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Partners who sent flowers/balloons to a person's workplace

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 14/02/2018 17:40

That's it really...AIBU to think this is incredibley showy to send flowers or balloons etc to your partners workplace. It reeks of smug couples and "look at me and this big generic grand gesture I can do in front of as many people as possible ". Understated things done more privately are a lot better and I've never actually seen anyone not look embarrassed to have flowers delivered to them at work. It's done more as a "look what a wonderful DP I am in front of my partners work colleagues " thing....

Yes I'm in a relationship and not bitter. I get flowers and this idea would be my worse nightmare Grin

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jaseyraex · 14/02/2018 17:54

I would die of embarrassment but I don't like all the attention being on me. Each to their own though, if that's what you like then that's what you like!

MrsJoshDun · 14/02/2018 17:56

If they’re at work they won’t be at home to accept a delivery! And I say that as someone who’s never had flowers delivered at work but I’m not bothered of people,do.

MagicFajita · 14/02/2018 17:57

I wouldn't like it but it happened to a colleague once and they were chuffed. Each to their own and all that.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 14/02/2018 17:57

I remember (cringingly if that is a word) a barber shop trio coming into the office to croon on bended knee to one of the admins. Tuxedos, slicked hair, the whole nine yards. I was mortified for her.

but then chased them down and paid them to appear at my front door that evening to sing to DH since I'd forgotten to get him anything

greenbeansqueen · 14/02/2018 17:57

I think it’s 1) very sweet 2) very practical! If i’m At work all day then there’s not much point in sending flowers to my house.

MsHarry · 14/02/2018 17:57

I once worked in an office where a couple worked and he sent her 5 separate gifts to be delivered to work throughout the day. On the one hand it was romantic, on the other it was really creepy cos he sat there looking all smug everytime she got a call down to reception to collect the latest red satin/naff item(I'm not bitter) and he loved all the cooing from her friends. Needles to say it wasn't a measure of their relationship as they split not long after.

sonjadog · 14/02/2018 17:58

I don´t think this has ever happened where I work.

That might be a sad comment on all of us in my office.

Rebeccaslicker · 14/02/2018 17:58

Flowers at work is one of my favourite things - it really lifts the day.

I got a lovely bunch of roses today and yep - I am smug!

Witchend · 14/02/2018 18:00

I think it depends.
One young lady (I'd guess she's 19/20yo) at our workplace had her fairly new boyfriend turn up with flowers and a balloon. He handed them over to her quietly, and it clearly brought both of them a lot of pleasure. He works tonight so they won't see each other other than that quick 15 minutes today. It was very sweet.

When it's a couple who live together it looked very cringe and show-offy to me though. Why would you send it to the workplace then?

Blackteadrinker77 · 14/02/2018 18:01

I couldn't care.

Willswife · 14/02/2018 18:01

My brother's ex girlfriend sent a barbers shop quartet to his office. Mortified doesn't even begin to explain how he felt!

otherdoor · 14/02/2018 18:02

Many years ago I had surprise flowers sent to me at work - from an ex boyfriend who was trying to win me back (after he dumped me!!) Have to be honest, it was brilliant Grin

dantdmistedious · 14/02/2018 18:03

I think if like me you've been married for years it's a bit wanky.

Relatively new couple, first valentines, it's quite sweet if vomit inducing.

I've been laughing at some girls on my train Tonight trying to deal with some HUGE bunches of flowers, half of them will be broken by the time they get home.

FiveNightsAtMummys · 14/02/2018 18:04

Well It'd be a bit silly sending them to their home if there at work!

MaisyPops · 14/02/2018 18:04

I hate it and what's worse is the people who love the attention dress up any eye rolls as people being 'jealous of how amazing and thoughtful my DP is'.

teaiseverything · 14/02/2018 18:06

I'd crawl up my own vagina and die if someone did this to me but I think it's lovely seeing other people receive flowers at work

crunchymint · 14/02/2018 18:06

Honestly if it makes someone happy, who cares.

confusednotcom2 · 14/02/2018 18:06

Is it normal? I worked in fashion so in a office with hundreds of girls. While we were happy to receive flowers from suppliers or our teams Valentines flowers were very rare. Obvs if your partner works abroad thats different but if you live together don’t you just wake up or are brought home flowers? Plus not many bunches would survive a trip home on the Northern line at 5.30pm!

Sallystyle · 14/02/2018 18:07

I would feel very embarrassed if my husband sent flowers to my workplace.

Just no.

Goodadvice1980 · 14/02/2018 18:07

YANBU.

I work with a woman who constantly goes on about her partner needing to send flowers etc to work, she nags him about not sending flowers and gifts (so we can all see how wonderful he is as a partner - except he is a total loser and a cheat, but she wants to portray the image of a perfect relationship!).

Fluffyears · 14/02/2018 18:08

I got them once from dp and not for show. His father had just died and I was working, supporting him and biting my tongue with MIL so she could stay with us for the first few weeks. He got my flowers to say ‘thank you for being amazing i’m So lucky’ if anyone thought that was sad or wanky then I don’t give a shiny shit!

AmethystRaven · 14/02/2018 18:09

My colleague used to get flowers delivered from her husband (who worked on the floor below, from the florist over the road) every occasion and if it fell on a weekend the delivery would come on Friday!

rwalker · 14/02/2018 18:11

i think each to there own personally would hate it and really don't think my wife would like ether

Lentilbaby · 14/02/2018 18:11

Nothing wrong with flowers....I’ve had them sent to work if I’ve been a bit down over something....so to cheer me up. Also had them to congratulate me on an achievement. Made me happy on both occasions.

riggitywrecked · 14/02/2018 18:11

DP has some tulips delivered to my office today.
I mentioned he didn't have to send them to the office but his answer was simple: "but you spend most of your time there and I want you to enjoy them!"
So I will Grin