To think you don’t beep your horn at pedestrians with sleeping children in prams?

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Just had a total arsehole do this to me, when we were crossing the road. Apparently I wasn’t moving fast enough and I got a mouthful of abuse too.

You don’t do that, do you? I have joint pain, severe pain and depression and DS is ASD and I’d just got him to sleep.

Why do some people enjoy being such knobs to others?

Is

Of course they are spoiling for a fight.

When people kept repeating the same old responses that's when the swearing and the ruining lives and everyone else agrees, MN is stupid. Now she's glad she pisses people off.

Totally spoiling for a fight. I've done my stint of painfully pointing out the obvious. It's my turn to sit back and watch the show. 🍿😂

As a driver I see people crossing the road without a crossing, daily. Imo they have the right of way as they are already on the road. I would never beep at them to hurry up. But then I'm not a twat.

I don’t start fights, I’ll just engage if I think someone is being rude towards me.

you need to get a cop on to yourself, you really do.
I am bored of this now. Goodbye..:)

GreatDuck

Thank you. I share that belief.

I'm really trying to visualise a crossing at a crossroads in a residential area that won't have a pedestrian crossing at it?

Julie don’t give me ideas

Um....?!

I'm really trying to visualise a crossing at a crossroads in a residential area that won't have a pedestrian crossing at it?

There would of been one, you would need to walk a few steps out of your way but the OP was cold and the driver was in a warm car so they had to stop and let her cross where she was.

upsideup Would this situation have been prevented if it was July and not February, do you think?

Is it fun going through life taking no responsibility for your actions, OP?

Nicknacky

I would think as the driver was in a nice cool car with air conditioning and the pedestrian was outside in the heat that the same logic would propably apply.

That attitude is repulsive

Whereas your attitude on this thread has been all sweetness and light

upsideup Ah but what if it is an older car with no air con?! It's a mine field.

“And if I am walking in the road for whatever reason, if a car shows up in the distance, I speed up to hit the other side faster.

Why? You were there first. They can wait.”

NO THEY CAN’T
This isn’t how the rules of the road work. A good driver would jump on their brakes slow down, but really, you should be able to anticipate that you have time to cross the road in the first place.

Regulations state that a driver has to give way to a pedestrian on a pedestrian crossing or if they are turning into a junction where someone is already crossing the road. It makes no mention of pedestrians wandering radomly across the road anywhere else.

“My memory isn’t quite photographic but it’s close.
It helps me greatly for memorising strings of information,”

Can I suggest that you use your brilliant memory to familiarise yourself with the Green Cross Code and also read the rules for pedestrians in The Highway Code, as you seem to be completely unaware of road rules and regulations for pedestrians and drivers.

“It's not your right of way on the road if you were there first and drivers shouldn't be forced to stop or adjust their driving to accommodate you.”

This ^^
All road users need to be considerate towards each other. That goes for pedestrians as well as drivers.

Basically, you have not been taught the correct road safety rules, which is why you won’t accept that you are in the wrong

“Why should I “run”? I was there first, on a cold day. I’m sure someone in a warm car can wait 5 seconds for a mother to cross. Jesus.”

I would love to be a fly on the wall when you say that to a police officer

Tbf Witches there has been a lot of ganging up on the OP going on on this thread.

Perfect I understand that but surely you know that when you go in to drive? It’s one reason I haven’t yet.

Well yes, of course, but drivers are human too. I mean, just as she couldn't have known what you are struggling with at the moment... perhaps she has a terrible headache and still had to do school drop-off, or go in to work. Maybe one of her own kids is disabled so she is low on sleep as well. Maybe she's late because a child had an accident and had to have a complete change of clothes, so your doing that at the crossing jeopardised her job, because she was already on a warning for time off. Perhaps her mum is dying, and she has to get to a chemo appointment, and she had a very narrow window to do so. You know? You never know what is happening with other people's lives, or why they react in a way that seems over the top to you. It's the old thing that everyone is fighting their own battle in life, and dealing with their own stresses and hurts.

Obviously, drivers should be perfect and like robots. There'd be no accidents if they were. But drivers are just people, too, so trying to make life as easy as we can on them, as pedestrians, is important for our own safety, and also the right thing to do for them as fellow people. She had more stress because of your choice, and while I see that her reaction upset you, your choice upset her. You know?

Nicknacky

But at least they're sat down? Op would of had to walk maybe a dozen steps out of her way.

What's the alternative though when someone is already crossing a road without a pelican crossing Lonicera? Plough into them? Slam your brakes on and beep at them?

I don't think this man deliberately woke up your child. It's quite likely he didn't even know your DS was asleep. He beeped to alert you of his presence as the driver of a vehicle. Especially if you didn't seem aware of the danger of traffic while crossing the road.

upsideup You have got me. I can't think of a come back.

Perfect I understand that everyone has their own issues and she could’ve been having a crappy day. I still don’t think I deserved that.

Similarly when I’ve had a shit day and snapped at DP, I apologise afterwards when I realise I was overreacting.

The fact that you have ASD op may be contributing to your insistence that the situation is black and white; there's a good person and a bad person in this scenario? And your difficulty seeing this from a driver's point of view.

As pps have mentioned, there are plenty of grey areas where a driver won't slow for you for a variety of reasons.

The most important thing is to be safe. Assume all drivers haven't seen you and won't stop.

You didn't deserve a mouthful of abuse from the driver. Don't let this one event wreck your whole evening though!
Forget getting revenge, chill out and have a bath.

Is your partner a lawyer or does he have a law degree?

where you on a pedestrian crossing or just crossing anywhere ?