Partners who sent flowers/balloons to a person's workplace

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

That's it really...AIBU to think this is incredibley showy to send flowers or balloons etc to your partners workplace. It reeks of smug couples and "look at me and this big generic grand gesture I can do in front of as many people as possible ". Understated things done more privately are a lot better and I've never actually seen anyone not look embarrassed to have flowers delivered to them at work. It's done more as a "look what a wonderful DP I am in front of my partners work colleagues " thing....

Yes I'm in a relationship and not bitter. I get flowers and this idea would be my worse nightmare

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Don't be so sure that the people who are getting their flowers didn't tell their own DPs!

I’d be super embarrassed but secretly be really touched. It’s never happened to me but the odd time it’s happened others I’ve not thought much more than aww that’s sweet.

It's the same thing as the big love declarations on FB and other social media. Some people need an audience!

I do find flowers cringing, and on Valentine downright embarrassing, but I have to admit that the random deliveries of doughnuts/ chocolates/ cupcakes/ wine occasionally sent by my DH are always appreciated (and by my team too, as they get to help themselves)

If a person knows their partner is at work and won't be home to take delivery it is fine. We sent some to MIL on her last day at work before retirement and she loved them. Having flowers delivered always feels more special than being given a bunch.

Someone I worked with had them sent in from her husband for an anniversary (they lived together, saw each other that morning and would be seeing each other again in a few hours at home). Seemed silly to me and nothing more than a public show.
I had a female relative send me some for my birthday once. I still wanted to cringe and couldn’t think what possessed her. I then had to spend the rest of the afternoon explaining to curious coworkers that no, I did not have a secret admirer. I guess she sent them there as that was the only way for me to receive them but I can’t say I enjoyed the experience!

It's Ok on valentine's Day but any other time I'd worry. I've only ever seen huge bouquets in work when the partner has cheated. Have none of you heard the saying the bigger the bouquet the worse he behaved

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It's the romantic relationship equivalent of performance parenting, imho...

I'd imagine most do it because it's expected by their partner, lots are so insecure they need public declarations that they can show off at work and FB etc.

It can also be a sign all is not well and one party has cheated.

If you have to declare you love someone publicly not privately there are usually issues in the relationship.

Depends. Anywhere I’ve ever worked, I’ve travelled at least 2 hours via trains/buses/walking. Don’t know if I’d fancy bringing balloons/teddies/flowers home on public transport in the rain.

Yes, to Ross in friends! A singing trio/quartet would be embarrassing though.

It's Ok on valentine's Day but any other time I'd worry. I've only ever seen huge bouquets in work when the partner has cheated.

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It is not showy, grand or pretentious to be showered in flowers. To have tokens of love gradually overlaid upwards towards the sky, surrounding you.

Anyone who gets flowers delivered on Valentine's Day is a bit daft. It's such a rip off, I would rather have the cash.

As for receiving them I guess it depends what job you do. Not everyone has a desk to put them on. Where I used to work they stacked up in the basin of the Ladies.

It doesn’t annoy me when other people have flowers etc delivered home but it would annoy me if dp sent me stuff to work.

I would be so embarrassed and he knows it!

The deeper, more colourful and higher they come, then and only then can you truly say...

A friend sent flowers to his girlfriend at work because he was working away and he wasn’t sure what time she’d get home to be able to take delivery, but he wanted to do something for her.

Why does anyone care what someone else does, though?

"Fuck this shit! Goodbye everyone. I'm going to be a florist"

A dozen red roses, at the London train station just now, £96 for a dozen. I kid you not.

And the queue was 9 men and women long.

YANBU I think it’s awful. Why do you need to make a romantic gesture so publicly. Romantic gestures should be a private thing between the couple. But I think the same about public proposals etc. They are tacky, embarrassing and naff.

I think it's worst on Valentine! When people have to do some gesture!

DH has only sent me flowers once to the office and I was overjoyed, it's the only time in my 45 years that has ever happened. It wasn't for V Day tho as we don't really bother with it. I always think it's lovely if i see them arriving at the reception desk in work for someone.

cringe. A colleague of mine gets flowers from her husband every birthday and valentines. They’re paraded around like it’s a massive surprise every time.

If you don't live together and aren't seeing each other then yes it's lively. Otherwise total cringe, and a message to other people.
DH and I took the day off, bought each other lovely gifts and went out for lunch. I haven't even posted on fb

The first year my fiance and I were long distance, he sent flowers to my office. I was having the most awful day, and it was lovely.

The funny thing though was that I worked for a horrible married couple. The woman was openly cooing over them, dropping heavy hints. The next morning I got a petrol receipt from the garage at 11.30pm with flowers included.

I think it's called "washing your clean linen in public" isn't it?