Unwanted, self invited, house guest. How to refuse?

[LaceandChintz]

The AIBU is is it mean of me to say no to this.?
My cousin has been invited to a party nearish my home town (about 200 miles from his home). He has asked if he and his wife can stay with us. Normally I’d say yes and enjoy a rare catch-up. However this weekend coincides with a very rare, and I mean first time in several years, that dh and I will have the weekend to ourselves. No kids (woohoo!), no work (yay!). He asked a while ago and I said really sorry, explained that we had plans as kids all away etc, really sorry.
He’s now asked again, thinking by plans we mean we are away and asking if they can stay in our house and bring own breakfast etc.. as hotels are expensive, completely missing the point. We aren’t going anywhere. We might stay in, but might go to a grown-up restaurant or a late film. We don’t want to be waiting for house guests to come in (the party is some distance from here, about an hour by public transport so they could be really late).We don’t want to have to get up to host breakfast. We might not want to get up at all.
We have a busy family and working life and I love it. But I am so looking forward to this weekend.
Am I being unreasonable not letting them stay? And if not, how do I spell it out to them?
Thanks for your help.

[MyOtherProfile]

Thistlebelle you forgot to mention that OP and DH will be swinging naked from the chandeliers which may embarrass cousin and his dw.

[Thistlebelle]

Well, I was trying to be delicate...

[theramengirl]

OP, YANBU at all. You have done the right thing.

If it's me, I would have taken the chance to use the weekend to get away and cozy up in a nice little B and B and give the house my cuz to stay - but ONLY if the cousin was very close to me. But that's me, always looking for an opportunity to travel.

[AimeeNoOneTheSamee]

Glad it got resolved OP. Try and get extinctspecies address as it sounds like they could stay there.

[extinctspecies]

Aimee I'm always happy to help out distant members of my family by hosting them when they are visiting my part of the country.

And I'm glad to say they are usually happy to reciprocate.

I guess that's just me though! Peace & Love.

[profile22]

Stick to your plans and enjoy them 👍 He shouldn’t have asked again. You’re busy, it’s not your fault hotels are expensive. You are not being unreasonable. It’s a rare weekend, and of course you don’t want to waste it 👍

[ralfeesmum]

If this cousin chappy believes the old saying "blood is thicker than water" then it's time he was proved wrong.

Cheeky sod!

[RubyFlint]

I haven’t RTFT but the title immediately brought the Mr Fussy story to mind where his long lost cousin Mr Messy rocks up to stay for ‘a day/a week/a month’

[TeknoGran]

You could just give them a key and let them get on with it. Make it clear you have plans and they will be left to their own devices.

[TheCatsMother44]

@TeknoGran but that would defeat the point of the OP wanting a weekend to themselves in their own house.

[SissySpacekAteMyHamster]

Recently had a child free night and enjoyed meal out and obviously lots of noisy sex. No way would I have wanted visitors over, even if they were just looking after themselves!

Have some posters forgotten what it's like to be child free???? So very rare in our house!

[TeknoGran]

True but you never know - may need to stay with them sometime

[Bettercallsaul1]

Ruby I remember that one! Mr Messy arrives and wrecks the place, and after Mr Fussy waves him a relieved "goodbye", Mr Clumsy arrives instead. I still read these books in my dreams

[RubyFlint]

Bettercall yes me too, and to my DD!