NDN and snow and disability

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I'm quite severely disabled as my NDN knows.
It has taken me 45 minutes and excruciating pain
Aibu to have expected some help to clear my path?

Well I hope you all remain young and able bodied. There's no chance of remain here! If a task looks like it would hurt me I tend to do this odd thing - I ask for help! People are usually fine, if asked with a smile.

I was brought up to help neighbours out. Sounds more like you enjoy the role of martyr!

Why did you do any of it?

Did you have to got out at all today?

Did you ask anyone for help?

You sound really angry, I get that it will be partly the pain, but you could have avoided it... and yes, as others have said... a cleared path often becomes more slippy than a snowy one - I hope you have access to grit!

I actually think that walking on a snow covered path is far safer than walking on an ice covered path but perhaps that is just me??

No! Loads of posters have said the same although I suppose you can salt it or grit if it's been cleared.

I actually think that walking on a snow covered path is far safer than walking on an ice covered path but perhaps that is just me??

I Think it is easier and safer walking on the snow

I think is a trip trap to get people to slag off the disabled and call them entitled

I didn't think so. I don't think many of us expect things to be done for us. In fact, I'm so thankful when someone does offer assistance as I'd never dream of asking.

YABU

if your attitude on here is any indication of your real life attitude, I don’t blame your neighbours in the slightest

Even if you’re perfectly lovely in real life, they may be out, not feeling well, busy, or just not see the need to clear paths as many pp have said it can make it harder to navigate not easier

If you want help, ask for it nicely.

Gosh - we always help our neighbours, and they always help us. If you lived here you could expect help.

You sound very angry. I expect nothing from neighbours. I am chronically ill and disabled. I don’t ask people as I don’t wish to impose. I am therefore invisible. But I’m too ill to explain and ask tbh.

No wonder they didnt offer help with an attitude like yours.

I'm disabled. There are times when help is gratefully received, but I don't 'expect' anything from anyone. I particularly don't expect that when I start a job I've decided to do, other people should drop whatever they're doing or whatever other responsibilities they have at that moment to come help me out.

It's miserable and infuriating to be faced with your own limitations and for a job to be horribly difficult and painful when for your own safety you have to do it and for me I'd be furious about remembering a time when it would have taken me ten minutes and I'd have breezed on to something else. It sucks. And for that, But it's my responsibility to make arrangements for things I can't do by myself, and if that involves asking people for help then its also involves accepting that it has to get done when they have the time and capacity to do it with me, not just when I'd like to do it. (And that's a reality that sucks too.)

Yabvu

ummm.... well maybe they just don't like you

Judging by your responses on here, I'd be wary of offering help for fear of you thinking I was patronising you. I can't imagine you'd hold back from telling someone to sod off.

That said, I don't even clear my own path, let alone anyone elses.

How well do you know your neighbours?
Are they aware that you are disabled?
Are they at work and not sat inside watching with glee as you clear the path for no particular reason?

I'm disabled/in constant pain but only go on about it here. I'd be embarassed in real life if people felt they had to help me (invisible disability except when the pain is too great and i look like i've shat myself due to how i walk ). and tend to keep my health issues to myself. Do you help your neighboiur, ie. Take in parcels/hold a spare key? Perhaps order some grit and grit your path or offer to pay someone to do it (i'm dure they'd then offer to do it for free!).

Here we are expected to clear paths & obviously grit if there's a risk of leaving it slippery.

I took the dog out last night, neighbour but one hadn't cleared & I accidentally stepped off the path & onto the road.

No damage done, but you know when your foot goes down heavily when the surface is lower than you think?

Could have been nasty for a cyclist.

Wow is that the tone you take with everyone? Would you even have said thankyou if they had?

YABU.

Well I hope you all remain young and able bodied. I was brought up to help neighbours out.

I think I know why your NDN didn't offer to help...

OP, winters come round every year here. We frequently get snow. Surely you could have made arrangements with a 10, 11, 12, teenager , etc, to shovel your path in the event of snow in advance for a few pounds.

I wouldn't shovel someone else's driveway or path. I have enough physical issues of my own and can't afford to take a fall. I imagine I'm not alone in that.

Did you need the path to be cleared - are you going anywhere and does it need to be cleared for you to get out?

Our path isn't cleared. I think it makes it more slippery than the crunchy snow.

Why did you bother clearing it anyway? A path cleared of snow, which will then ice over again anyway is more dangerous than a snowy one.

Were you neighbours at home?
Did they know you were clearing it?
Do they even know you?
Do they perhaps not find you very approachable?
Do they bother clearing theirs?

Just leave it next time!

Wow, you sound cross and stroppy. YABU to expect anyone to do anything for you. What do you do for your ndn?

And btw - are you sure you're not exaggerating about the 45 minutes in excruciating pain? Why would you choose to put yourself through that, bearing in mind it will probably be snowed over again tonight...

Do you know that your NDN saw you clearing your path. If you'd have asked me nicely I might have helped but no I wouldn't think to offer especially as there's more snow forecast. And I believe there might be insurance implications, if someone slips over on a path you've "cleared" because you've made it icy then you're liable.

Well I hope you all remain young and able bodied. I was brought up to help neighbours out.

Wow what an attitude.

You didn't ask your NDN. They aren't mind readers.