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AIBW to suspect that FWB has stolen my jewellery?

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Oakleygirl · 03/03/2018 22:27

Feeling really upset this evening....my FWB (of 7 months) appears to have stolen an expensive bracelet of mine. I left it at his last time I stayed there (3 weeks ago) and thought nothing of it as I imagined I would just get it back the next time we saw each other.....however, since then he has made arrangements to see me three times and then cancelled at the last minute.

I was supposed to see him tonight, never heard from him to confirm so messaged him just after 5 to ask what time to go over. He read message but didn't reply. I messaged again a couple of hours later to say I guessed he was busy but would need to pick up my bracelet and would knock when passing his to get it.

I went to his, (his car was outside) and called to ask him to pop out with the bracelet. It went to voicemail so I left a message asking if he could bring it out to me. He didn't so I knocked on the door, he didnt answer. He has now turned his phone off!

I am gutted as it was a present and he knows this. Can't believe he would do this, but what else can I think?

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FreeNiki · 03/03/2018 22:31

Maybe he is avoiding you as he met someone?

How much is this bracelet worth? If it was a very valuable bracelet I doubt you would have left it. If it isnt valuable why steal it?

Send him a clear message saying you're coming to get it or you'll consider it stolen and see what he does.

Neverender · 03/03/2018 22:32

What's an WFB?

Neverender · 03/03/2018 22:32

FWB?

Neverender · 03/03/2018 22:32

BFW?

FreeNiki · 03/03/2018 22:33

FWB is a friends with benefits.

Someone you sleep with but not on a relationship.

4men1lady · 03/03/2018 22:33

Friends with benefits

Neverender · 03/03/2018 22:34

Either way, he sounds like an arse unless he has a good reason for not answering.

Neverender · 03/03/2018 22:35

I'd still expect an answer, like a friend would answer. Simples.

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Oakleygirl · 03/03/2018 22:39

Free it's worth over £200 and I left it by mistake as I rarely wear it and forgot I had it on that day. I talk to him regularly on Whatsapp, we are friends first, benefits secondary... or so I thought. He's known I've wanted the bracelet back for a couple of weeks. Sad

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Nicknacky · 03/03/2018 22:41

Has he acknowledged that he has it? He might not have been home when you went round.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 03/03/2018 22:42

Bet he's ghosted you because the fucker's sold it Angry

FreeNiki · 03/03/2018 22:44

In that case I'd message him and say you want it back or you'll consider it stolen and inform the authorities.

SoleBizzz · 03/03/2018 22:45

His other FWB stole it.

Tapandgo · 03/03/2018 22:46

Report theft to police

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Oakleygirl · 03/03/2018 22:48

Nick he acknowledge he had it last week. Im pretty sure he was in as his car was outside and he doesn't walk or do public transport, and the sod turned his phone off after I'd called him.

Take that's what I'm worried about, but he was chatting on Whatsapp as normal in the week?? None of this makes sense...don't want to think he's sold it but if not, why ignore my messages/calls today?

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Nicknacky · 03/03/2018 22:48

It’s far too soon to report it to the police ffs.

Nicknacky · 03/03/2018 22:48

He might have been out, completely possible.

Armadillostoes · 03/03/2018 22:50

Maybe send him a text and ask directly whether he has met someone else and is feeling awkward, OR there is some issue with the bracelet? Then if no sensible answer is made, you can tell him that you consider it stolen and will take appropriate action. It could be that he isn't interested in the bracelet either way, but is with another woman and doesn't want any embarrassment. That would still be horrible, but at least you might get your bracelet back with a bit of pestering.

PigletJohn · 03/03/2018 22:51

Why is it too soon?

Perhaps I have a suspicious nature, but from reading the thread it seems to me he has pocketed it, and probably no longer has it, having either sold or regifted it.

Was it gold?i

ThisLittleKitty · 03/03/2018 22:52

I doubt the police would even entertain this tbh.

ArchchancellorsHat · 03/03/2018 22:52

No but if he's ignoring calls and switching his phone off, it's not too soon to tell him you might tell the police. Though I'd probably tell him to drop it off at my house first, since presumably you want to keep the friendship.

Could he have had someone else round at the time - a date, maybe? Would explain most of that.

C0untDucku1a · 03/03/2018 22:53

Is he seeng anyone?

Willswife · 03/03/2018 22:53

Give him 48 hours to arrange the return of the bracelet or you will report it to the Police as theft.

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Oakleygirl · 03/03/2018 22:55

I suppose it's possible he was out, but it's the fact that he turned his phone off after I called that worries me. I've messaged to ask him nicely to return it to me, he'll get that message when he turns his phone back on.....then I think I will give it a day or two and if he doesn't contact me about it, I suppose I will have no choice than to report it stolen.......and you think you know someone. Sad. I knew him for over a year before we became FWB.....gutted.

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 03/03/2018 22:57

It cost £200 he'd be lucky to get £50 at the pawnshop so doubt he would risk a friendship/shag for £50...he's just being a dick.