AIBW to suspect that FWB has stolen my jewellery?

[Oakleygirl]

Feeling really upset this evening....my FWB (of 7 months) appears to have stolen an expensive bracelet of mine. I left it at his last time I stayed there (3 weeks ago) and thought nothing of it as I imagined I would just get it back the next time we saw each other.....however, since then he has made arrangements to see me three times and then cancelled at the last minute.

I was supposed to see him tonight, never heard from him to confirm so messaged him just after 5 to ask what time to go over. He read message but didn't reply. I messaged again a couple of hours later to say I guessed he was busy but would need to pick up my bracelet and would knock when passing his to get it.

I went to his, (his car was outside) and called to ask him to pop out with the bracelet. It went to voicemail so I left a message asking if he could bring it out to me. He didn't so I knocked on the door, he didnt answer. He has now turned his phone off!

I am gutted as it was a present and he knows this. Can't believe he would do this, but what else can I think?

And my argument was just that-in a relationship those things are unacceptable.

True

Also true that once you're a married sahm financially dependant on a man who becomes an arsehole later on, it isn't that simple to just leave.

So unacceptable things in a relationship often have to be tolerated.

Well free if we are seeing it in black and white then it could also be argued that since women have learned that serious relationships are not in their best interests, then they are conditioned only to be grateful for scraps

I don't know how to explain this any clearer. I could have a relationship if I wanted. Choosing not to but having a sexual partner isn't "settling for scraps".

I hope my daughter grows up knowing she is wirth mor

I hope my daughter grows up knowing that there are very many ways one can be happy, and the traditional route is just one of them.

Having a FWB isn't about "worth" - it is simply about choice. Why is that difficult to understand?

I don't have a daughter but if I had one I hope she'd grow up not being a judgy arsehole. Being in a conventional relationship isn't morally superior in any way. Some people choose to live differently. I do not understand why you cannot accept that we're not "grateful for scraps" - this is something we are choosing. I have been married before and I am happier now than I was then.

The beauty of life is that we are all different. Just because you might not understand how others live doesn't give you any right to criticise it. You sound really bitter and that you don't like the idea of women having fun.

Fact is, you left your bracelet somewhere, which probably has a fair bit of footfall, anyone could have swiped it. Probably his next shag.

Was just re reading the thread and realised I’d somehow missed that particular pearl.

What the hell happened to some of you?! Genuinely what?

@starlight your attitude is bizarre. Also, nobody is saying his behaviour with the bracelet is acceptable!

Also, there was one occasion my FWB hinted he wanted to maybe make it a bit more serious. Guess what? I said NO! Because I made my own free choice that I don't want him in that way. Not because I'm "conditioned to be grateful for scraps" or whatever other rubbish you're spouting. He offered me a relationship and I turned it down because all I want from him is sex and hangouts. And sometimes I ignore his messages for days if I can't be bothered to talk (to be fair I do that to everyone if I'm in a particularly miserable mood and don't feel like talking). So who's settling for less in that situation?

@starlight seems to think that women put up with sex for the rest of the benefits of a relationship... with that mentality comes all that weird stuff about being ejaculate into & what you're "worth".

Very 1950s.