To be annoyed at the exclusion of single parents

[Peachyfizz]

There was a bit up roar about the brewers fayre not including single mums in their Sunday mother's day deal.

Just seen a local place of ours saying mums go free with another full paying person. My parents are away and obviously friends are with their families. So just me and DS this mothering Sunday. So I have to pay full price as I normally would. Just feel sad that us single mums are made to feel excluded! It would be nice to have a treat! AIBU?

I don't have a mother. Maybe I should go and sit in the graveyard all day.

That was to the knob that said 'take your mother', btw.

I gathered.

Nobody has denied that, but it's hardly Brewers Fayre's fault is it!

My comment was to Blastoma who took issue with the idea that single parents tend to be poorer

My comment was to Blastoma who took issue with the idea that single parents tend to be poorer

no, she didn't. Don't tell lies.

I very much recognise the picture of single parenthood painted by @TheFifthKey. I'm lucky not to be bothered by Mothers Day though, as I always thought Hallmark holidays were stupid and told my kids not to spend any money! (They can draw me a picture if they like.) We do get stuff for my mum, who is a nice granny to my DCs, but I secretly judge her for expecting it.

Depends how much it matters to you. I’m not fussed. But I am very much from the school or thought of it being the thought that counts.

My salary is modest on MN but in the real world it would be enough for me not to need to claim CB. But everything still comes out of one income.

Not sure what the point of your post was then. Pp said single parents are on one income - You said some couples are too.

My point was single parents are on average poorer. Not sure why that needs any kind of response let alone a whataboutery reply.

fifth this brought a tear to my eye because that's exactly it for me. That's how it is. It's shit most of the time and then this too. It's shit being on your own and reminded sorry you have to pay full price because you don't have some one else to to pay full price. And also that's it, If I had someone to bring I would. But I don't

golden well no same as you I feel like this most of the time and don't really like taking my D'S out at weekends because I feel like this. But I do because it's not fair on him. But I feel this event just amplifies it

No, clearly you don't understand. It's ok, you don't need to.

Hugs and , Peachy..

It's a special kind of loneliness, single parenthood.

Yes. Every day sucks. There are no good bits. There is nothing to look forward to, ever. And you know inside it will only get worse

that really isn't everyones view of single parenthood, by a very long shot.
I was so happy to have got rid of the loser I had my first child with, I was very happy as a single parent. Lots of us are. It didn't get worse and there was a huge amount to look forward to.

to those feeling sad. This thread is not what it could have been. But I know what we do is awesome so let’s drink to us - and not spend our money at Brewers Fayre (tbh I’ve never heard of them so no real loss for me).

And if you really are feeling isolated think about the Gingerbread forums or groups. They know

YABVU. It's a marketing ploy / business decision to get customers through the door, not an entitlement because you're a mum! I say this very strongly as a single mum with one DS. I wouldn't be able to get these deals either - just as I can't get countless other deals if I don't meet the eligibility criteria. It's not about fair or not fair, OP. Cries of 'it's not fair' make you sound pretty entitled. The adults getting in for free or getting a meal are also paying at least one other full rate adult price. I can see that it is a bit annoying to not feel treated like mums with a partner but this really isn't about being a mum giving you entitlement to rip off a business... it would be like going into Tesco, seeing a BOGOF deal and saying 'I only need one of those, so I'll take the free one, thanks.'

Twycross Zoo are offering "mum's Go Free" on Mothers Day my single parent friend was thrilled to tell me.

Merlin have those vouchers on kelloggs where "adults Go Free" so when I take DS, I only pay for him.

Could you pay for an adult on Sunday as if your DC is an adult and so not have to pay for one adult and one child? Do it via Twitter or FB as you've more chance of getting a response.

25% of families are single parent families and so while we are not a minority, having 2 parents is still the majority.

golden yes agreed. Mostly sucks as you can't share moments with anyone and DS doesn't speak properly yet.

Thanks sanfran it certainly is a different kind.

For all of your judgey posts, you clearly have not been a single parent and had the struggles. My OP is stating I was upset about feeling excluded it weren't really about the money value. It's hard enough on an average weekend taking my son out and seeing families but for this weekend in particular to then be reminded even more that an average family can have discount yet a single parent can't just hurts

Also, I fucking love being a single parent! It's hard, but better than the life a lot of married people I know have!! The key is having a support network and I can't recommend Gingerbread Groups (and gin) enough

helly yy.

peachy it would piss me off too.

"and not spend our money at Brewers Fayre"

So you are blaming Brewers Fayre. How silly.

PS DS is now 10, I've been on my own since pregnancy and the first 3 years we're definitely the hardest. Surviving on tax credits and income support and all of those happy families EVERYWHERE but it does get easier and more rewarding as time goes on xx

"My OP is stating I was upset about feeling excluded it weren't really about the money value."

But you weren't excluded from the place, only from the discount, so it was about the money value. Or more likely, you have some problems and you blamed them on BF inappropriately.