Are you expecting OH to do something for you on Mother's Day

[TheRealCinderella]

So it will be my first Mother's Day as a Mum on Sunday, I've told OH that I'm expecting a card flowers and a cuppa in bed while he gets up with LO, he says I'm not his mother why would he get me a gift! I do 99% of the childcare alone as he works away and I think I've made it clear to him that it's important to me and I'm hoping he will do something.....is this unreasonable? Does your OH do anything for you?

My DH does but he knows I would fall out with him if he didn't.

My kids nursery make cards with the kids too.

Unfortunately my DH is working on Mother's Day, my DM isn't with us anymore. So my plans is a little "house party" with my kids. Picnic foods, some music on the radio etc. Just a chill day with lots of cuddles

I really hope your OH pulls his finger out and does something nice to let you know what a great mum you are to his baby. for you!

It's my first mothers day too and I'm super anxious that my DH wont do anything - I'll be gutted!

Also i would never turn down a chance to celebrate my awesome parenting skills!

Cant get worked up about another hallmark card day. Always thought it was supposed to be children showing their appreciation for their mothers, so not sure what the point is if the children are to young to know or care. And when they are old enough to show they care I want it to be spontaneous and regular not because an advert told them to.

I am not my OH's mum, so no.

I was buying a card today for my mum and saw that they had "to my wife on Mothers Day" cards. What the actual wotsit?

I give one to my mum. DH gives one to his mum. I get one from DS. That's how it works.

No presents and no overpriced meals out in restaurants full of other peoples kids. I do get my mum a present but don't live close enough to go out anyway but if I did, we'd go out the weekend before or after when it's normal prices and decent food.

Mother's Day often falls on, or very close to, my birthday and it's really annoying. I really feel for people whose birthdays are Feb 14th!

my DH spoils me on mothers day, just like I do for him on fathers day, we provide cards / gifts from our DS (6) and treat each other to lunch to celebrate each others special day together.

yes my DH is excellent at thingns like that (far more so than i, a cynical old miser ) and he's organised something on behalf of our 10 mo which is really sweet but (to me!) totally unnecessary so i have to remember to try hard when FD comes around

I agree with most of you especially the ones who think he should I'm not his mother no.....that would be weird, and also incest. What I'm saying is until DD has the ability to do something herself I want him to show his appreciation for mothering his child. I love her to bits, she's amazing but she's also very demanding and hard work, she's 10 months old and I have not had more than a few hours unbroken sleep since been heavily pregnant, she still wakes up to BF at least 3 times a night. A little thank you for doing it as good as alone as he works out of town. I don't think that's a lot to ask of your OH. Once DD is old enough to make me a card I will be more than happy with that and probably save all of them forever. I'm sentimental like that but he's not.

It's going to be my first Mother's Day too and I would be gutted to not get anything! I've told my DP that I expect a card and anything else is a bonus really as I don't need lavish gifts just a card, cuddle and a cup of tea will do. Fingers crossed our first Mother's Day will be wonderful

Fingers crossed for all of you who are hoping for something

My husband gets the kids to make me a card and he also asks what I would like as a gift.

Most years my answer has been a tidy house and him having to keep the kids out of my hair for the day.

Can he not at least hand make a card with your LO? Using their two painted footprints to make a heart shape, or something else along those lines.

@neverhadanymarblestolose a card like that would be perfect, so perfect that I might even make it myself for a keepsake haha

YANBU and yes my DH does lots,I'll get breakfast in bed and presents and cards that he's have taken the DC to pick,he'll most probably take us out somewhere for the day(its always a surprise but always somewhere I love)and we'll have lunch whislt were out,he will do all of the housework and cook a lovely meal for dinner.

He's alway done lots for me on Mothers Day and I do lots for him on Fathers Day,I think it's a nice way of showing your OH that you appreciate how much they do for the children.

@TheRealCinderella Do it! You'll have something lovely to treasure. And if he makes no fuss of you on Mother's day, make sure you return the favour on Father's day. As it will either make him realise he was being unreasonable, or if he really doesn't care about the day, it'll have saved any wasted effort on your part.

You know I never thought I was that bothered by it, kids made cards when they were really little and my husband would buy chocolates or some such and I thought it was nice but wasn't fussed. Until last year when he didn't do anything, not even a lay in and when I went on FB and saw all my friends with their flowers and gifts and organised meals out and some such I suddenly found myself feeling unappreciated and upset.

I think it's not the gifts etc it's just something to acknowledge that we are appreciated. As it is mothers Sunday I'll be up early and out to karate training before 9am anyway but it's nice to have some thought.

Your first one is special I think.

It's a bit heartless that he isn't going to make it nice for you.

It's my DDs first one, we're doing spa day on Saturday (With dgd) and also lunch on Sunday.

Could your Mum help arrange something? You can make it a generational Mothers day.

I have bought DD2 a card from her fur babies as well. Cost 89p but the thought counts I think.

Yes, he said the same "you're not my mother" to begin with but I've trained him over the years, mainly by making a fuss of him on Father's Day.

YANBU at the very least I would expect a card from your baby (but really from him) Its his responsibility to encourage the child to celebrate mothers day just as its yours to encourage the child to do fathers day. I think that is reasonable.
Well done on clearly expressing what you expected.

My husband would completely ignore all of this if left to his own devices but I do think its actually really important not for the parents so much but for the child. Same as other celebrations like easter and pancake day and stuff. My DH would ignore them all but I think these things are a really important part of childhood and kids miss out because most other kids will be celebrating them in this country and have memories associated with them.
I used to love making the cards for my parents on mothers and fathers day as a child. I would not have known which day to do it on etc if I hadnt been encouraged by a parent so it is important for a parent to remind and help the child.

NRTWT but I’m lucky in that DH always sorts stuff for significant days. DD is 16 now and has sorted stufff herself for a few years but enjoys choosing with dad.

She’s away this year but usually brings me a coffee / breakfast - one year she got all upset as she’d tried to make us a cooked breakfast as a surprise but couldn’t do the eggs (she was only 9 to be fair).

if your OH won’t listen to you, would your MIL be able to have a word?

Hope he does step up but if not have some and from me for being a fab mum

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Exh will send flowers from the youngest two and the dog . I know he doesn't have to anymore than I don't have to organise cards and a gift for him on Father's Day but we do it because whilst we might not live together anymore we do try to continue to parent together.

If the child is not able to sort out a gift, maybe because the child is a baby or toddler then yes, I think the father should sort a little something out.
BUT, if the child is at nursery or primary school then they usually do create something in class

During secondary school dad could drop hint to child that mums day was coming and can he help.

But I honestly don't see why fathers/partners should celebrate it...isn't that what Valentine's Day is for?

I’m spending mother’s day with my stepmum, organising my dad’s funeral while trying to stop my mum (divorced dad over 30 years ago) trying to make his sudden death about her. I will also be 200 miles from my own children. I’d actually like none of this to be happening and to be with my children.

Yes I’m heartbroken and unreasonable. Enjoy your children, and I hope it’s a nice day for you.