To be annoyed at the exclusion of single parents

[Peachyfizz]

There was a bit up roar about the brewers fayre not including single mums in their Sunday mother's day deal.

Just seen a local place of ours saying mums go free with another full paying person. My parents are away and obviously friends are with their families. So just me and DS this mothering Sunday. So I have to pay full price as I normally would. Just feel sad that us single mums are made to feel excluded! It would be nice to have a treat! AIBU?

Hmm then it really is getting bonkers.... why would you take your mother to an adventure / play park aimed at kids? Mothers Day is about what you can do for your mother should you be lucky enough to still have her with you, not about what you can get for free!

I'm going to this play park for my son not me as he is still young and doesn't understand the concept of the day. I was going even before this offer then a friend of mine pointed the offer out to me and I read the small print and it said free with another full price admission. I struggle with money enough as it is and then it feels like another kick in the teeth

Buy your child an adult meal and then you can get yours free still.....might work out cheaper that way than buying 2 meals.

Cancel the cheque!

going to this play park for my son not me as he is still young and doesn't understand the concept of the day.

If that's the case then it doesn't sound like it's a Mothers Day spoiled, rather you're annoyed because you can't get in for free. It is what it is.

There's lots of deals that exclude certain families - tends to be the perfect 2 + 2 that benifit

Example 3 kids - kids eat free with a paying adult - so we still have to pay for one child's meal

Same with hotels - free kids place etc -

It's not just excluding single parents but they cant please everyone.

They are running this offer only on the mothering Sunday weekend so it is aimed at adults this free entry. I'm annoyed because other adults get in for free and yet because I'm alone I have to pay full price. So yes it is annoying.

The people who are saying why am I bothered, are you single/widowed? Do you know how the exclusion makes us feel?

Phone them up and ask very nicely if you can have something else - free dessert, small glass of wine etc. See what they say.

I am a single mother and often team up with another single mother friend for family tickets for things - then just pay extra for any excess children

There is no such thing as a free lunch!!!!! If there is a bogof then the original price was tailored to allow for this, or the menu is created using less expensive ingredients, or the portions are small.

I was thinking the same OP, single parent here with 2dc’s, we can’t take advantage of ‘mum eats free’ as there’s no other adult buying a full price meal. Sadly I won’t have my dc’s for mother’s day anyway, won’t get a gift as ex won’t take the dc’s to buy anything so it will just be a normal Sunday for me.

You are not excluded, exclusion would be not allowing entrance to single parent.

Some holiday resorts only allow booking from opposite-sex couples, so single people are excluded (and gay couples are excluded too).

this is different. You could argue that you only pay for 1 adult, whilst couples do pay for 2 adults. Nothing to do with exclusion.

I've been pissed off by "family tickets" for years. I wrote to the Science Museum when they opened their new Wonderlab, as they were giving family discounts on tickets to two-parent families with one child, but no discounts to one parent families with one child.

This makes no sense to me, since a one-parent family (and most of the time that one parent is a mother) is more likely to be on a much lower income than a two-parent one (as only one possible income, and no shared expenses), so the practical effect is that, generally speaking, lower-income families will subsidise the tickets of higher-income families.

(I got a load of old guff back about their commitment to be inclusive to a diverse audience, etc etc, but that's no good if they don;t put their money where their mouth is. )

It's not exclusion, they're not forbidding single parents entry to the restaurant or denying them meals.

It's just a BOGOF offer. You can't GOF if you don't BO.

You're just looking for something to complain about.....

I don't think that's excluding single parents at all. It's a buy one get one free. How do you suggest they include you in that?

You're just looking for something to complain about.....

Yes, because as single parents bringing up children on one income, we are so very short of things to complain about!

They're a business. They just want to make money. They're not excluding anyone. They don't put the deals on because they genuinely think mothers deserve a free meal. They know there's a massive amount of competition on Mother's Day and want to get customers, who will potentially return, through the doors! Unfortunately that's just life, as annoying as it is!

"You can't seriously expect a business to give away free meals for no gain?"

This. It's a private company, not a charity!

"I'm annoyed because other adults get in for free and yet because I'm alone I have to pay full price."

But you're paying the same as all the other parents i.e.for one adult. Yes, you're paying more per person, but how is that the company's fault?

I'm slightly confused. In your OP, your talk about Brewers Fayre... A restaurant... But you drip feed go on to say it's actually about entrance to a play park.

So if it was you, another adult and DS you would pay say £20. With the BOGOF offer.

But because you have no other adult to go with, you're still going to be paying the same £20 for you and DS.

So either way, you'd be paying the same amount? Seeing as you have no one else to go with, you're not actually losing out.

Is that correct?

"because as single parents bringing up children on one income, we are so very short of things to complain about!"

But it you're unhappy about being a single parent, shouldn't your ire be directed at the other parent, if they are the one who left you as a single parent, rather than a company that's giving a discount to couples?

YABU. You are NOT being excluded or targeted. The deal is for 2 adults, not 1. Tough luck that your friends are away.

sirlee - I suppose if there were two adults, they'd be paying 10 each so it would be cheaper.
I don't know why that's Brewers Fayre's problem though.

Well it’s not like it is deliberately done to exclude single parents. Many single parents have people who they spend mother’s day with other than the other parent. And plenty of mothers who aren’t single will be spending mother’s day alone/without adult company (me🙋‍♀️). The alternative is to not have the offer/less enticing offer (and risk loosing out to other businesses) or to loose money when lots of lone mothers come in and have a meal but don’t spend any money. If you don’t like it then just don’t go there.