To be annoyed at the exclusion of single parents

[Peachyfizz]

There was a bit up roar about the brewers fayre not including single mums in their Sunday mother's day deal.

Just seen a local place of ours saying mums go free with another full paying person. My parents are away and obviously friends are with their families. So just me and DS this mothering Sunday. So I have to pay full price as I normally would. Just feel sad that us single mums are made to feel excluded! It would be nice to have a treat! AIBU?

It might seem unfair but it's not excusion. Lots of restaurants always has loads of 2 for 1 meal deals and you wouldn't say that was excluding single people.

Not unreasonable to feel a bit sad and pissed off being a single Mum though .

I thought that it was aimed at adults taking their Mothers out.

Regardless, they're businesses.

They're are plenty of actual discrimination examples to get pissed off with.

I can’t really get too het up about this. It’s juts an excuse to have an offer to drum up more business, it’s not a deliberate slight. Although lots of people look for deliberate slights with everything now. A free dessert for all mothers- but what about infertile women? Women who have suffered losses, and don’t have their children with them, but are still mothers? You could go on and on as to how something is allegedly discrimatory. Personally, I’d rather juts eat where I want and if others get a bit of money off, good for them. I can pretty much guarantee my life is cheaper as a single adult with only one child. Kinda evens out.

Normally when DH and I go out to eat we have to pay for TWO meals. and single parents only pay for ONE.

I feel discriminated against. I’m going to start a campaign ...

So basically this deal is a family go to play park and pay one adult price and however many children's prices? You are going and are paying one adults price and however many children's prices? So no worse off than two people going? A couple would be getting it no cheaper than you the only difference is there are two adults getting into a KIDS activity rather than one.

Yabu.

All this talk of seeing "Happy families" is so ridiculous. What you're seeing in an hour of their life is probably not an accurate representation of it. You don't know what they're thinking etc. That might be the only outing they've gone on all year. The only hour in the day that they haven't argued.

The grass isn't always greener and it's certainly not any greener just for getting a 2 for 1 at brewers fayre.

YANBU OP. I’m amazed at how many people disagree really. Happy Mother’s Day

A couple would be getting it no cheaper than you the only difference is there are two adults getting into a KIDS activity rather than one.

The difference is that the cost is split between two adults who either have two incomes or one income but no childcare costs (or somewhere in between). Of course they are getting it cheaper!

Wop and neither do you have any right to tell a LP that what they feel isn't valid.

I'm not saying it's not valid. I'm saying the grass isn't always greener and not to torture yourself over what you think other people have.

So she can’t ever think something would be nice because you told her so?

I'm not torturing myself over what I believe other women in relationships might have. I just recognise that society is structured in a way that makes socialising/eating out/travelling/going to theatre/anywhere new easier for couples.

Ffs no that's clearly not what im saying is it?

Clearly a lot of you haven't read the full thread!!!!
I said further down yes may be i am being unreasonable but I can't help the way it makes me feel and that it's hard and tough being alone and not getting the deal too on mother's day!

What non LPs maybe don't realize is that as an LP you can sometimes feel like you have a neon sign over your head advertising your "shameful single parent" status to all.

Rational or not, something like a Mother's Day deal which you can't take advantage of just brings it home. Shouldn't do maybe, but it does.

You don't need to be sleeping with some one to eat a meal with them. Friends make pretty good lunch companions

The difference is that the cost is split between two adults who either have two incomes or one income but no childcare costs (or somewhere in between). Of course they are getting it cheaper!

That’s totally irrelevant. They’re paying the same price as you. It’s actually a pretty smart move on the part of the play park. Because most 2 parent families would just send one parent if they had to pay for both of them. So they would miss out on the coffee and food for the second parent. So overall, they will actually pay more than you, because you will only buy one coffee or meal.

What you appear to be saying is that you actually want two parent families to be charged more because they have two incomes. That really fucking grinds my gears. When single parents actually start demanding that two parent families are penalised just to make them feel better.

I have literally never seen a single parent demand that families with two parents are penalized for still being together.

Gosh this thread makes me a bit sad. I thrive on being a single parent, I don't want a partner. Happily go to restaurants and on holiday alone with DS and love it. It is a bit annoying that we never seem to get any deals but I don't feel envious of other families!

Same here now, but it wasn't always so. It took some getting used to.

I have literally never seen a single parent demand that families with two parents are penalized for still being together.

Er, except that poster who just did. Complaining that a two parent family who paid the same price as her were getting it cheaper ‘because they have two incomes’.

Every time there are threads like this you get people saying single parents should be given lower rates on the same goods and services purely because they are single parents. And they might not put it in the terms of asking for two parent families to be penalised for staying together, but it’s certainly the net result of what they’re asking for.

Look what the underlying thing is of my post was yes it orginally annoyed me about the deal but actually it's just the fact this deal makes me feel sad because as a single parent i can't do a BOGOF. Yes I could ask friends but they were with their mothers today. Anyway me and DS had a nice time even if it was quite lonely.
I'm sure the other single parents will get what I'm saying.

I get it and I am not a LP

Having lost a parent I have seen my family shrink and it’s hard and sad and some festivals trigger it . And the feeling that you are somehow ‘depriving’ your child somehow

I hope that any other day of the year you would enjoy a lunch out ? But there are tough times ( Mother’s Day , xmas , easter )

Always best to ‘own’ how you feel as it’s easiest to address eventually

I get annoyed at family tickets which are 2 adults + 2 children.If you have 3 or more children you are paying more per person for binging a BIGGER group.Madness!j

Most things seem to come in 4’s, it is always asumed that a family consists of 2 adults and 2 children, it’s not the case as there are many single parents and many people have more than 2 children. The only thing that’s made perfectly for my family (3 of us) are crispy crepe doughnuts which you can buy in a box of 3