Getting flamed on here

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Has anyone put up a post and gotten upset when they have been flamed by people on here? Do you take it to heart?

I was told to fuck off. I didn't. Obviously.

Yes I have been
It was pretty brutal. I don’t mind people having opinions or not agreeing with me but I was called a liar and a dick as well for not wanting to get a taxi on my my own late at night. I had good reasons that I didn’t want to share but apparently this made me pathetic .
I thought I was tough but it brought back a lot of the bullying I suffered as a child and ended up having nightmares about being back at school and everyone hating me. I realise that wasn’t entirely the fault of MN though

The thing to do is namechange. I've forgotten more of my names than I remember.
My opinion was dissed on a thread just last week by a poster who considers themselves MN royalty. I just thought - "my dear, I remember you back in 2005 when you had a toilet brush and wondered if Lidl extra wafer thin ham was naice enough" then name changed.

I posted a few years ago when baby DD was violently ill on a long haul flight. I slightly made light of it but only because it was so bloody awful (as soon as we landed, I was violently ill too and we had a very long onward journey).

I was flamed for endangering the lives of the other passengers and should have been able to predict it and therefore cancel our flights

I've been called "Goady" and been biscuited but I think that was projection from the poster concerned 🤣

I've had a few bitchy comments about things I've said (largely unwarranted IMO) but I just shrug it off. My attitude is that the person who made the remark doesn't know me,is highly unlikely to ever meet me,and even if they did,they wouldn't know that it was me they had been rude to.

Wondering what you got a reddit mention for now...

I would add that I have also received some excellent advice from fellow MNers and had some very sympathetic reactions. So I think the good has outweighed the bad in my case.

I don't read messages any more as had some from the playground queen bee type. Disagree by all means, but do it on the thread.

Usual issue with the hard of reading, selective understanding is very common.

I have been in the past and I didn’t come back to the site for a long time. I asked about something fairy unremarkable in the massive scheme of thing but which was upsetting me and got flamed by a well-established poster and her pals who pretty much told me to get over it and that I was crying about nothing. Not nice.

That is true @ConciseandNice my DH frequently tells me that for an "intelligent" person I have sod all "common sense"

, I've been flamed to a crisp. It's the nature of the board.

Not a real flaming but I did once, in the olden days, offend someone who was part of a MN clique by daring to have a different opinion. Not only did she then seem to appear to post passive-aggressively on every thread I was on after that but so did certain others (always the same names, people I'd never come across before but a quick search showed them all as posting in a certain section to chat)
I had several private messages from others saying the same had happened to them and changed names eventually to shake her off

I've been told (in a previous incarnation) that I must be a terrible teacher and that they're very glad I don't teach their children. I asked how they know I don't?

I left for a while after getting flamed for expecting my dc to still have much contact with me when I moved 30 miles away (3 x teens). They are with me ft now and nc with df!! I felt empowered enough to come back on!!

I once made a light hearted thread about white van men tooting their appreciation which was taken completely out of context and I was on the receiving end of a couple of MNetters vitriol. I got told off by the MN police for telling them to get a grip and *** off.

No regrets.

It should never be taken seriously. Like many of the OPs being in fantasy land, so are a good many responses. Some people are genuine, others less so.

I've been flamed a few times (in the 15 years I have been here) and I honestly do not give a damn. Tbh on the occasions it has happened it amuses me that some posters are doing their utmost to be goady and get a rise from me but are met with blank indifference - must frustrate the hell out of them

It happens sometimes and frustrating when it does especially when you’ve misunderstood. I sometimes hide the thread from myself so I don’t go back and say something I’d regret in anger.

I don't post in aibu anymore because I'm the sort to take it to heart "why don't these strangers I will be at meet like me sob sob" 😁. I usually go on chat but have to build myself up to that too. I was told I was being unreasonable in chat once, so I guess people just go looking for a row on here. I got upset once when I posted a question about my wedding and being on a budget and I was told I was being selfish spending money on getting married when I had a baby to think about. I was really angry and upset at having my parenting getting slated just because I was getting married! That was a low blow.

*'be at' should read, 'never meet ' stupid tablet

The flaming is one thing, it’s the pile-on of smug latecomers thrilled to be party to a flaming that’s upsetting.
Sometimes you need a bit of a flaming but not to be fully roasted, swept up and put on the dump

I flounced, in my first incarnation (I still miss that user name) I was really stung by a fairly concerted effort to persuade me that my 'brand of feminism' was a danger to all women and frankly pathetic. I think I may be back in fashion now. Ye gods! How long have I been here?

I have thrown my rattle out of the pram once too... left for a few months before regaining my equilibrium.

This incarnation (after a lay of off a year or so) promise to be less touchy But I am bound to find another brick wall at some point, my MNing comes in waves, I think.

Once you have found your own rhythm for it you won't be so bothered, or you will just leave!