Tv in room of a 3 year old

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Our 3 year olds have a tv in their room, they share.

My moan is DH let's them watch it on a weekend morning so he can get extra sleep. I'm up from 6am every morning and sometimes don't hear the kids in their room talking or whatever.

I don't like him putting it on, would rather he

1. come down with them and watch lounge tv
2. bring them down go back to bed and they watch lounge tv.

I don't think kids at that age should have a tv in their room. What is everyone else's thoughts on this. I never did so I think that's why I have a negative view on the matter.

Just to make it clear it's for a Saturday and Sunday morning only while DH gets extra sleep. Not every morning! As I'm the main carer when he's at work so I don't let it happen

21 washes per week for 4 people??

So what do you do after 7pm when kids are in bed that leaves no times for a shower or washing pots? Because all the cooking cleaning and shopping seems to have been done during the day...

As much as I agree your dh is quite the sloth, I also agree that you are the other extreme, martyring yourself to a needless regime. Why place such stringent demands on yourself and more importantly, apply them to your dh? Up at six on a weekend to wash, cook and scrub...really though? I’d tell you where to go with that nonsense. He is probably rebelling in part against your madness. I can sympathise with that, if nothing else. You are not more worthy as a parent for washing their sheets daily...that’s not admirable or efficient, it’s unhinged.

My kids are 3 and 4 and it wouldn't occur to me to put a tv in their room.
On morning weekends they come into our room and I admit I put the tv on for them so that dh and I can wake up slowly/doze a bit further, which works for everyone.
I'd hit the roof if dh just put a tv in there without consulting me!

Am also at the amount of work you do - I'm a sahm with 3 and 4 yos so have a good idea of what it entails.
21 washes a week?! Bonkers and horrendous for the environment and your utilities bill. I do about 10.
Bath every other day- we recently switched from daily and every 2 days is a lot more manageable.
Change pjs every few days unless mucky.
Change bedding every other weekend (shoot me).
Almost never iron.

One of mine has a TV in her room, she’s had it in there since she was 5. It was OHs idea. In front of me one Christmas he said to her why don’t we get you a TV for your room this year? He did this without talking to me about it first and I was fuming. He really didn’t see what the issue was. He came from a very poor background and does tend to spoil our children a lot as he wants them to have the things he didn’t have (don’t even get me started on the over the top Birthday parties!) As a compromise we did buy the TV, but didn’t connect it to the aerial (it’s the type of TV that doesn’t come with an aerial and you have to connect it to an aerial or sky box etc to get any reception at all). It’s used for watching DVDs only and the DVDs are not kept in her room. She’s allowed to watch a DVD at the weekend if she’s been good. She goes to bed an hour early and watches it in bed. Even though I didn’t want her to have a TV in her room in the first place, it’s worked out quite well and is an effective reward system! As long as he’s not letting them watch TV for hours on end I wouldn’t have an issue with it really. There’s 2 of them so they’re not on they’re own and it might be nice for them to have a bit of time together without adults, but where you know they’re safe. I wouldn’t let them keep the remote in there though

I don’t think it matters where they watch it more what they are watching. My kids have a tv in their room, I’m just glad I don’t have to watch Barbie on repeat tbh. I think it’s a non issue. Its only on in the evening for an hour or so before bed anyway

I have nothing whatsoever against kids watching tv. My three year old watches plenty.

I’m not keen at all on the idea of putting a tv in her room. I don’t like the idea of fostering a culture whereby we all sit in different rooms and watch tv. We have a family living room with the tv in it. We watch tv together (usually we are stuck watching what DD wants to watch till she goes to bed. But I’m not really that fussed on tv anyway and DH mainly watches sport).

We have years ahead of us where they will sit in their rooms glued to their phones/tablets. Why would you want to start that at age 3?!

Dds aged 2 and 4 have a TV in their room. They watch a DVD on a Saturday or Sunday morning, not usually both as we do something on one weekend day.

We don't watch much TV throughout the week, and don't have sky or anything like that so they really look forward to that hour or two of lazy time, playing in their pyjamas, watching (usually) my little pony.

You lost me at 'hun'

God you sound like a total martyr. Chill the fuck out 'hun'.

This got me:

make sure meat is defrosted etc

So what you mean is you take something out the freezer. You don't stand there watching until it's defrosted.

'I opened the cupboard, heaved myself to my tiptoes and reached up to the top shelf. I removed a tin of haricot beans soaked in tomato juice, and moved to the drawer. I removed the implement which takes off the tin lid and placed it on the haricot beans. I open the lid and place said beans in pan'

Is this how you think of all your housework???

“You lost me at ‘hun’”

Well so fucking what? If you’re so basic in your thinking that the usage of a common term you don’t like is enough for you to make a judgement on a person, I’d say that’s your failing isn’t it?

The Mumsnet trend-based castigation of certain terms and subsequently those who use them, is pitiful. Like a bunch of spiteful wee lassies...”You can’t sit with us.”
Who fucking wants to? You’re ridiculous.

Tip some Lego over the floor and take the TV out.