Partners who sent flowers/balloons to a person's workplace

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

That's it really...AIBU to think this is incredibley showy to send flowers or balloons etc to your partners workplace. It reeks of smug couples and "look at me and this big generic grand gesture I can do in front of as many people as possible ". Understated things done more privately are a lot better and I've never actually seen anyone not look embarrassed to have flowers delivered to them at work. It's done more as a "look what a wonderful DP I am in front of my partners work colleagues " thing....

Yes I'm in a relationship and not bitter. I get flowers and this idea would be my worse nightmare

You've utterly missed the point OP. Flowers at work are great. You're there to receive the delivery and you get to keep a beautiful bunch of flowers on your desk!!! YABVVVVU (and a misery guts)

Bit on the fence here (picks splinters from arse). It can be rather nice to get an unexpected gift during the working day - a client once sent me a bunch of flowers, and I was thrilled. It can also be performative heteromonogamy LOOK HOW TRADITIONALLY ROMANTIC WE ARE.

And it can also be harassment - vast amounts of gifts and flowers from the man who's battering the crap out of the recipient on a regular basis, but makes all these big 'romantic' gestures as well, and only hurts her because he loooooooooves her.

And don't forget the stalkers who send flowers, and the fact that, while flowers and balloons and teddies are just objects, and can be a source of pleasure, if they are sent by someone you dislike or are scared of, the things themselves become scary and disgusting.

Id LOVE this! Its happened once but was a crap bunch... i love having flowers delivered to my house so work is even better! I wanted a public proposal with an aeroplane banner though... DH is thr opposite and not at all into such public declarations... i have been known to "help" him update his facebook status
.. (sad i know but i dont care! If he didnt agree with the sentiment he wouldn't let me post it

Ah dont be so miserable OP... youd love it really

Don’t get me started on giant teddies or huge balloons. Wtf!!

Nice for the recipient though!

My DH did this once, when he was my DP. It was bloody lovely, and I've never forgotten it.

Oh boke, I'd hate that.

Reminds me of women who make their OPs do "daddy dates" with their daughters/give their daughters flowers for valentines.

OPs? OHs*

Personally i would hate this and would be really embarrassed but if the reciprocate is happy then I don't see a problem with it.

As long as the sender knows the person well enough to know they won't be embarrassing them it's fine.

My husband did it when I left a job where some people weren't very nice. He was worried nothing would be done to mark the day, in fact I had some presents and cards so he needn't have worried but I thought it was kind.

Bit cringey yeah. Also a bit ‘I forgot to get you anything ready for before work so I have phoned a florist last minute’.

Also, as pp mentioned Ross from friends, I may also think it's the boyfriend/ husband letting everyone know he exists and how wonderful he is.

I would hate it but I don't like being the centre of attention. My sister got some roses today and hid them in the cloakroom as she was so embarrassed. She used to complain the last boyfriend wasn't romantic enough. This one is considered too much! I do think some people are just more "showy" than others.

I’d die! And the kicker would be that I’d also get done by the company as you are expressly forbidden from receiving personal items at work as it is ‘wasting company resources’ as the post room have to receive them. So I’d be punished for getting something I didn’t want!

Others can do what they like though!

We don't bother with Valentine's day but I would have thought choosing an exact delivery time, on one of the most busiest days of the year must be really difficult.

Therefore, they might have no choice but to have them delivered to that person's work place?

Never had them at work but have had them delivered to home when DH not here which was lovely as it's not to be showy. Nicest time was when they were in the hotel room he'd booked for me for as a birthday treat.

I would die if this happened to me.

I was once sent flowers to work when I took a call and the caller chatted to me rather than listen to the hold music.

We were together for about a year!

I'd love it too. However, I haven't got a Valentine

But, not to be outdone, I do notice that my bestie has somehow sneaked into my house (not difficult: he has keys) and left a gift wrapped Agent Provocateur box on my settee

That's one of the first things I remember about being on MN, a thread where someone explained how flowers sent to the workplace can be a red flag. It was a real eye-opener!

Well, I've spent years and years seeing other people get flowers on Valentines Day, and never have I got any. Makes me quite sad actually that the present Mr Droid (and the previous one) never thought to send me a bunch.

I could mention it, but it wouldn't be the same...

My ex used to do this. Interestingly he always used to ask what everyone said/thought, i.e clearly wanting to look good/impress.

Lucymek

You do sound bitter ...

No, she doesn’t! She is absolutely correct. It is an utterly embarrassing thing to do particularly if there are daft balloons involved. Just no!!!!!

In addition, not everyone is in a position to have gifts etc delivered to their workplace - teachers, for instance. Can’t imagine it happening in a firm of lawyers, either. Lol

Not bitter either. Wine and chocolates laterz...

gosh, I think this is so crinch - I would have been extremely embarrassed.

My first thought: partner must be cheating or something and feel incredibly guilty to stage such a show. Crinch. Crinch. Crinch.

Cringe!?

My husband of 21 yrs organised a delivery of flowers to my workplace today, and it was a lovely surprise.