To be annoyed that DP just spent more on a guitar than he did on my engagement ring?

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We got engaged at Christmas so not particularly long ago. I didn't mean to look at the receipt for the ring at all but DP has a habit of leaving everything on the stairs for months on end. I was clearing the stairs recently and found a bag and almost binned it and then I thought I'd better check the receipts in there to make sure it wasn't anything important and it was the paperwork and receipt for the ring.
He already had a guitar that cost more than the ring but he's had that for years so I don't feel like I can be mad about that. But he came home with another one this weekend and when he told me how much it cost I went all funny and it was pretty obvious I was annoyed. He doesn't know I know how much the ring cost so I guess he just thinks annoyed about how much he spent on it in general. To be fair to him it was what he bought with his "birthday money". But I still feel quite peeved about it. He has 9 guitars now. I do love my ring but I feel like I'm looking at it in a different way since he came home with the new guitar. I know I shouldn't be such a princess, but I have but AIBU to be annoyed?
For context we are pretty financially comfortable but are currently looking for a new house and also planning the wedding so more savings would definitely be useful. We have been together 10 years and have 1 DC and another on the way.
I might go and buy myself a ridiculously extravagant present for my birthday next week!

What does it matter? Do you love him? Do you love the ring? Isn't that all that counts?

My DH spent not a lot on my ring because he bought the dog a new kennel/run that month. And he had 50k in the bank at the time

A guitar is actually cooler. Even if he has 9.

Why does the ring need to cost more than the guitar? What else does it need to cost more than?

What justmuddling said. How much did you spend on HIS engagement ring?

My Dbro has a collection of guitars that are worth more than his house, but he plays in bands and they have generated a fair bit of cash over the years so Sil is sangine about them as long as he is the one dusting them.

YABU and princessy, especially if it was partly gify money and you can afford it.

*gift

2 kids, a wedding and a new house. If the guitar was a waste of money in your opinion, why isn't the ring one too?

My husband is a professional guitarist and he has 9 guitars! Does he collect them as investment pieces? Hubby says they tend to hold or gain value, but I can see why you’d be disappointed. Was it an acoustic or an electric? My husband actually didn’t buy my ring, as it was a family ring, but in our situation I would understand if he spent more on a guitar as it is his business...not sure if it was just for a hobby though

If the guitar cost more than the ring, then whatever he spent his birthday money on, whether a guitar or an expensive watch, it would have cost more.

Is the issue that he had more birthday money then the ring value, rather then the guitar itself. Maybe he chose a ring he liked, rather then the most expensive one.

What guitar did he buy OP?

I think I know what you mean, op. It's a bit like getting flowers for mothers day, then realizing they're the cheapest bunch in the shop, and he spent five times that on his mum's bunch (which may or may not have happened to me )... Even if it is 'princessy', it's not nice to feel on the bottom of the consideration scale. I suppose it more depends on whether you chose the ring or he chose it alone, and if there were any budget talks. Having said that, if all the guitar money was gifted to him, the point is moot. It was his to buy himself a gift on behalf of someone else. No comparison can be made with the cost of your ring.

My engagement ring cost £10 from Elizabeth Duke at Argos, 20 years ago. My DD's descant recorder cost more.

My OH spent his spare money on his hobby sailing (yep standing in a cold shower tearing up £50 notes type of hobby) he was sailing when I met him he still does, I never ask what it all costs. I did choose a ring I loved which was less expensive than many others because it was an antique ring aka second hand. Men and their hobbies can be a bone of contention if you let it so best not too imo.

@parklives -- maybe I've got that wrong then! 15 bob, maybe? How much was a bob...? Anyway, the point is that it was just a secondhand ring but mum loves it, and she loves dad, and none of this matters. 👊🏻😁

My DH has lots of things that cost more than my engagement ring, I couldn't give a shit because I love my ring, he picked it and it's beautiful, that's what matters not what it cost

Unless he's told you that he only spent X on your ring because that's all he could afford, then YABVU

Fifteen bob was fifteen shillings. Seventy Five pence in todays money.

YABVU. The price of the ring is irrelevant. If he has enough money to comfortably repeatedly buy guitars, I think you can be rest assured he chose the right he liked and thought you’d like and would look good on you.

More expensive does not equal nicer. In fact, I’m not even sure how you can correlate the fact that he bought the guitar afterwards with the cost of your ring at all

OMG what materialistic crap!

First World Problem gone to a nonsensical height.

Feel VERY sorry for you op and your seriously warped way of thinking.

Better LTB because every time you look at your ring you'll be reminded of the fact your fiance loves his guitars more than he loves you

And re the 15 pound being a good chunk of money for a ring back in the 60's, I think it said on Back In Time For Tea the other night that it was the average weekly wage for a miner.

Birthday money!
How old is he 12?

Fwiw I do think yabu.
Does the amount you like the ring have to correlate directly to it's cost?
Is it's value to you both not worth more than that?

Birthday money!
How old is he 12?

Foodylicious So in your world adults shouldn’t get money as a present, then?

I think some of the posters here are being a little bit harsh on the OP. Society today is very warped there are quite a lot of people who judge your engagement ring as a symbol of your wealth as a couple and also of how much your partner is willing to spend on you (utter BS by the way)
Chances are he chose that ring because he liked it more than the others. Men don't just set s budget then wander out to find one exactly that price. He probably agonised over it. If you like the ring let it go- he clearly made the right choice. And cost makes zero difference if you never plan to sell it

Birthday money!
How old is he 12?

What's up with birthday money?
I'm nearly 53 and my mum sends me £200 for my birthday and £500 for my ' Christmas money'. I wouldn't buy a guitar with it though, I'd put it towards my bike collection. ( 7 so far!)

YABU........

How much did you spend on his engagement present?

My DP's hobbies are really expensive and are currently taking over our house! Snowboards, surfboards, wakeboards, longboards - in fact, any kind of board you can imagine. Loads of them, everywhere!

Almost all of his spare money goes on something to do with his hobbies.

But i love him and support his love of extreme sports. If he proposed with a hula hoop, I would be so happy - even though he just spent 4.5k on (another) kite to take on his already expensive kiteboarding trip.

I love him, he loves me - the price of the ring means nothing