Friend on benefits and holidays

[Happybunny1994]

Not really a friend but someone I know is on benefits. She got one child with her partner and works part time. On a recent night out she mentioned holidays said that she was planning on going to Mexico this year and maybe spain. she then was moaning that her benefits have been cut and will struggle to pay her rent. She’s been on holiday 3 times last year all paid for buy herself to far flung expensive places. I was slightly drunk and mentioned that if she was able to go on holiday and pay her rent previously maybe she could not go on holiday and use that money to pay her rent. She got all defensive saying that she dosnt use the benefits to pay for her holidays. That she uses her wages to pay for them and did I think she shouldn’t be entitled to holidays. She also buys a lot of nice clothes all the time expensive nights out. I know I shouldn’t of said anything but I spent years not being able to afford a holiday while on minimum wage so maybe a little resentful

No one is saying it isn't enough. But she is paying a £1000 back in debt a month, so is asking for help with her budget.

I know maintenence shouldnt be taken intonaccount but given the scenario of to women on income support with 2 young kids. One gets 500 pm and the other nil in maintenence, that seems vastly unfair on the last one.
Why does pur country pay twice to raise kids so men can choose if they can be arsed to contribute or not.
Rather than benefit bashing and focusing on who shouldnt get what change the focus and ask why is it not a criminal offence for a non resident parent to leave the family home and fail to make sure their kids have food and shelter. If resident parents-most usually the mother-did that, they would be done for neglect.
Stop parents being able to shirk responsibilities to provide for their kids just because they want to move into a home with someone elses. Whether you get maintenence or not often boils down on if they have met a new partner or not.
This should get the criticism, not single mothers who are stuck dependent on the state.

And tax credits, which can admittedly be a large amount from the outside, are given by a government who would rather leave people in poverty (this isnt just financial-living in a shit area and poor education/work prospects) reliant, than make employers pay a living wage which means everyone is better off working, and that opportunity for progression exists.
For those who say working pays, YOU wait 8weeks for first paycheck paid in arrears on a 0hrs contract, taking payslips into housing benefit every week waiting for the freezed account to pay. Receiving letters of eviction, having to use foodbanks and struggling to find a childcare provider to have the kids for the weeks and weeks it takes to get WTC. Plus paying your prepayment meter so you can run a microwave and light. Having your milk tokens and free school meals withdrawn before you've had your first pay.
So fuck off to the patronising bastards slagging off those in the precarious position at the bottom, because under it all the situation is shit, and furthermore those single mums cannot even have a partner cohabiting, because to do that would require a new partner to pay for another man's kids which, lets face it, in the dregs of society no man is able or willing to do. And why should they. Maintenence non-payment should be punishable by law.

some men seem to pay for others children but cant be arsed supporting their own