To reuse my wedding ring?!

[ImMissHannigan]

Just that really. I had a really short lived marriage about 5 years ago. Still have the lovely platinum wedding band. I paid a lot of money for it at the time but when it came to sell, it only had scrap value of about £60 so I kept hold of it. No emotional attachment to it whatsoever.
I'm getting married again this year and have been looking at wedding bands. The OH doesn't want to wear a ring as he doesn't wear jewellery. So it's just for me. I'm looking at paying the same all over again for a ring that I already have in the drawer. WIBU to send it away to be polished and to reuse it? Part of me says absolutely not and the other part says it's just a piece of metal. So wise ladies of Mumsnet, what do you think? If it's of any relevance, we are over budget by about £2k at the moment so could do with cutting corners where we can.

Use it. Get it cleaned, maybe engraved with the date on the inside for your future husband to show you’re commited

Could you have it melted down and remade as a slightly different style? I’m not sure what the costs would be but it can’t be as much as a whole new ring x

I'd reuse it, but I'm a practical sort.

Great idea Lou

No, don't reuse it. Just don't. You don't need to re-mortgage to buy another one but just don't reuse it. Even by your own admission you have "no emotional attachment to it whatsoever" - so it's just a ring, if you fancy wearing sometimes then crack on but it can't be the ring to mark this new union. Keep it somewhere for history or whatever. But for goodness sake get a new ring.

Yes reuse it. I would.

If you do decide on a new one, we were told that titanium is in the same family as platinum (same colour and shine) but when my husband bought his titanium wedding ring it was astronomically cheaper than my platinum one. I have a titanium eternity ring and can’t tell the difference. Might that be an option, if cost is a factor?

I can't see the point in having a wedding ring at all if it has so little significance attached to it?
I'd get a low cost one from an independent jeweller, then if you get a little windfall you can get the platinum one reset in a different style.
I'd be mightily miffed if my DH had suggested re-using his old wedding ring rather than spending £100 on something that was chosen by me and him.
If you're £2k over budget, then you are obviously not skimping on the wedding. But at the centre of it all it's the vows and the ring that symbolise the marriage between you both.

Do you need a ring if your DH is not going to wear one?

melting and resetting it will cost a few hundred so probably wouldn't be worth it. I like the idea the pp had about engraving it with the wedding dates. If your 2k over budget you could just get it polished and get an eternity ring in the future

Either sell it to help towards the cost of a new one (I'd rule that out if it's only worth £60), or get it fashioned into a new ring. I like the engraving idea.

Just reuse it. I like the idea of engraving it but why on earth buy new? fWIW mine was found in my dad’s loft. We think it’s an old family one . £30 to clean and polish and it fits with my engagement ring perfectly. Didn’t see the point in spending on another one! The marriage is fine!

oh just reuse, especially if you're already over budget

But if you do reuse it I wouldn't tell anyone because it is a bit weird!

You'll wear it every day and see it every day - isn't there something you can cut to make a little spare cash for a new one? Wedding rings don't have to be expensive.

My husband and I were very skint when we got married and weren't bothered about anything fancy, so we went to a jeweller that was having a really good sale at the time and got both our rings (mine sterling with small diamond, his titanium) for about £70. I think we saved over £100 in total.

I couldn't use a ring from an ex. I'd be thinking about him every time I looked at it

I’d definitely reuse it. But I would get DP to engrave it with a simple message to make it feel sentimental to this marriage

How does your husband to be feel about it?

Can you find a jewellers that could set a few stones in it?

Go to a jeweller and see if you can exchange or part exchange for a similar ring to roughly the same value?

No I wouldn't in those circumstances. A ring is a symbol between two people. Given from one to the other.

I would let your husband to be decide

No way. What does your future husband think of this.

If he isn't arsed I would be concerned.

What does your fiancé think? If he doesn't mind, get it polished and engraved, perhaps have a tiny diamond or two set into it. If he does mind, get a new one, perhaps a lovely but not-too-expensive antique.

^^This is what I think, really. But part of me is agreeing with Vladimirs and thinking 'nah, you can't do that'.