how many transgender people do you know

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Just that really. I've only met one at work a man who had the change to a woman.
From the number of threads recently it would appear that people are bumping into trans people everywhere they turn.

IfNot: I also know plenty of genderqueer and nonbinary people, but no, I wasn't including them in the thirty.

3
One young teen FTM
One older teen FTM
One adult MTF
Plus one later teen gender non conforming/possible FTM in the future.

Only a couple of old-fangled transexuals m to f. Lived as female, had the therapy, took the drugs and has the ops. A long road.

Used to meet transvestites in my student clubbing days (all male, none said they believed themselves to be women, or intended to go through any body changes).

I know, I know, but I guess the parents see what they want to see. Or what their ideas about masculinity and femininity enable them to see.

I did meet someone recently who described himself as 'gay as fuck' and about to start transitioning with the aim of a full surgical transformation because he 'loves pink, glitter and heels'.

None, not a one. I heard rummers of a young m-f teen going through the process in town (community of 9,000) people. I saw him/her maybe on 3 occasions.

Six. Two M to F both in their 40s, one 20 years post surgery, the other ten years post surgery. Both seem happy and settled in their lives. The first I've only known as a woman, the second I met when she was transitioning pre-surgery.

One is a young man who was at primary school with my DC. He was a very unhappy child, and seems much more comfortable with life now. Apparently undergoing surgery in the near future.

Two are people my DC was at college with. One F to M who uses the pronoun they. One M to F who is a screaming attention seeker, and is just generally an annoying, unpleasant person.

The last is someone I've come across through work, a M to F who is in his late 30s and wears leotards, tutus and smears red lipstick across his bearded face. Very disturbed and prone to loud, tearful tantrums if he feels anyone is discriminating against him or being transphobic. I think there are a lot of other issues going on there, and I believe he is desperately vulnerable.

One reasonably close friend is MtF. Has been for years. She passes reasonably well and is very happy.
I know another MtF through a joint hobby. She does not pass at all and makes very little attempt to. Often stubbly and hairy chest etc. Enjoys making other people uncomfortable. Very odd person.
I have a MtF who is a facebook friend only and finally I have a FtM aquaintance who I met through a different hobby. He has had full surgery and as far as I know, no one else there knows that he used to be a woman.
Also a friend's son is MtF and her boyfriend is FtM and a friend of my husband's from years ago has also apparently transitioned. We haven't seen them though.

My best friend's neice is 19 and is presently claiming to be gender nonconforming. She originally identified as gay, then as trans and is at the moment super feminine, long blonde hair, lots of makeup and a boyfriend who is 15 years older than her, so exactly how she's nonconforming I'm not totally sure. I think I'm too old to understand.

I've known maybe about 30 or so trans people over my lifetime - although only a few I'm currently in contact with.

These have mainly been older (ie 40+) so mainly transwomen - some of whom are lovely people and some (particularly prevalent among recent transitioners) are domineering, creepy misogynists. Obviously I try to avoid contact with the latter group.

Until about 5 years ago I'd only ever had positive experiences of transwomen.

One of the transwomen I am friends with is vocally opposed to self ID and thinks it is damaging for both transsexuals and natal women. Most of the other nice/non-transactivist transwomen never say anything about trans politics and I've never brought it up with them as I don't know if it would hurt their feelings although I suspect they may not be fully onboard with the new agenda.

I have had some contact with young trans/non-binary etc identifying people but much less.

Four.

But one of them was female to male back when we were teens and they seem to have given up on the idea and now behaves like your average woman/mother.

1 FtM who transitioned in late teens, had hormones and top surgery, and now in mid-twenties is starting to doubt if it was the right decision. We are very good friends, and at the time of transition I wasn’t aware of the gender politics of it all and was very supportive. I wish I’d done more research and tried to encourage waiting.

1 FtM who came out last year, and has started on testosterone since then. Not legally transitioned and is still a member of a women’s group I’m in. Has developed epilepsy since starting on hormones, but there’s no research to suggest it’s related, just an odd coincidence.

1 MtF who I only see a few times a year and don’t know very well, but always wears very large fake breasts and has chosen a very unusual name and attention-seeking name imo.

8 - all FTM

Four, though three are students at the university where I work - one M-F and two F-M. One M-F outside work.

One Female to Male teenager.
One non binary.

Actually 10. 8 FTM - including 2 who got pregnant as trans men and 2 MTF - older ( in their 50s +)

Do 4 year olds present with male/female behaviours? I’m sure if you were in a room of 4 year olds they would all be acting similar?

There is a general difference in behaviour, I spend all day in a room full of 4 year olds.

Boys tend to be louder, run about more and are obsessed with making guns. Girls tend to spend more time drawing, making, role play, small world play.
The big question though is if this is nature or nurture.
Are boys socialised to run about and be loud with girls socialised to be more quiet?

And I know a few ‘queer gendered non- binary’ identifying people.

I don't know any, and I know a lot of people. Maybe I don't move in the right circles or maybe I've met them but don't know (eg. in shops or whatever) but although it's a big thing on MN, in real life I just don't know any at all.

One now.

I used to work in a clothing shop that was popular with MtoF ladies as the shoe range went from a 3 - 10, so ‘knew’ a few then too, but that was many many years ago.

One mtf, I wouldn’t have know if she hadn’t told me. Know her quite well.

1. FTM who I have known since he was 14, began transitioning just after he was 16. Now 18 and loving his new life.

I was going to say 0 but I grew up with Julia Grant (then George Roberts) who made tv history in 1979 with a fly on the wall documentary about her transition journey.

A teacher at my sons school M-F

And a friends son F-M who is currently undergoing treatment.

4 - two M2F. two F2M.

However two of these were a long time ago and I'm not in touch with them anymore.

Of the other two, one is a friend who I also knew before he came out as transgender. one is a student. I also know "of" others at work, but wouldn't say I know them personally.