How do people feel if the man you are with is looking at other women ?

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I know this is probably obvious as I've seen it posted on here before but I'm just wondering how women cope with their partner looking at other women in a checking them out kind of way? I really do not like it at all. My partner does it in rather sneaky ways (eg walking back in the shopping isle to pick up some more bread or whatever, when he clearly wants to have a closer look, or if a woman jogger runs past us he will pretend to want to see what the building behind us is so that he can watch her running). I hadn't challenged him on this until yesterday because I thought it was rather a belittling an paranoid sounding accusation. However he admitted that he knows that he does it and he says all men do it, but I know that they don't. Perhaps it doesn't matter. I know he wouldn't act on anything. Incidentally, I have (when I was younger) been the 'looked-at woman' as well. I haven't done it (because it would be demeaning, rude and unkind) but when I was looked-at woman I have felt like calling the man out and telling their wife.

Argeles - it's a free and open forum.

You're entitled to post your honest opinions. And others are equally entitled to disagree (vehemently) with them.

That's the way it works around here.

Instead of acting so surprised by people disagreeing with you - why don't you give a few moments consideration as to why people are disagreeing with you?

Honestly - when you brought your daughter into your OP, I thought it was going to be because you wouldn't expect her to be on the receiving end of the sort of venomous hate you were spewing. Not because you don't want to end up in prison for killing some poor woman!

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Argeles, your post didn't come across as flippant and it's not the first time you've posted this shit about your irrational hatred of women your husband may find attractive and your anger at the women for simply existing.

Oh op, this could be one of my exes... Hanging back to check women out.. Sitting train carriages to be closer to them. The irony was I myself wasn't shabby at that time.. At all. It made me feel feel awful.

Dh I have Been aware on 14 years once glanced at woman so beautifully I also said wow. It's really horrid. I have myself very discreetly glanced at maybe a handful of really stunning men in that time.. And dh never knew and neither did the men

I have been married to a kind decent wonderful intelligent man for 44 years and he always looks at attractive women. Why not? If a handsome man or woman came into my orbit I would look as well.
To suggest dumping him for doing it is crazy. He is just LOOKING?
I would look at a beautiful building or landscape as well.
If he was beating you up or being mean and sarcastic, or trying to control you, then they would be reasons for dumping him, not looking at what is going on around him.

OP, following women to get a better look makes him come across sex pest-y. Grim.
I glance at attractive men and women but I don't ogle them. Not nice for them to be ogled and disrespectful to the ogler's partner.
argeles get help. And nicer friends

@Argeles

Your words speak for themselves...So it's not rocket science to speculate there's something wrong with you, stranger or not.

Just re-read what you wrote...even to your husband and see if it's seen as normal.

I think argyle post interesting shows mind set behind acid attacks on girls just by other girls because they are pretty.

Very worrying. If any man ogle me when with a gf when I wad younger I would turn away with disgusted look on my face.

holeinmyheart - your 'kind, decent, wonderful, intelligent man' stalks women around the supermarket to get a better look at them, does he?

Lucky you.

The DowagerCuntess where exactly in my post did I say my husband stalked women? The OP said her DH did, NOT me.
Possibly less sarcasm, more concentration ?

You're comparing your husband's behaviour with the OP's, and suggesting dumping him is way too extreme.

So now you're admitting your husband's behaviour is actually nothing like the OP's partner's? So why shouldn't she dump him for such stalker-ish / weirdo / creepy behaviour?

I'm assuming your bar isn't set so low that you would happily tolerate this. Why should the OP?

Well my dp who I have been with 8 years has done this on several occasions
started off by liking pages that stopped then he would glance over with me their
female jogger once while I was in the car with him watched him watch her and it was a proper stare at her Boobs which he denied even know I was literally right next to him !
then sat in a pub one day having a drink a couple came in the lady was wearing tight trousers he blatantly started at her arse and denied it ! He has recently admitted to me that he does look at others then he actually said the next day he didn’t mean it like that to be honest that was the last straw for me I have told him today I want to end it he’s obviously asking me not to but I’m not having it anymore tbh