To think this is absolute bollocks!!! (Ex related)

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So I know I should have thought about it a bit earlier, but.......just text my ex about mother’s day.
It will be his Saturday night/Sunday day that weekend and having just realised I text him to ask can we swap so he has Friday night Saturday day.

And today, he’s taken the day off work. He’s come round with food shopping and stuff for dd, so I don’t have to go out in the snow. He’s just taken her out to build a snowman and said he’ll stay here and watch her so I can get my uni work done (nursery is closed).

This is what we started out like and it would be great if we can be like this, genuinely as friends. Only I’m not sure if it just confuses things more and he’s got other ideas. But at the same time him helping out today is a huge help as I’m really behind on uni work, so I don’t want to ask him to go.

He sounds like a complete head f*ck, at some point in the future you probably will have to arrange fixed contact...

I wonder if you mentioning mediation is what did it as he knows his chopping and changing and lack of turning up for contact is unreasonable!

Glad you got it sorted OP.
And of course YANBU at all.
He's sounds like a total knob-head!

He definitely has knob-head moments hells but then I’ve just been on a cm thread and he’s really good in that respect and we seem to have that sorted well, at least!!
And dd loves him and he’s at least good with her when he has her, that’s what I repeat to myself when he’s being particular knob-head like. I don’t have to worry she’s not looked after or palmed off and he’s not introducing her to someone new every weekend.

Had a lovely Mother’s Day, with dd with us and no problems with the ex.
He’s now told me he’s seeing someone and I think his reluctance was because she would have her dc today so he’s probably not really seen her this weekend now. I’m not sure because he hasn’t said, but I’m guessing that’s it.

But anyway he’s back to being reasonable and I got some lovely Mother’s Day gifts from dd from him.

That's nice. Bask in it while it's happening and enjoy! Glad the day was good and especially that dd was there.