To feel mortified yet angry?

[lils888]

I often walk around in shorts and a crop top at home, I do on and off exercises all day as soon as I get the chance so don't want the hassle of having to change.

My neighbour has just stopped whilst I was emptying bins and told me that herself and DP can see through my window sometimes and maybe I should put some more layers on. I have nets up but no curtains or blinds. Maybe popping out emptying bins in small clothing is U? I've never even considered it!

I am so embarrassed she said something yet so pissed off feels she has the right too. I've gone all self conscious that they are now going to be monitoring my clothing for levels of appropriateness.

So do I layer up or go out naked next time?

Just get some curtains and be done with it.

No advice about the peeping tom, but good for you for prioritizing your health. I wish I had half of your determination and energy!

Just curious - what does your 2 hour consist of? Ive just done some circuits followed by a core workout but that only took 45 mins!! What do you do for that time ??

Oh and don't be embarrassed or change what you are doing - it is their issue!

I don’t like curtains either OP.

I think you should take up yoga... and lose the clothes.

@iloveruby it changes but the basic routine I tend to follow is

20 minutes warm up

30 minutes strength

Short break

10 minutes HIIT

30 minutes calm cardio

Cool down

Then try not to die for a while after that. It's taken me a while to get to 2 hours though. The midday is usually Pilates/kickboxing/yoga so is a lot calmer

And then I PT in the evenings or do organised running sessions so again that's calmer.

I really don't go crazy for 6 hours, but it all contributes to my exercise for the day. Maybe I should say 4 hours a day, but if Im tracking it I tend to class it as exercise

@MrsGloop it wasn't initially for my health. After narrowly escaping what could have been an awful sexual attack I vowed to get fitter and stronger. Feeling weak underneath a man and begging for your legs to move faster would give anyone determination.

Finding out it then really toned down by ADHD was an amazing bonus as well as the confidence in myself and now I could never give it up.

When I say "this body" I don't mean in a sexy way, in fact many men often comment on how unsexy it is for women to look like me.

This body is strong, resilient and is the result of hard work.

This body is strong, resilient and is the result of hard work.

looks down at middle aged spread, while brushing biscuit crumbs off top 😢 I remember having a body like that. I loved doing weights. I still have that body, but it’s hidden under fat. 😊😁

Reading this made me think of a post about a woman's next door neighbour asking her to stop putting her underwear on the washing line so it didn't embarrass her husband. Does anyone remember it or have I imagined it.

Yes I remember it @annechristmas!!

Good for you @lils888 - that is what I aspire to!

• posted too soon.....aspire to have a strong resilient body.

Naked yoga no net curtains?

Don’t get people thinking “stealth boast”

We have no way of knowing who the OP is or what she looks like. It makes no sense!!

Good on you OP. Ignore your neighbour. It will be jealousy.

My vote is that her husband was peeping and she wanted to let you know without actually telling you. We had a similar experience years ago when a neighbor offered us curtains because ours weren’t closed. He under up being done for some unsavoury crimes that make you very thankful that from then on the curtains were closed.

I do have a lamp on most of the day. That's probably making it seem like I'm putting on a show - I'm really not meaning too. It's so damn dark through, I hate the idea of them perving or even just feeling uncomfortable.

If you want to, you could move the lamp. A light behind you, at the back of the room, with you between the lamp and the window, means everyone can see you lit up like a Christmas tree! But if you put the lamp in front of the window, so you're behind the lamp, further back in the room (am I making sense?!) that will give you a bit more privacy but keeping the light.

OP - you really don't need to justify or explain your day and workout routine to people. Well done for taking sexual assault and ADHD and doing something to make you feel better

I think what your neighbour actually was saying was "I don't like catching my husband peeking at you in your tiny clothes because it makes me feel threatened which is a personal problem I've now decided to take out on you."

Or he may not even be peeking at you but merely looked out his own window and she's just one of those low self-esteem reading too much into things types.

I wouldn't change how you dress in your own home.

She's just jealous, ignore her and continue to do what is good for you.

Dh has ADHD and does a similar amount of exercise, if not more (most of it is work, though) and it makes the difference between him being happy and chilled out and being climbing up the walls.

It's only when he's doing push-ups in the breakfast room while I'm trying to cook that I get annoyed about it...

lils888

"Yes I just want to impress strangers with my workout routine - because no other person in the world works out like I do."

I knew it! 🙄🤣

Get one of these, and stand in front of the window while wearing it.

@Liara yes I've also been known to annoy others around me with it. But they prefer it to my super speedy,never ending talking about pure nonsense so just put up with it

@LeighaJ I also just came on mumsnet to boast about my super bod and make all the mummies feel bad that they don't have the energy (or the ADHD) to keep up 🙄

@ToadOfSadness And that is one crop top that's being added to the collection, ta!

Buy a very beautiful bikini. Exercise in this, also do housework. Curtains wide open. If they're going to look then make it worth looking!