Girl ordering beer on first date

[PollyMolly1234]

What are your thoughts about this?

I am 50.
I am sitting here despairing that in 2018 women are asking questions like this.
WTF was the point on me going on all those sodding marches and having all those rows with people who told me 'girls don't', 'girls can't'

I'm a beer fan. I say start as you mean to go on...

I do think it looks blokey

Bloody hell, I need a pint, of anything!!!!

Agree that so long as it's a real ale not a crappy lager then it's fine!

If you have to drink halves not pints because you feel he would judge id say he's not the man for you.

MIL ordered and drank stout on her first date with FIL and he wasn't put off. FIL's dad was apparently so impressed when he heard that he told FIL that she was a 'keeper', and they've been married for over 40 years now.

Anyone who cares that much about what you drink (unless you're an alcoholic, which I presume you're not) probably adheres to some very rigid gender stereotypes and really needs to give their head a wobble.

You all have it completely wrong and are all behind the times and ragingly transphobic.
Any girl who orders a beer is not a woman but a trans man and trans men are men so to suggest that he is a woman is clearly an act of transphobia and emotional violence and abuse.
Therefore the op is a gender conforming man by ordering a beer.
😁

I have been drinking pints of ale for over 30 years.

I am yet to grow a penis or sprout a beard.

I think you're quite safe.

I'm not really a fan of beer myself I prefer wine I used to drink pints of cider though in my student days or sometimes lager and lime ,black

so funny, on my first date with DH I had a pint of lager.

He was thrilled.

I am foreign, so did not know it was not quite ladylike or something, in the UK

This was 20 years ago.

Quite a few of my friends would happily have a pint, I think attitudes have moved on a bit!

As long as it's a Belgian beer, it will be grand!

Christ alive! What fucking century is this??

Anyone said Babycham yet?

OP, the opinions of a bunch of internet people really do not matter. My only dating advice is have a wee before you go out. (To be fair, that's my advice to anyone venturing outside their house...it's always best to be prepared!)

Probably means theyre secretly trans

I know what you mean though. A little bit of me cringes when DP orders a cocktail or a Bailys in the pub. He doesn't really drink and tends towards the sweet so will have something more akin to a pudding.

What makes it worse is that I do like bitter. So we do look fucking odd when we go out.

I do think it looks blokey

People who think and say things like this deserve to be popped on a little island in the south pacific, well away from civilised society. It's 2018 and a woman has to consciously think about what she'd prefer to drink in case a total stranger thinks it "looks blokey". Are there blokes drinks and women's drinks? No. There's just drinks. Fucking blokey my arse.

But planning on having a pint or two this eve. Should I go for pints or halves?! Not normally this inedecisive but I know he likes the fact I like beer and don’t also don’t really care what he thinks - neverrheless bit paranoid I am being blokey

Go for what the heck you like,why be paranoid about your preferred drink choice?!
I must have missed a memo saying women were only allowed to drink "feminine" drinks now (whatever one of those is)
Be you. If he thinks you're too blokey for ordering a pint, really give him something to moan about and attempt to burp the Alphabet after it

I suggest you ask your date first for a list if drinks you have permission to drink. Why stop there though? How definitely should be consulted on what you wear, what you eat and the topics you can discuss.

Get a grip OP.

Is there a list I haven't seen of men's drinks and women's drinks?

What about food?
I had a Yorkie yesterday, does that make me a bit blokey too?

Whut?

Haven't you been to a pub before? You don't need to place your order hours in advance, or anything. You just go up to the bar and order whatever you happen to fancy drinking at the time, based on what's available. There, now you can stop worrying about that!

I am sitting here despairing that in 2018 women are asking questions like this.

My thoughts exactly. So depressing.

Ah crap, I've woken up in 1963 again. Damn.

As a man, I couldn't give a toss what you drank. I'd just be thrilled to be on a date. If he doesn't want a second date, it could be for all sorts of reasons, but the likelihood of him finding you unattractive solely because of what you drink is ridiculously slim.

Volume of drink, rather than what you drink, possibly could come into play if you got totally pissed and turned unpleasant!

purplelass

well there kind of is, isn't there

steak is for men
salad is for women

Pie is for men
yoghurt is for women

gin and tonic is for women
pints are for men

etc