To feel mortified yet angry?

[lils888]

I often walk around in shorts and a crop top at home, I do on and off exercises all day as soon as I get the chance so don't want the hassle of having to change.

My neighbour has just stopped whilst I was emptying bins and told me that herself and DP can see through my window sometimes and maybe I should put some more layers on. I have nets up but no curtains or blinds. Maybe popping out emptying bins in small clothing is U? I've never even considered it!

I am so embarrassed she said something yet so pissed off feels she has the right too. I've gone all self conscious that they are now going to be monitoring my clothing for levels of appropriateness.

So do I layer up or go out naked next time?

Wear what you like well done on working hard to achieve your perfect body that you are happy with - sounds like the neighbour is jealous to me

I would put one of those frosted things over my window. Light would not be hampered and they won't see you. I agree with moving your lamp in front of the window too.

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No way. Your home. I would specifically walk around naked all day to make a point. What are they so scared of? I hate this shit. Tell them not to look. Mind their own beeswax!

OH, brilliant 888, I bet you look fab. Maybe put on a lovely swishy long evening gown and a tiara going to the bins next time, see if the nosy neighbours notice that .
I am over 70 now, and did a few aerobic exercises this morning, right next to my radiator in the bedroom, and nobody noticed me at all, but my three cats ran off as I woke them all up.

Wear what you like, and keep up the good work,

"My neighbour has just stopped whilst I was emptying bins and told me that herself and DP can see through my window sometimes and maybe I should put some more layers on."

Do what you like, put layers on, don't put layers on. If she mentions it again I think I would just smile and say something like "I'm on a keep fit regime these are my exercise clothes."

Don't feel mortified and don't feel you need to justify what you do in your own home. They should not be looking in your windows. But as they are neighbours and neighbour feuds are bad, I'd not saying mean.

Best case scenario, maybe she meant it kindly and felt you would want to know.

Good grief! You should wander around in a shiny, plastic Mac, looking into your own windows and then tell her that she must have been looking very hard into your house, and tell her to fuck off.
Honestly - you are wrangling work, a baby and ADHD in a HEALTHY way! I bet those who are bitching about it have wide, flat arses from being online for 22hrs a day. Keep at it, kiddo!

My bet: her lovely partner has been looking in your windows.... She needs to keep her husband's peepers away from your windows...

Wear what you like....

I lived in a very straight laced area once....the sort of place where full business attire/makeup to go to the dustbins... It amused me to be childish to wander outside to the bins /clean the car in fancy dress.... My, people were nosey 😁😁😁

lils888 I’m sorry to hear that, but heartened that you’ve turned a bad experience into a kick-ass one. This is my year of transformation, I’ve lost a stone since January 1 and started training for a triathlon this summer. I work FT and have three kids so I have lots of excuses why I can’t do more working out - but you’re inspiring me! Typically I do a 5:30am workout but I’ve been a little slack recently...

Im always so late getting in on chat but as a mum of 4 who does exercise everyday when you get to that point where you feel good and confident you need to just say sod it! shes jealous and carry on doing whatever you want to in your own home if you wanted to do squats and lunges with a cupless bra and crotchless knickers you could its your bloody house and they can go look in a different direction! We are always having problems with our neighbours and i dont have any nets but they are always looking in and i just stick my middle finger up at them!! It works everytime.

Don't cover up, it's fine. In your home you can do what you want, walk round naked if you wish. Tell them to stop looking through your windows....
I remember we had this problem years and years ago when I was younger (and married), a neighbour told me they could see my husband in his underpants. We thought it amusing and DH (at the time) spent the next few mornings standing totally naked at the window for a bit. They never said anything again!

OP, you haven't really got a clothes and neighbours issue but you DO have an exercise one. 6 hours a day just to feel pleased with the way you look mean that you have issues that's what I would be concentrating on.

Your house. Your body. Your time. Knock on their door and say "I've given alot of thought to your feedback & I wouldn't want you feeling embarrased whilst you are watching me in my house. So can I suggest that when you notice me training, you pull your curtains".
Carry on with what you are doing, it's your life

wow how intrusive. why are they looking into your home anyway? personally i'd look at more opaque netting. or one of those films you can put on glass. i'd do it if it were just one room they could see into. but hell, you shouldn't have to or feel the need to. it's none of their fucking business.

good on you 888
run my dogs and do weights to keep ocd and insomnia down.
friend gave me this after watching a store clerk try to put his nose down my shirt.
after the first wearing he avoided me.sorry couldn't find a better version to post

Fuck her. It's your body and your home. You have nothing to feel ashamed about.

I say you can wear whatever you want. It doesn't sound like you're skipping around outside in a Borat thong which just skims your nipples.

I would be concerned about any friend of mine who told me they were exercising for 6 hours a day though and that it was partly in response to having nearly been assaulted. Have you dealt with that? Would you struggle emotionally if you suddenly had to cut down your exercising to an hour a day? Basically, are you ok?

Ask cf neighbour if, while they were spying on you, they noticed where you put your peephole, crotchless , studded S&M outfit that you wore on Friday as you've forgotten

I often walk around topless... And we have no nets... If they look, it's tough!

I know how you feel. A few years back, when I was in my 20's, we went on holiday to the Caribbean. An elderly couple where staying downstairs from us and one night the woman had a right go at me and said "please put on some knickers". Apparently I was going al fresco on the balcony and every time she and her DH looked up they got an eyeful.

I too was embarrassed and angry that I couldn't go commando on holiday

OP, you haven't really got a clothes and neighbours issue but you DO have an exercise one. 6 hours a day just to feel pleased with the way you look mean that you have issues that's what I would be concentrating on.

RTFT. She's not going it for how her body looks, but how she feels i.e. fit, strong, capable, not scared of being overpowered by a potential rapist again. Anyone doing competitive endurance sports e.g. marathons, triathlons, naturally wants their body at it's peak which is what the OP is doing. She also does part of this exercise as her work.

Wtf ? That’s so rude I’d point out they shouldn’t be looking! Typical British prudish attitudes 🤦‍♀️

Ignore your neighbour and some of the twats on here.
Your house so wear whatever you like and do whatever you want.

If neighbour mentions it again tell her that and to stop being a peeping tom or you'll have to report it to Police.

I think judging people on something like the clothes they choose to wear in their own home is fairly lacking in class

You work out 6 hours a day and have a hot bod. Well done you. Sounds like your neighbour is a teeny bit jealous when she sees you around and doesn't want her partner looking at you.

I'd be online ordering a Daisy Duke outfit just to piss her off even more.

I think I'd put a sign up somewhere they can only see if being nosey saying "it's rude to stare!"