People who choose not to drive

[LouJDawe]

4 weeks until I drop and I have my baby shower this weekend. 3 people who I've invited (best friend, mil and nan) don't drive. This is out of choice, all have a licence but prefer to be 'driven' as cars are too expensive to run. All have text to ask what time I'm collecting them for my baby shower. AIBU in thinking if you choose not to drive it's not up to other people to pick up and drop off all the time? I don't know if I'm in the wrong because yes I invited them but surely they should find an alternate to me collecting them all as I have an 18 month old son as well as a baby shower to prepare not run around picking prople up?

Next time OP just say it's a Birthday - never mention baby shower on MN, it's deemed worse than wedding poems or toilet brushes

Aaaannyyywaaay, getting back to the REAL point of your post, yes they are BU and no you don't need to pick them up!!! Selfish thoughtless numpties. Can you point out what you've said here, you have a lot to do and arrange and you are 38 weeks pregnant so they need to arrange their own transport. Mention it is probably the ONLY time you've ever asked them to do so (but maybe they should start getting used to it, cheeky fuckers!)

The OP is not asking for advice or opinions on why she's having a baby shower.

I would ask them if they can sort out their own transport as you have the baby shower to organise as well as your DC.

Thank you everyone for your replies very kind of you. Have a lovely weekend x

Oh ignore the MN "every time someone throws a baby shower a kitten goes blind" brigade. It sounds like a lovely thing for you friend to do and I hope you all have a great day.

In answer to the OP, I don't drive (chronic crippling anxiety, suspected dyspraxia and general fuckwittedness) and neither does dh (narcolepsy) but we certainly don't expect our friends to cart us around at our convenience! We use public transport, walk, cycle or don't go. Our lack of transport is our problem, not everyone else's. And when friends do kindly offer to help us out, lifts to hospital appointments etc, we make sure it's really not a problem for them and we pay for petrol and parking. Just common sense and good manners really.

Congratulations

Yanbu, OP!

And enjoy tho shower. Ignore the idiots on here saying it’s grabby. I’m in the US and we all have them (though we tend to call them sprinkles for second and subsequent babies 😂). It’s just a bit of fun and a time to get together before the newborn crazy stage kicks off. Nothing wrong with that!

I don’t drive, however I’d never presume to be given a lift! Just say you can’t, don’t give a reason.

I don't drive but for medical reasons i can't help, I'd still feel guilty asking for a lift so no you're not being unreasonable!

Do you have nothing better to do? 're read it you absolutely heartless person. People like you are what makes the world a horrible place with your nasty little remarks. Yes 2 friends one who is ill in hospital and my other lovely friend. I cannot believe how much detail I have had to go into. You really are one awful person

if they don't have cars then how are they meant to drive themselves?

I hope your sick friends feel better soon :)

Just ignore their question and repeat what time the baby shower is on. Or you could mention that they are both coming from the same direction so they could share a taxi. But my preference would be "it starts at 3, meet ye here then xxxx".

@TrustNaeFuckerEver you are truly vile!

Couldn't care less about the baby shower issue, your mates ABU to not drive. Cheeky feckers.

Aren’t baby showers for second babies considered the height of grabby.........?

(Having them at all is pretty grabby.)

How predictable. As soon as I read the OP I knew someone would post this and I would like to thank you Titty for proving me right.

OP YANBU and you should simply say to them both "No I cant pick you up but [other person] is coming from there too so maybe you can share a taxi, here is her number"

And keep saying no until they get the message that you are not their chauffeur.

You are absolutely right they need to sort out transport by themselves. They could kindly ask you to change time/place slightly but you don't have to agree.

TrustNaeFuckerEver

If you dont believe the OP then report, trying to prove that you spotted hem first actually makes you look more ridiculous than the alleged troll.

Jesus fucking christ. I don't even have children but if invited to a baby shower I'll give a gift. If not, I'll give a gift when baby is here, unless I know there's a Christening or something similar - in which case I'll give it there. (I'm an atheist BTW. Just trying to illustrate that gift giving at birth pretty normal, baby showers can be avoided).

As to driving, it's up to you. If I'm not drinking I'm generally up for pick up of people who aren't taking the piss (nearby / enroute from work), but never late night drop off. I do offer digs.

(((Hugs))) OP
Seems everyone you know are cheeky Fuckers. Minus the one in hospital .

Good Luck

I don't have to report if I don't believe the OP. That's my personal opinion, not something I feel I need to message HG about.

No you dont but what you do have to do is STFU about it because troll hunting is against Talk Guidelines HTH :)

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My best friend doesn't drive because she has "better things to spend her money on"

Tell her she can spend some of that money on a cab.