Help me school this prat at work

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IWD today, obvs, so one guy on our team work messaging chat (about 20 people on there) shared this pic. What banter eh.

I replied saying ‘sorry I don’t get it - can you explain the joke’, and he’s said that he will explain to me tomorrow at work, the delight that he is.

Cue others on the chat offering to book a meeting room, film it, send a company wide invite etc so we can all witness his explanation.

I feel like just watching him squirm in front of the whole team won’t be enough, so I wanted to plan a line of questioning or whatnot that would maximise the enjoyment for all involved, except for him, and not make me look like a humourless fun sponge in the process.

Ideas?

I don't think it's funny.
I think it's insulting.
If it were done on a work email I would forward it to HR.

And I'm not a fun sponge.

In our house my husband does ironing, I don’t, so my children think that this makes sense (apart from the grammar) as a fairly lame how-men-can support IWD joke.
As with most things, context is all, and OP is clear that it was intended to denigrate and mock. Her colleagues seem to agree. In that context, showing this person that they disagree with his idea of wit is quite supportive.
The polite reply to ‘I don’t get the joke/it’s not funny’ is a simple ‘sorry, didn’t mean to offend you—my misjudgment ‘ The ‘let’s get him to do a presentation’ isn’t bullying but is surely referring to his patronising response to her initial reply where instead of apologising he continues the negativity.

Fucking depressing responses from some, and yes, they would so not be telling a black person to lighten up (sic) and get a sense of humour.

FFS.

That kind of sexist shit is death by 1000 cuts.

Jo brand on ‘Have I got news for you’ is excellent on this subject. Search YouTube for the clip.

I’d report it, and each and ever incident to HR, especially as he has form. He’s a misogynistic fool.

Why should this offend me? Personally I have risen up in a male dominated industry by merit so I have no chip on my shoulder to speak of. What I find funny are the professionally offended on here. I am sure you have cracked similar jokes or say things like 'oh men are hopeless' in your lifetime. Getting you bloody knickers in a twist over this is pathetic.

What I find hilarious is the professionally UNoffended who will defend to the hilt a man’s right to make a shit, sexist joke and send it to his female work colleagues on international woman’s day - a joke designed to belittle women on the day womanhood is supposed to be (if not celebrated, then at least) recognised.

We must defend this banter at all costs, this comedic genius should be allowed to continue offending people for a very, very important reason - although I’m not sure what that reason is, unfortunately.

Steamy why is your industry male-dominated, do you think?

steamy, exactly. My sides are still splitting at the PP who said if you find this funny you obviously can’t hold a senior position in your career. Some people are just crackpots!

Weird to assume that everyone makes comments like "men are hopeless". I don't, my friends don't. I'm sure many people do, but that doesn't mean you should assume everyone does just to try and make your accusations of hypocrisy stick.

Interesting that you use a sexist phrase to tell other women to shut up, @SteamyBeignets. Also, well done for the insinuation that other women have only risen to high positions through unfair means not by merit, and that you are better than them because you didn't.

In my experience, the people who make jokes like " men are hopeless" etc are the kind to think chauvinistic jokes are hilarious. Purely anecdotal of course.

There must be something wrong with me because that made me laugh too

I laughed. It’s funny but the guy is somewhat illiterate - which is funny too.

Calling him a “fool” is a bit “ist “, though.
Is that permitted in your world?

Before you start on the road to revenge-first dig two graves...

I thought it was quite funny too.

I definitely wouldn't be offended or make a big deal of it. Perhaps you could take it in and get him to iron it (or some equivalent). Keep it light. He will get the point.

I think your title "help me school this prat at work" makes you the equivalent of him....maybe you both should choose your words more carefully??

I laughed hahaha people are too sensitive

Best reply I've seen on this is that of course a woman wouldn't iron it as she's wise enough to know that that material doesn't iron and would melt onto and ruin the iron...

I think it’s deeply sexist and I would report to HR.
There is absolutely nothing funny about it.

Agree with VivaKondo -
I think it’s deeply sexist and I would report to HR.
There is absolutely nothing funny about it.

I think it's NOT sexist, and I find it funny.

so who wins?

Here, perhaps your hilarious colleague would like some feminine needlework

Oh, FGS.
HR? It's CLEARLY a joke. All those "pull him up on his grammar, go on!" - I've seen this on Facebook myself and you do know it's not him who actually took the picture and wrote it, right?
It must be doing the rounds.

I think it's NOT sexist, and I find it funny.

How is it NOT sexist? When the whole premise is how fucking hilarious it is that women haven't ironed a banner that is supposed to celebrate IWD?

‘His joke isn't funny and neither would it be funny to humiliate him‘

^this, any form of humiliation could be construed as bullying and you’d end up the one being reported to HR. Deal with it professionally or don’t deal with it at all...