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In feeling that my friend is being a bit unfair here?

420 replies

WilburIsSomePig · 07/03/2018 20:01

I worked with someone until they left my current employer last year. We became really good friends while we worked together and I was gutted when she left, but she felt it was a good move for her. We still each other a couple of times a month and chat/message every couple of days.

The company I work for is closing down in June and I, along with everyone else, am being made redundant. I've started looking for alternative employment as my redundancy won't be much and my role is not particularly common so I feel I need to get looking asap.

I told my friend about a job that another friend told me about at a great company and that I've applied for it, I have an interview on Friday. It's perfect for me, close to home, quite a bit more money and a similar role that I'm doing now - friend agreed that it sounds right up my street and to let her know how I get on. Another colleague at work that she also keeps in touch with told me today that my friend is really unhappy in her job (she's never said anything to me, she tells me it's going great) and that she's applied for the job I told her about. Now, I know that I have no 'right' to stop her applying and I never would, but I just wish she'd have told me. She knows I need another job as I'm losing mine soon. I feel a bit let down.

OP posts:
TheJoyOfSox · 09/03/2018 12:04

All’s fair in love and war, the same is true with job hunting. I’m sorry, but the best person will get the job, not the most deserving. Perhaps keep all further tips to yourself from now and all the very best of luck to you op.

IhaveChillyToes · 09/03/2018 12:16

Just read thread

Agree with others she was really sneaky and not a friend

Really glad the interview went well and hope you get it SmileSmileSmile

feral · 09/03/2018 12:33

OP I'm rooting for you!

I've had similar myself but me wanting the job friend he told me about... but they were looking for 4 people so after talking to friend we agreed she was ok with me applying.
The key here was talking to her first- I'd never go for it otherwise.
We both got a job 🙂

Loyaultemelie · 09/03/2018 13:33

Glad the interview went well I hope you get it. I don't think it was something a friend would do personally.

Gemini69 · 09/03/2018 13:42

Fingers and Toes crossed for you Lady Flowers

Susimoo · 09/03/2018 13:44

I was thinking about you this morning as I walked round the shops (such a glamorous life I lead - NOT 😁)

Fingers crossed you get the job. Especially after the way you have been treated.

Good Luck 🍀

user1467718508 · 09/03/2018 13:58

So so so hoping you can revel in the satisfaction of sending a 'yay for me! I'm so excited to start, the job sounds fantastic!! Better luck next time, mate' text to the back-stabbing bitch tits.

Just typing that had me like Grin

MavisPike · 09/03/2018 14:36

fingers and toes crossed for you

overduemamma · 09/03/2018 14:45

How did it go OP? X

QueenStreaky · 09/03/2018 14:46

Tbh if you do get the job, I probably wouldn't say anything to 'friend'. She'd likely accuse you of gloating. Besides, let her sweat, eh? Wink

Good luck - rootin' for you.

CatsCatsCats11 · 09/03/2018 15:07

Good luck OP!!

Motoko · 09/03/2018 15:35

I hope she's not one of the others being interviewed.

Ellendegeneres · 09/03/2018 17:15

Good luck!!

Wishiwasonholiday1 · 09/03/2018 17:24

Good luck!

scotchpie · 09/03/2018 17:26

Hope it's good news OP

Blah2ppp · 09/03/2018 17:48

Good luck!

FizzyGreenWater · 09/03/2018 17:53

OP I'm thinking about you Grin - aw I really hope it is good news. But come back for a cuddle here if not, and we can carry on telling you you're ace and will get a new job soon anyway!

KylieOlive · 09/03/2018 17:53

I would never trust her again. As a friend I would never do that to someone.

Theluckynumberthree · 09/03/2018 17:55

I wouldn’t trust her at all - that’s a really shady thing to do!!!

Bexter801 · 09/03/2018 17:55

To be honest,how great will it be if you get the job :) would you consider phoning her,and saying you heard she was unhappy in her job,and felt disheartened she told you otherwise. That way,you'll know straight up how much truth there is in what's being said

veuveo · 09/03/2018 17:57

did she really say those exact words?
That's awful!

OneThingAndThenTheNext · 09/03/2018 17:57

Delurking to say all the best and my fingers have been crossed for you Flowers

GeekyWombat · 09/03/2018 17:57

Really hoping you’re celebrating good news tonight OP!

Biblio78 · 09/03/2018 18:01

Well about 75% of jobs aren't advertised. Life isn't fair is it?

Rudgie47 · 09/03/2018 18:01

What a snake!
Hope you get the job, whatever though I'd dump her for her snake like traits.

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