He says IAMBU as it's just a room.

AIBU?

helpful in most relationship situations the one saying "no" trumps the one saying "if you loved me you would" ...

I wouldn't care, it's another room. There's been awkward times I've done flat tours for friends and lube has been out....

I don't get why people are funny about guests going upstairs either. Seems a weird middle class British thing.

Yolo or is it only weird middle class Brits who give and expect house tours. It's really quite a peculiar thing to insist on being shown your host's ensure and her daughter's bedroom or to show those things to everyone who pops in for coffee...

En-suite not ensure

I don't understand people need to see other people's house renovations.

We had relatives wanting to visit our new hallway and carpet.....why?

I re vamped a side board and same people wanted to visit it.

Keeping quiet about the new kitchen going in in a few weeks, were having 2 walls knocked down. I really can't be arsed with showing people it.

I've been invited to view other people's decorating tbh I really see no point. If I wanted to look at paint, wall paper and new furniture I'd go to Homebase for an afternoon.

My friend invited me round recently as she's re decorated every room. Every room is a different shade of grey. I found myself lying that it was lovely....it actually looks dark and dingey now.

Nah, my family's all foreign and we love a good house tour.

YNBU

I would feel the same as you op

Just make sure you don't leave your vibrator out and you should be okay. The showing people round stage only lasts a few months then you can move to normal entertaining.

It bloody well doesn't just last a few months. It lasts as long as you meet new people who feel entitled to see the whole bloody house.

There was a thread on this recently (where the op booted out the invader who went upstairs even though she had been told not to), and it was much like this. Those that said no, loathed the invasion of privacy, whereas those who said yes couldn't fathom why they felt like that.

Wouldn't bother me at all. This old one storey cottage has been being renovated for the past eleven years and most friends are dying to see what the latest state is and what furniture I've found cheap at auction lately. I've also given up my bed and bedroom to guests as it's the biggest room and the only non-single bed.

However, even if you are being daft in my opinion, he shouldn't run roughshod over your feelings.

I thought you were going to say they were coming in while you were in bed. In which case no

But an empty room - another vote for DH

I think many people (including me) like houses and decor... thats why there are programmes like homes under the hammer, grand designs, 60 minute makeover etc, plus a million or so pictures on Pinterest... same with gardens too.

If someone offered me a tour of their house I would actually enjoy it. Not because I want to nosey into their personal lives and belongings but because I like to see how things are decorated or property is laid out.

At the same time though I wouldn't be bothered if they didn't offer a tour either.