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To ask if you give grandmothers "mothers day" cards from their grandchildren?

141 replies

rubyred84 · 07/03/2018 16:50

I haven't, I never have...i get my mum a gift and card from me, and my husband does the same for his mum. And my kids are helped with a card/gift for me. I should add, I never sent/was made to send my grandmother's cards or gifts on mothers day either.....is this a new thing? I get on well with my mum and MIL so would hate to think they are upset at not getting something from my kids if it's now the done thing, but it just never occurred to me as, well, they aren't my kids mum!

OP posts:
Smarmydrippings · 09/03/2018 09:59

I've always given my GM a Mothers Day card. I'm going to see her today with flowers.

Hefzi · 09/03/2018 09:59

I did this 40 odd years ago, OP - it's by no means a new thing

BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 09/03/2018 10:09

Nope. If my mum did motherly/grandmotherly things with my dc then I might. I only send one out of duty tbh , it's tricky to choose one that isn't gushy best mum in the world, thanks for everything you do etc. because that would be untrue.

ClaraSchumannsCat · 09/03/2018 10:16

@scortja You're not the only one: my MIL gets me a hamper every year 'because you're my grandchildren's mum'. Shock It's not that DH is incapable-he always gets me something from the kids (1 and 3, so too little to organise themselves). She's v kind but I do feel it's a bit OTT.
And no, on principle I still don't get her a card from the kids. Give DH a nudge to make sure she gets a card from him though.

scortja · 09/03/2018 10:30

@ClaraSchumannsCat It is quite a sweet gesture, isn't it? I hope I'll do the same one day.. Maybe not a whole hamper, but still..

Rachie1973 · 09/03/2018 10:36

No. I don't.

callmeadoctor
Well this is the weirdest thread that I have ever read on here, the cards are for "Mothers Day" therefore are for Mothers!!! Getting one for Grandmother is just weird! (So I'm guessing we will soon have a "Grandmothers Day!!!!!!")

October 18th. Already exists!

Lemonyknickers · 09/03/2018 10:43

My MIL phoned up last week to make sure DH was sending her a card and a separate one from the kids, specifying actually signed by them. She is still very p,off that we are not visiting as DH pointed out it's my mother's Day as well. She is however very emotionally demanding. My mum gets a card and a book token and us fine!

HotCrossBunFight · 09/03/2018 10:48

Aw Lemony, I don't think there's anything wrong with celebrating with our mothers despite now being parents ourselves. They're still mum's! We kind of do a huge family thing.

DioneTheDiabolist · 09/03/2018 10:53

I do. It brings so much happiness for very little outlay and my mum and MiL are so important to all of us.☺

Trinity66 · 09/03/2018 10:56

DioneTheDiabolist Absolutely, it's a little odd that people seem outraged by it Grin

Lemonyknickers · 09/03/2018 11:00

hot cross

I don't understand why Aww? My mum asks for a voucher rather than flowers and my MIL lives miles away so I would need to stay home for the dogs and therefore would spend my mother's Day alone without my kids.

Sockunicorn · 09/03/2018 11:04

@rubyred84 yes i do my DM and DMIL from the kids too. Just as a thank you for the babysitting and general mothering they do over the year. They babysit roughly once a week for a few hours (so its not extreme) but Its just a little thanks. No gift from the kids though, one gift from us all.

I also send godmother cards to their 2 godmothers. Just for their "motherly" guidance and influence really.

Sockunicorn · 09/03/2018 11:05

Just to add, the Godmother cards I get made on moonpig / funky pigeon and always say "to my fairy godmother". and the grandparents say "granny / grandma". Not all " to my mother" ones :).

moita · 09/03/2018 11:19

Fabellina - very thoughtful.

I do because, not costly or time consuming and I know my mum appreciates it. She's a great mum and grandmother so she deserves it.

Irelandfilly · 09/03/2018 11:20

I have always given my mum a card from my dd and ds. They are early 20s now and still send a card to their Gran.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 09/03/2018 11:23

No, my mother gets a card and pressie from me and my siblings because she is our mother. MIL gets a card and pressie from my DH and his siblings because she is their mother. I get a card and pressie from my children because I am their mother.

It's Mother's Day. The clue is in the title!

thedishwasherdoesntemptyitself · 09/03/2018 11:25

Nope. It's Mother's Day!

Teenytinyvoice · 09/03/2018 11:26

I gave to grandmas and to an aunt who had significant input in raising me. No harm in taking time to be thankful for important ppl in your life.

DammitPatrice · 09/03/2018 11:34

I don't do it as a matter of course, but have done in the past and am doing so this year - mainly because I had some cracking photos to put into a Moonpig card which I knew she would like.

CluedoAddict · 09/03/2018 11:36

Always do and great-grandmother too. We are a very cardy family.

JT05 · 09/03/2018 11:40

It’s Mothering Sunday, a celebration and appreciation of mothers of all generations. When those in service were allowed a gay off to visit their mothers and take flowers, usually gathered from the hedgerows.
Grandmothers day is an American commercial invention.

As a mother and grandmother I am delighted with a card and a bunch of flowers from DCs and DGCs. (I do not expect)

JT05 · 09/03/2018 11:40

*day not gay!

Spaghettio · 09/03/2018 11:51

I do, but with extenuating circumstances. I get a Mother's day card from the children for my late husbands mother. As he's not here, I didn't want her to feel she wasn't a mother anymore (can't rely on BIL to do anything). I do it this way because she's not my Mum, but she is a Mum and deserves recognition.

DammitPatrice · 09/03/2018 11:55

When those in service were allowed a gay off to visit their mothers

How times change...

windchimesabotage · 09/03/2018 11:59

I did it for my mum from my son but just because shes quite ill so im very inclined to have them bond while they can. I got him to draw round his hand and try and write something to her etc

Then I did it for my husbands mum from my son too because I thoughtd be a bit harsh doing it for mine and not her!!

So now I guess im going to have to do one every year for her haha!