Tv in room of a 3 year old

[IAmMumWho]

Our 3 year olds have a tv in their room, they share.

My moan is DH let's them watch it on a weekend morning so he can get extra sleep. I'm up from 6am every morning and sometimes don't hear the kids in their room talking or whatever.

I don't like him putting it on, would rather he

1. come down with them and watch lounge tv
2. bring them down go back to bed and they watch lounge tv.

I don't think kids at that age should have a tv in their room. What is everyone else's thoughts on this. I never did so I think that's why I have a negative view on the matter.

Just to make it clear it's for a Saturday and Sunday morning only while DH gets extra sleep. Not every morning! As I'm the main carer when he's at work so I don't let it happen

The issue isn't which room they watch morning telly in.

The issue is that he's leaving small children to fend for themselves for hours in the morning because he can't be bothered to parent them.

Not sure what you want anybody to say if you don't want criticism of your husband.

I don't think this is a problem now, but it's making one for the future.
It's fine for kids to watch a bit of tv to get an extra hour of sleep, but when they are older it will be hard to take it away.

I am a bit confused too Sirzy.

It seems to be a bit of age appropriate telly in the morning either upstairs or downstairs.

My children have TVs in their bedrooms but we don’t have them connected to actual tv channels. For the girls bedroom is so the older girl can watch her DVDs in my sons room it’s dvds and the Wii is connected. I wouldn’t like the idea of them being able to turn it on at midnight and watch normal tv that is adult content.

@Sprinklesinmyelbow

I don't get to rest hun. Although kids do nursery 2.5 days a week I do all house work shopping entertaining the kids taking them out.

My rest time is when I go to bed.

Just get them up then and bring them downstairs.

I agree with you about no TV in bedrooms. Thing is your DH had a different view and they're his children too. You will have to discuss a compromise with him not just take the TV away.

Take the tv away and sell it before they work out how to turn it on by themselves and are up half the night watching tv.

"I don't get to rest hun."

You are in the wrong forum.

irvineoneohone

Irvine

@irvineoneohone

What room do I need lol

You are sounding a bit like a martyr now. How much housework and shopping can there be?

Your DH sounds like a lazy b*stard

It does sound as if the TV in the bedroom is one of a long list of issues that you need to talk about with your DH.

I just can't get worked up over this.

DS has had a TV in his room since he was 3. He's allowed to watch an hour at bedtime on alternate days and an hour in the morning on the weekends.

He'd be doing that downstairs anyway, so I really don't see the issue.

He can't get normal channels. He goes on his iPad and streams children's Netflix onto his Chromecast or puts in one of his DVDs. He can't watch what he shouldn't be and he wouldn't dare turn it on at night.

As long as it's monitored, really what is the harm?

I hate televisions in bedrooms so I sympathise, op, but you do need to talk to DH.

Get up, take them downstairs with you. Put the TV away. Stand your ground. If you be believe it is your "job as a mother" to do most things with them then it is your choice. Why is he choosing how they spend their morning if he is asleep?

Mine never had tvs in bedrooms but i cant see the harm here, used as you have described.

So you are already downstairs? I'm confused.

Why don't you just go and get them? Or have I missed something?

@Sirzy

When two 3 year old turn your house upside down every day there's loads cleaning to do, I do 3 lots of washing a day as no one keep la their clothes clean, bedding, they bath every night, so clean pjs, vacuuming daily as we have a cat that sheds tons of fur. I've very house proud. Hubby works in a warehouse so always filthy and fresh clothes daily. I barely get time for a shower. I'm no martyr at all. I'm a mum and wife and this isn't the issue.

When kids are ill, I deal with it, dentist apps doc apps all me as I am their mum.

I'd rather he come down instead of sticking the tv on for them.

Your DH is “in charge” of weekend mornings and chooses to switch TV on for the DC.

If you don’t like that, then you need a discussion about what he wants vs what the children need, or you need to take over weekend mornings too.

Your DH lies in till 10-11 every weekend morning and you don’t like that - again, you need a discussion.

You don’t agree with TVs in bedrooms and your DH does - discussion, again.

It’s a DH and communication issue, not a 3 year olds and weekend TV issue.

You need to talk to your DH. He could be doing more by the sound of it.

They wouldn't be unsupervised if brought downstairs as I'm down

Why don't you bring them down with you then and let them watch tv downstairs while you get on with your jobs?

Pretty simple tbh.

And also, if you don't hear them talking in there, do you not check in on them when you get up?

It sounds like you’re jealous he’s using the tv to entertain them and sleep until 11am when you’re up at 7am with them everyday. Just tell him to get up, each of you has 1 lie in at the weekend. Then you get up with them when it’s his turn.

@Sirzy

Shopping well I do weekly shops and daily for the likes of bread milk etc

I cook everything homemade so they have a balanced diet, hubby has packed lunches for work kids do for nursery. While they at nursery I prep that days tea, make sure meat is defrosted etc.

Do some washing get it dried and put away.

Isn't that what being a parent is all about. Doing for for family. All I'm asking is for him to get up than stick the telly on for them.