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To ask if you give grandmothers "mothers day" cards from their grandchildren?

141 replies

rubyred84 · 07/03/2018 16:50

I haven't, I never have...i get my mum a gift and card from me, and my husband does the same for his mum. And my kids are helped with a card/gift for me. I should add, I never sent/was made to send my grandmother's cards or gifts on mothers day either.....is this a new thing? I get on well with my mum and MIL so would hate to think they are upset at not getting something from my kids if it's now the done thing, but it just never occurred to me as, well, they aren't my kids mum!

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callmeadoctor · 07/03/2018 18:39

If you were a woman who was unable to have children, wouldn't you be just slightly offended? Confused

HunterHearstHelmsley · 07/03/2018 18:39

Of course. Card and a box of chocs/bunch of flowers. Seems a bit mean not to.

happymummy12345 · 07/03/2018 18:39

Of course I do. Always have

PatchworkElmer · 07/03/2018 18:41

DS(1) made my Mum a card at toddler group.

CMOTDibbler · 07/03/2018 18:50

Nope, and I don't remind DH to do anything for his mum either

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 07/03/2018 18:54

I used to send my Step Mum a Mother's Day card from the DC. She had never had children but as my DM had died (many years before my DDad remarried) I couldn't bring myself to send a Mother's Day card from me as it was too painful. My SM was lovely so it seemed like a good compromise.

Footle · 07/03/2018 19:06

There is already a Grandmother's day in France. No one thinks it's 'weird'.

paulweller73Murielswedding · 07/03/2018 19:34

Only mothers get cards surely?

Aventurescence · 07/03/2018 19:45

We just sign one from all of us (me, DH, DS), one card for my mum, one for MIL. Like we would for birthdays or Xmas cards. I always thought that's what everyone does!

waterlily200 · 07/03/2018 20:20

We have one card 'to Mam' and it's signed from me, DH and kids. We do not get a specific Grandma one.

MIL was upset first year but me and DH agreed that it's Mothers Day not Grandmas day and he explained that to her. Also the card does include the kids names.

She's also miffed we don't see her on the day but we see her/my mam on the Saturday or as close as possible and we have a family day on Mothers Day. I'm really not a diva about my birthday or being 'spoilt' on Mothers Day but I don't want to spend it driving from house to house I just want to be with my kids so that's what we decided. This is something I expect I'll have to accept when my kids grow up. At the end of the day it's being grateful for your mam and showing that and it should not be dictated by a date in the calendar or require a hallmark card.

Decide how you want to do it and stick to it. :)

EnglishRose13 · 07/03/2018 20:33

I did for my own grandmothers.

I don't get my mother or MIL anything from my son. They've never questioned it. It's our choice.

Emboo19 · 07/03/2018 20:53

Yes, I make cards with dd for my mum and my grandmas and my great grandma. My parents always did from me to my grandmas and I still do now.
My Nana gets a card and bunch of daffodils from me, and has done every year since I was born.

Pinkprincess1978 · 07/03/2018 21:32

Nope. It's Mother's Day not granny's day. I feel quite strongly about it. We buy a present for mil and she gets a Mother's Day card which has all of our names on but she doesn't get a card just from our kids to Granny.

When they are going old enough to sort my present and card ourself and if they are lucky enough to still have granny around I will be put out if they bought her her as well - thanks for her kids to do.

EmmaJR1 · 09/03/2018 08:06

It's the first year for me and I have because both my mil and mum spend a lot of time with my son and help me with childcare and so on. My step mum lives far away so doesn't because it's not practical so I have just put my ds name in the card I sent her. I guess I'm just showing appreciation for the extra help I get above and beyond grandmothering if that makes sense?

Ohforfoxsakereturns · 09/03/2018 08:13

Yes, because to me being a mother is about passing forward. Although my own mum was a bit crap at times, I want to uphold the idea that motherhood is meaningful directly and indirectly.

SkaPunkPrincess · 09/03/2018 08:26

I do, simply because well, they like her and I don't.

MotherofDinosaurs · 09/03/2018 08:30

I get my toddler to scribble in my mum's card from me. She's thrilled with that.

bridgetreilly · 09/03/2018 09:23

No, no, no, no, no!

They get Mother's Day cards from their own children. That's it.

scortja · 09/03/2018 09:34

Check this out Mumsnet -

My MIL sends ME a card!

MargaretCavendish · 09/03/2018 09:41

Well this is the weirdest thread that I have ever read on here, the cards are for "Mothers Day" confused therefore are for Mothers!!! Getting one for Grandmother is just weird!

You obviously haven't looked very closely at the cards available at the moment - there are a lot of 'for gran on mother's day' cards available!

We always sent them to both my grandmothers from me and my brother. They're both no longer with us, but my mum has her first grandchild (my nephew) this mother's day and I expect she will be quietly disappointed if she doesn't get a card 'from' him, though she wouldn't ever say anything.

FinallyHere · 09/03/2018 09:42

my aunties who don’t have children too

Goodness, I'm child-free by choice and would be really, really uncomfortable receiving a mother's day card from .... well, from anyone really, why would anyone do that?

JaceLancs · 09/03/2018 09:47

I don’t think it’s a new thing I’m 50+ and DM always took me and DB to florist the day before Mothering Sunday to choose a bouquet for DGM we all used to attend church together on day and then go out for Sunday lunch so neither had to cook
My DC always get my DM a card and we usually buy flowers n chocs between us

Mammyloveswine · 09/03/2018 09:50

Yep... and great grandmas... and godmothers.. . Bloody extortionate! But it makes them happy!

Ive even made canvas footprint.gifts with the toddler and newborn this year... 🙈

FallenAngel89 · 09/03/2018 09:55

Yes. I think grandmothers do an amazing job too and deserve it. Mine certainly deserves it more than my actual Mother.

Fabellini · 09/03/2018 09:58

I did this for Mil last year and will again this year - a grandmothers card from my two dcs.
That’s because dh, her son, died, and Mothers Day must be very difficult for her now.