Tv in room of a 3 year old

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Our 3 year olds have a tv in their room, they share.

My moan is DH let's them watch it on a weekend morning so he can get extra sleep. I'm up from 6am every morning and sometimes don't hear the kids in their room talking or whatever.

I don't like him putting it on, would rather he

1. come down with them and watch lounge tv
2. bring them down go back to bed and they watch lounge tv.

I don't think kids at that age should have a tv in their room. What is everyone else's thoughts on this. I never did so I think that's why I have a negative view on the matter.

Just to make it clear it's for a Saturday and Sunday morning only while DH gets extra sleep. Not every morning! As I'm the main carer when he's at work so I don't let it happen

I don't really get why it's alright for them to be watching TV in the lounge at that time but not in their bedrooms. Nor do I get why you wouldn't just bring them downstairs if your bugbear is that you're downstairs and able to supervise their viewing.

That said, threads like this do get very evangelical.

DD, same age, has a TV in her bedroom. It's not connected to an aerial. It is used to play DVDs and links to a children's Netflix profile. When she's watching it, I use the sleep timer. She knows that when it goes off, I won't put it back on. The remote doesn't stay in her room and her particular TV is barely functional without it. God only knows where this notion has come from that a television is an uncontrollable entity.

There actually isn't a TV in my own bedroom as I'm an insomniac and have to be really strict with sleep hygiene. Should any similar issues arise with DD, I know and will implement the solution.

And yes, on Saturday mornings she gets some screen time while I go back to bed for a bit. Too right it's lazy parenting. It really isn't necessary to be helicopter parenting from the moment they wake up every single day.

Your dh is being an arse. Remove the fuse from the plug.

I don't think it's on for either parent to sleep in until 11am at the weekend TBH. 9am would be a good lie in wouldn't it? What time does DH go to bed?

I'm not a fan of TVs in young kids rooms. My older two have only just had one at 7 and 10 and personally I felt that the 7 year old was still a bit young...but as they share I couldn't avoid it if ds1 was to have one.

What does your husband do, household wise?

Will you be introducing age appropriate jobs for your kids?

If not you'll be raising entitled fuckery that won't be able to fend for themselves when they leave home and terrible partners.

Being a martyr doesn't benefit anyone except you so you can say you do everything for your family.

I'd never let a child that young have a tv in their room, no need for it. When you took it away and your husband put it back, what did you say? As this should've been a discussion. A sensible way forward would be he gets a lie in on a Saturday, till 930 at latest and you get one on the Sunday. On your lie in day they tv is not to go on. Sorted!

*fuckers not fuckery

The issue isn't the TV, it is you and your DH not talking about things.If the issue was the tv you would just go get them as you are up anyway.

@Lethaldrizzle

I have a few times he's put back in, I've taken plug off he's put back on. Taken whole tv away he's put back in.

Your house must be huge if you can’t hear your DH get up to two 3yos while you’re downstairs.

I don’t understand what’s wrong with them watching an hour of CBeebies in bed if you’re going to let them watch it sitting downstairs.

You’re telling the wrong people, anyhow. We can’t do anything about this. You need to stop martyring yourself with your “my rest is when they’re in bed, hun” attitude and start communicating with your husband.

Agree with pp that it's also about setting up expectations for the future - the older they get there more a screen in their room can be a pain.

Separately though it sounds like he is getting a bit much rest - but you're not seeing your rest either. SAHM with 2 kids in nursery for 2.5 days? I think that two 3 year olds is a lot and it's great you get some time to yourself, but really this is loads of time to get the house done and still have a a tea break and a yoga class

I really don't understand how you have so much housework to do just because you have two 3 year olds.

If you are an early bird and don't want to lie in then just let the children watch TV downstairs while you clean.

Let your husband enjoy his lie in if you are up anyway and the children are just going to watch TV downstairs. Then, whenever he gets up, you can head off for a break and let him mind the kids.

@LadyintheRadiator

I don't get one why should he 😂

You need to talk.

Oh and no i don't think small children should have tv in their room but again it is due to you and DH not talking about it before it was even out in the room.

If they watch tv without coming out of their rooms couldn't you gave a lay in sometimes with your husband op?

I don't think TVs in the bedroom is a good idea full stop and certainly not at that age. But that's not the issue here.

The issue here is you are in a weird, childish relationship with what sounds like zero communication. Why does he put it back when you take it out? Can't you just take it to a charity shop so he can't?

I just can't fathom this. If DH and I disagreed over something like this we'd discuss it and come to a resolution. He sounds like a total wanker. Putting the TV in without asking, lazing around til 11am.
What the hell? Why doesn't he get off his arse and give you a hand at the weekends? Chores could be done quicker and the weekend is free for time as a family. The TV is just a symptom of a bigger problem imo.

My 3yo has tv in her bedroom we only let her watch in bed for an hour before bedtime and this is now part of her routine after bath pjs and supper

How much housework does your DH do? Does he do any?

TBH OP, it sounds like in general the household is run your way and the parenting is done your way. And your way seems to take every waking minute from 7am. Perhaps the TV is his way of trying to relax the household a bit. Try having a lie in with him at the weekends. You might enjoy the rest.

It's a shame because you weekend together as a family doesn't start until Saturday lunchtime. If the same happens on a Sunday you only get one day together total over the weekend.

Your choosing to not have a lie in though!

I would remove it from their room.