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how many transgender people do you know

504 replies

ambereeree · 14/02/2018 14:50

Just that really. I've only met one at work a man who had the change to a woman.
From the number of threads recently it would appear that people are bumping into trans people everywhere they turn.

OP posts:
satnc · 14/02/2018 21:02

Just one that I know of, female to male. Started to transition mid/late teens, and has now had a few different surgeries etc.

lookingforthedroids · 14/02/2018 21:03

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Oblomov18 · 14/02/2018 21:06

None

FluffyPineapple · 14/02/2018 21:08

At the age of 7 I wanted to be a boy, I got my brother to chop my hair off, wore boys clothes (brothers hand me downs), climbed trees, played in mud and loved playing with cars and star wars toys. Didn’t mean I wanted to be trans. I’m still not very feminine, never wear make up, still like cars (but real ones) and I rarely wear a dress but I’m proud to be a female. When I was a child it was just called being a tom boy

LoveMusic. Me too..

We don’t wear dresses or make-up. How can we call ourselves women? After all being a women is all about dresses and make-up (and hair straighteners) right?

Fuck knows where the kids came from tho?

littleducks · 14/02/2018 21:08

None that I am aware of. DH meets many (recently hasn't always been so) working industry he works in

Bombardier25966 · 14/02/2018 21:13

One, f to m. He's happy and no one is in any doubt that he is now as he should be.

The hysteria/ transphobia about it on here is vile, it's no better than labelling a Muslim a terrorist because of the actions of a tiny minority. mumsnet's failure to act on it puts the forum in a very bad light to those looking in.

Catkins0877 · 14/02/2018 21:15

One.I think maybe it's just a safer environment for now now so more are living the way they want which is great.:)

Sleepless123456789 · 14/02/2018 21:18

Several, however one of them committed suicide last year. This is one of the reasons it makes me so angry to read all the transphobic threads on here, I think a lot of people don't consider how people on the other end will feel, or bother to properly research the issue.

MrGrumpy01 · 14/02/2018 21:19

We don’t wear dresses or make-up. How can we call ourselves women? After all being a women is all about dresses and make-up (and hair straighteners) right?

Aah but I also have hairy arm pits and short hair.

I must be a man.

In all seriousness though, I do remember struggling with this slightly when I was late teens/very early twenties, I didn't seem to fit into what was considered female (despite being on a very female dominated degree course) but then didn't fit into hat was considered a male. But I just got on with it, no labels, no boxes. It seems sad that 20 years on labels and boxes are everywhere and if I was now I would have to identify as something.

Mayday01 · 14/02/2018 21:33

Sleepless, I think one look at Twitter with the Terfs, lesbian bashing and nasty tone of trans activists, it's easy to see why women don't want that in their spaces.
Some of us have people who we love who are trans, they don't at all resemble those people. So I can see where you're coming from, as we want life made as easy for them as possible.
It's a tough issue, and one I can't see solved by Self Id, which I think was probably brought in to reduce the cost of health services to trans people (cynical)

laudanum · 14/02/2018 21:37

A good deal of my friends are under the trans umbrella, along with myself. We just want to be allowed to exist, and we don't want to hurt anybody.

GrannyHeadology · 14/02/2018 21:40

I know 5 personally.
1 MTF with full surgical transition, she is 48 and began transitioning at 33
4 FTM 1 with full surgical transition, he is 28 and began transitioning at 19 with
The other 3 range from 25 to 56

A colleagues daughter came out as trans 2 years ago aged 15 but I don’t know them very well

CerealMonogamist · 14/02/2018 21:45

None at all.

MorganKitten · 14/02/2018 21:46

I work in an lgbtq safe space, my local is a drag bar with lgbtq nights... I know several mtf and ftm

UnderCaffeinated · 14/02/2018 21:48

I know 3, two of them are MTF (both early 20s when they started transitioning) and one who is FTM (early 30s), all of whom are so much happier now that they live life as the genders they feel that they are.

Pretenditsaplan · 14/02/2018 21:53

About 20-30 but then i have friends all around the world. Today i went with a close friend for her pre-op. To me its no big deal theyre just trying to be themselves.

Fairenuff · 14/02/2018 21:53

OP had returned. Seems to be that some people know trans people, others don't. Some see to know quite a lot.

Barely. With very little comment.

The first half of the thread was about 80% know trans people 20% don't. Why has OP got nothing to say about that?

Halebeke425 · 14/02/2018 21:56

In real life I know two f to m, and I've met around 6 m to f trans people, one of which I'm friends with.

Online in forums, Facebook etc I've met quite a few but obviously wouldn't say I 'know' them.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 14/02/2018 22:05

One very, very well (FtM). Well enough to have been to multiple GIC appointments with him. We no longer speak for reasons totally unrelated to him being trans.

Through him, frankly, I lost count of how many others I met.

FWIW I can't be doing with all these trans threads on MN. It's full of rabid women frothing at the mouth about the issue, unable to engage in any proper debate, instead choosing to shout down those who disagree with them so that they can continue their little echochamber where it's acceptable to trample over the rights of vulnerable people.

Betti936 · 14/02/2018 22:06

The hysteria/ transphobia about it on here is vile

Like I said, one of my friends who is trans is vehemently opposed to self-ID (and I suspect some of the others are concerned but are just keeping their heads down). There are also a number of high profile transwomen who are opposed to self-ID and have spoken about this at various events. Are they all hysterical and transphobic too?

alltoomuchrightnow · 14/02/2018 22:06

Three. One a colleague, one a good friend and one a customer. I have known many more than this though

Betti936 · 14/02/2018 22:09

@StealingYourWiFi

One M to F, she's lovely but it does irk when she calls in sick with 'period pain'.

Does she get away with that???

PositivelyPERF · 14/02/2018 22:11

It's full of rabid women frothing at the mouth about the issue, unable to engage in any proper debate, instead choosing to shout down those who disagree with them so that they can continue their little echochamber where it's acceptable to trample over the rights of vulnerable people if you actually took the time to read the threads you would see that men and transsexuals post too, but if your misogynistic little brain wants to assume we’re all ‘rabid women’ go on ahead. I’ve been called worse for trying to protect females.

IfNot · 14/02/2018 22:12

It's full of rabid women frothing at the mouth about the issue, unable to engage in any proper debate, instead choosing to shout down those who disagree with them so that they can continue their little echochamber where it's acceptable to trample over the rights of vulnerable people.

Sorry..please explain to me exactly how "rabid women" are trampling over the rights of trans people?
Because I kinda feel like it's the other way round..

PositivelyPERF · 14/02/2018 22:13

Since you’re so interested in proper debate AvocadosBeforeMortgages, could you please tell me what a woman/female is?