To think that Mother’s Day just rubs your nose in it if you haven’t got one? :(

[Chattycat78]

Just that really.

Here it is again I see.

My mother died in 2009. It still kicks me in the guts like crazy every time I pass the shops with all the cards and know I can’t buy a card ever again as I have no one to buy for.

There was some radio program last year talking about how “inclusive” Mother’s Day is because “everyone has one”. No they don’t.

The sting isn’t even taken away by the Fact I’m a mother now myself.

I’m not looking to ban it. I realise Mothers should be celebrated. But boy does it remind me of what i no longer have.

I completely understand your grief. I lost my day (he was only 57) in 2004 on New Years Eve. It has only been on the last two new years eve that I have managed to stay up until midnight and raise a glass (or two) to him. Grief takes as long as it takes but it will get easier

YANBU OP

Mothers' day is not at all about celebrating mothers. We could all do that whenever we like however we like. Mothers' day is about selling stuff pure and simple.

Tescos don't have a massive banner telling you not to forget because they are concerned that women with children don't get the appreciation they deserve, its because they want to make money.

And no I don't think its right to push it down people's throats when many many people have lots their mothers.

Hey there @mrsBeverleyGoldberg, maybe we can toast each other instead.

To all those who have lost much-loved parents, sympathies.

Hallmark days do seem to cause all sorts of mixed emotions.

Did you not celebrate or did you wish people didn’t celebrate Mother’s Day when your Mother was alive? I suspect not.

I was estranged from my Mother and didn’t really grow up celebrating Mother’s Day or Birthdays for that matter. DD is all over any celebration of any kind and I get involved for her sake but could easily ignore it. However, the day isn’t about me or my experiences, it’s about celebrating people who did get on with their Mother’s and why shouldn’t they celebrate.

This is grief talking and you’re allowed to be upset but it doesn’t mean that a tradition should stop because of it.

I lost my mum 15yrs ago when I was 21 and even though I'm now a mum myself I positively hate Mother's Day and would happily forego it.

Every rational part of me says I'm being utterly ridiculous and it's nice for DS to have me to make a fuss of.

But then the irrational part of me wants to burn down Clinton's and poke my SIL in the eye with a sharp object when I get the inevitable WhatsApp about "what should we do to make MILs Mother's Day special this year?" Fuck.right.off.

I lost both my DM and DMIL in the last 4 years , I adored both of them but mothers day doesnt bother me,

@isetan - really agree with what you've posted. My mum & I had a really good relationship - and I feel very lucky for that. When she was alive, we did mark the occasion - card, flowers, perhaps a gift like a favourite perfume. I totally believe she would have been upset if the day hadn't been acknowledged.
Nowadays, it's flowers to the cemetery (which I do regularly anyway). All "Occasions" have been commercially "hijacked" - the sole intention being to extract as much money from people as possible. Ultimately, it comes down to making a choice or whether to participate/spend money, or not.

My mum died a while back and I still miss her. I know how you feel and I'm sorry your mum isn't here either.

Like me, you will no doubt have happy memories of your mum. What I do on Mothering Sunday, is concentrate on my happy memories and then have a nice day with my children.

I know what you mean, I have thought about my mum every day since she passed away 20 years or so ago. so mothers day stuff did make me feel a bit...sad.
however we must remember that it's just another 'Hallmark' day for money making!
These days I see mothers day cards and wonder if the sprogs are going to get me one..:)
Take care OP x

No, you are not being unreasonable. It is very sad that you don't have your Mum on mother's day and yes, all the fuss in the shops makes matters worse. I don't have a Mum either and every day I wish I did. However, I do enjoy being a Mum and a Granny.