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To reuse my wedding ring?!

104 replies

ImMissHannigan · 15/02/2018 13:35

Just that really. I had a really short lived marriage about 5 years ago. Still have the lovely platinum wedding band. I paid a lot of money for it at the time but when it came to sell, it only had scrap value of about £60 so I kept hold of it. No emotional attachment to it whatsoever.
I'm getting married again this year and have been looking at wedding bands. The OH doesn't want to wear a ring as he doesn't wear jewellery. So it's just for me. I'm looking at paying the same all over again for a ring that I already have in the drawer. WIBU to send it away to be polished and to reuse it? Part of me says absolutely not and the other part says it's just a piece of metal. So wise ladies of Mumsnet, what do you think? If it's of any relevance, we are over budget by about £2k at the moment so could do with cutting corners where we can.

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sanesera · 15/02/2018 14:40

I think it's strange and would rather go ringless. It's not like your DH is going to wear one. It's a bit Confused imo.

MagicFajita · 15/02/2018 14:40

I wouldn't reuse it.

A new silver band will cost a few quid if you're on a budget.

Coastalcommand · 15/02/2018 14:41

Our rings were bought secondhand. I have no idea of the history but I imagine they could be from a divorce. When the vicar performed our marriage he blessed the rings and for me that cleaned them of any history and just made them about us.

Singadream · 15/02/2018 14:41

Reuse but engrave it

mumpoints · 15/02/2018 14:42

Ask DF, if he's OK with it, reuse it. As pp suggested, get it engraved to make it personal to your new marriage.

CrabappleBiscuit · 15/02/2018 14:46

Reuse, of course. It's ecofriendly so a great start to a marriage. I wouldn't think twice about it.

MaidenMotherCrone · 15/02/2018 14:46

Never! Just don't bother with one of you cannot afford one. Would you mind if he wore his from his last marriage? It just makes them pointless.

dingdongdigeridoo · 15/02/2018 14:48

Seems a bit weird to me. I’d go to a local jewellers who buy and sell rings and see if they’d do an exchange. I’m sure you could swap it for a plain band.

UpstartCrow · 15/02/2018 14:52

I would have it polished and engraved, and when I picked it up from the jewellers would treat it as a new ring.

JE17 · 15/02/2018 14:54

It's a ring you like, with no emotional attachment whatsoever and your soon to be DH has no objections - go for it. Congratulations btw.

chocatoo · 15/02/2018 14:54

I like the idea of reusing - engraving sounds lovely. When you have a bit of spare cash pay to have some little diamonds set into it?

Felicitycity · 15/02/2018 14:55

No way would I do this. a wedding ring is an expression of a commitment between 2 people. Just no.

TenancyTroublesAgain · 15/02/2018 14:56

I couldn't.

Treaclespongeandcustard · 15/02/2018 14:58

I wouldn't

cakecakecheese · 15/02/2018 15:15

Do a swapsie with someone so that way it's not your old ring? I would offer you mine but it's white gold not platinum so you'd have a rough deal Grin

TerfsUp · 15/02/2018 15:16

Reuse it.

TheEmmaDilemma · 15/02/2018 15:18

Restyle it. My wedding and engagement rings were part formed from my mothers rings. When I got divorced they remained mine and as a birthday present my mother and I had them reworked again with my grandmothers ring as a dress ring I wear daily. It has no occasion at all for me to my previous marriage. It's MY ring.

stoplickingthetelly · 15/02/2018 15:21

Think you probably could reuse it, but I would have it changed in some way. Maybe some stones set in?

Giraffe888 · 15/02/2018 15:21

I’m re-marrying this year and there’s no way I’d have used my last wedding ring

Bananalanacake · 15/02/2018 15:22

Great idea . Go for it

OlennasWimple · 15/02/2018 15:26

Personally, I wouldn't

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 15/02/2018 15:26

I'd reuse it and get it engraved.

Maybe ask about getting it changed slightly- you could add a matte finish or brushed look. Engraving is easy to do as well.

FellOutOfBed2wice · 15/02/2018 15:27

I wouldn’t. I’m not sentimental about much and don’t even wear my rings every day but when I do I like that they’re my rings that are a symbol of my marriage. If I divorced DH i wouldn’t then use them as a symbol of that marriage. I’m even uncomfortable about Prince William using his mother’s ring for his now wife when his parents marriage was such a nightmare- if there’s been a recent divorce attached to that ring (let alone your own!) I think use another ring!

mumpoints · 15/02/2018 15:29

I'm assuming if the ring had any negative significance, the OP wouldn't even think of it. She would have thrown it or sold it a long time ago. But she bought it and likes it and it's a wedding ring!

Bourgainvillia · 15/02/2018 15:34

Check with hubby first imo. See how he expresses himself.

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