To feel mortified yet angry?

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I often walk around in shorts and a crop top at home, I do on and off exercises all day as soon as I get the chance so don't want the hassle of having to change.

My neighbour has just stopped whilst I was emptying bins and told me that herself and DP can see through my window sometimes and maybe I should put some more layers on. I have nets up but no curtains or blinds. Maybe popping out emptying bins in small clothing is U? I've never even considered it!

I am so embarrassed she said something yet so pissed off feels she has the right too. I've gone all self conscious that they are now going to be monitoring my clothing for levels of appropriateness.

So do I layer up or go out naked next time?

Houses are, not housemate

6 hours of exercise a day with a DC in nappies?

Ok.

You can wear what the hell you like in your own home. They are beyond cheeky for mentioning it and ought to be embarrassed that they have been looking.

That said I am a bit concerned that I hoover naked because I am peri-menopausal and get too hot and sweaty in clothes. I had nets and assumed that nobody could see. Shit.

Actually, get a load of sexy mates, in shorts and tops, around and exercise in the garden. He’ll either be rushed off in an ambulance or divorced by the end of it. 🤣

If you wanted to wear an aqualung and a feather boa its got sod all to do with them..Nosy cow,

A similar thing has happened to me but I live in a little housing estate thirty years old. It was a ''new build mafia in 1985 so you can imagine the older couples officiously coming round to warn me that they saw my son naked in our sitting room. I said yes he's in his own house though. They warned me that paedophiles might get him because he changed from his pjs to his uniform and was naked for five seconds without pulling the curtains. Sigh.

Also, couple that back on to me are offended that I don't shower in the dark as they can see my silhouette when I shower. (Window is frosted)

Our neighbours have a bathroom window facing our kitchen. When they have the light on in the bathroom we can see in. It’s frosted glass but you can tell from the shape who is in there and what they are doing. I’ve often wondered if we should say something but I’ve never done it. I just close the blind.

I do have to confess to doing the washing up slowly by hand when my very good looking male neighbour does his drills in shorts. ☺️

You don't need to justify why you spend your days in shorts and a cropped top. You're in your own home. Unless you're prancing back and fourth in front of the windows with nothing on, your neighbours need to wind their necks in.

Ugh no, it's your house, you've got nets up, she shouldn't be looking, silly woman.

Oh, fuck 'em.

While I agree that you can wear what you want, I am very much of the school of thought that if you have your lights on and no curtains closed you cant be pissed off when people look into your living room!

I quite enjoy a good nose when I am walking at night, especially as I know they cant see me! But I wouldnt be knocking on their doors telling them off for what they are doing. Perhaps I should though, then the bloke down the road would realise that we can see his porn! He sits on the sofa with his back to the window, curtains open, surfing porn on his lap top!

"and told me that herself and DP can see through my window sometimes"

ie "My husband always looks in at you when we go past and I dont like it." Next time go on for ages about the health benefits and give her your PT business card!

Tell them to stop looking in through your windows! its your own house wear what you want

But I wouldnt be knocking on their doors telling them off for what they are doing.

That is the crux of it, isn't it? This neighbour needs to get a life.

Look all you want, don't need to tell me off.

5-7am - baby wakes up at 7.30

Then one ties in with his midday nap.

Then I work in the evening, maybe sometimes attend a class.

Is it really crazy to believe? If it makes our feel better to pretend I don't do it then fine. But it's my hobby, I enjoy it.

You'd never believe my pre marathon training schedule 😂

Cheeky bastards! I go around naked in my house, I don't give a shit if someone doesn't like the view. Although it'd be more grim if they did like it luckily I'm fat and old so unlikely. I do shut my curtains at night though. If you put a light on inside you're lit up like an advertisement board, nets or no nets. In conclusion, I'd tell them to get to fuck. Also well done on your fitness and body confidence, you've worked really hard and you should feel awesome about it, I'm glad you do.

I don't find your workouts hard to believe at all, I'd do that too if I thought my body could cope with it

I did once look at PT training, but not because I wanted it as a job, just because I heard it was a really great thing to do

anyway, if she has to look quite hard to see through the net curtains, she's a strange lady

or maybe she fancies you and is scared she'll be that guy in American Beauty.

I just think 6 hours a day is a lot to spend on anything be it exercising or needlework. I work 2 days a wk, 7 hours each day, I struggle to do much else except maybe see a friend on those days. Granted i’m
lazy!

@SomeKnobend I do have a lamp on most of the day. That's probably making it seem like I'm putting on a show - I'm really not meaning too. It's so damn dark through, I hate the idea of them perving or even just feeling uncomfortable.

I'm just annoyed she said something, hate on me all you want, but don't shame me. It's the equivalent of wearing PJs. Although I'm sure if I was sat in my PJs all day I'd be equally judged

I have ADHD, the exercise is crucial to me controlling that. 6 hours a day leaves me with 8 hours in my day. Trying not to be accused of drip feeding but I wasn't aware the workout would be on trial

On a more serious note I remember getting told at school to try & keep curtains closed if lights on at night etc when doing things as it can attract stalkers who see it as a form of communication. However this might be outdated advice & OP i’m not for a second saying this could happen to you.

Could you offer them a complementary training session to 'apologise' ?