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Apparently, I’m Dead - The Afterlife

487 replies

BigFatFanny · 14/02/2018 10:24

You asked for it Grin

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ineedwine99 · 14/02/2018 15:40

OP you two sound awesome, i agree with PP, keep social media locked down and stay well away from her.
Maybe have your husband message the group of friends to clear his name and hopefully they'll address it with her

NameWithChange · 14/02/2018 15:40

What does this new lady think of it?

It is seriously mental behaviour , did she have any suggestions? And why would she want to stay friends with such a destructive loon?

BewareOfDragons · 14/02/2018 15:41

I'd seriously consider having your DH send her a message, possibly publicly, telling her that she is slandering him by spreading lies about her imaginary relationship with him, and that he was seriously considering going to the police and seeking the advice of a solicitor if she didn't tell everyone she had in fact made the whole thing up and stop slandering him immediately.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 14/02/2018 15:42

M0 must be seriously unwell as it sounds like she's got Erotomania:
A delusion in which a person (typically a woman) believes that another person (typically of higher social status) is in love with them.

Obviously it's not nice for you & DH that she's delusional.
I think OPs are right in saying keep a document of everything & speak to the police, hopefully will nip this all in the bud.

On a lighter note can BFF can we call you the Grateful Undead?

foxyfemke · 14/02/2018 15:47

Oh, these threads have kept me entertained today, inbetween revision. You're a legend, OP and so is your husband. And I hope you're OK too, that's some weird shit happening to you.

UpstartCrow · 14/02/2018 15:47

Dont let your DH message her! People who are fixated take any approach as positive.
Block her on social media and get your DH to make his account private.

ASDismynormality · 14/02/2018 15:51

Ignoring from now on is definitely the way to go. M0 sounds unwell, it’s best to keep away.

Eatalot · 14/02/2018 15:57

Do your parents or old school have any old artwork, it will be worth a lot more now you are dead.

notapizzaeater · 14/02/2018 16:02

She sounds like she needs help, poor love imagining all that - surely she'd realise it would come back to bite her ?

EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB · 14/02/2018 16:06

Fucking hell, well this has taken a dark turn.

No advice, but I don't think getting DH to contact her is a good idea. I'd give her a wide berth and try to ignore.

Bekabeech · 14/02/2018 16:08

I've loved these threads - BUT I would think about telling the police about it. She definitely sounds like a stalker, and them having an awareness of the situation could help if it escalates further.

Itscurtainsforyou · 14/02/2018 16:13

I would say that your DH should contact the police as he seems to be the target of this stalker, you're just collateral damage Confused. They might want to go and have a word with her to warn her off.

Then as long as you're as sure as you can be that it's complete nonsense (and it sounds it to me), then I would close the book on it.

ReanimatedSGB · 14/02/2018 16:14

People, generally, don't want to 'make a fuss', so a social group (like the Mfriends) have probably developed the habit of just putting up with M0's bullshit and rolling their eyes at one another when she goes to the loo.

Unfortunately, now and again, people like M0 do kind of step up a gear, and it all gets out of hand, which may be what is happening here. As I previously said, maybe a word with the non-emergency police about it, but I think you and your H are right to block her and lock down your social media rather than engaging with her any further.

soupforbrains · 14/02/2018 16:14

Wow M0 really takes the biscuit doesn't she. I think you're right hat it's not really your problem though. You and your amazing, enviable Viking DH are obviously entirely open and close enough for it to not be an issue at all. Now that you've locked down your profiles I can't see what she can possible do.

On the matter of the Sun, i find it weird that they clearly decided that he word Fanny was too rude to write. It that referring to you as 'Big Fat' wasn't. Somehow Big Fat seems insulting in a way that Big Fat Fanny isn't.

To get this back onto a lighter note I'm desperate to know what BFFDH has done for you for Valentine's Day. If it's not funereal or at the very least Fiesta del muertos themed I shall be very disappointed. I hope he realises he has an audience which expects great things of him...

What time will you be home? Just so as we know when to check for updates...

OutyMcOutface · 14/02/2018 16:25

Confused she sounds nuts-she's not dangerous is she? I'm worried that you are actually going to end up dead.

RoseGoldRosie · 14/02/2018 16:30

Creepy. Shock

At one point he did a full Kanye

This cracked me up though Grin

Jux · 14/02/2018 16:32

You're quite right, it's not your problem, anyone who knows you also knows it's bullshit. Dignified silence is the way to go, and forget about her.

I, too, would love to know what dh has done for your for Deathly Valentine. Do tell!

OhBigHairyBollocks · 14/02/2018 16:49

I'd just keep as much evidence against her as possible whilst ignoring her. Any more, straight to the police.

BigFatFanny · 14/02/2018 16:53

I don't know what he's done, but when I called him to discuss the latest revelations I heard my DF in the background shout "DH! can you-" and He said "I'm just on the phone to Fan" in a pointed way... so I dont know if he's home or at my parents Confused

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GlitteryPegasus · 14/02/2018 16:56

I have read your first thread but not this one, I will read it tonight.

I just wanted to say that yourself and your DH are truly amazing and your relationship is absolutely fantastic! M0 cannot come close to having even half of what you two have and that's why she's so bitter and jealous. I hope you enjoyed your cake and Chinese! And congratulations for making it to classics you deserve it Grin you and your DH really do sound lovely, I'm so happy for you both Smile

BigFatFanny · 14/02/2018 16:57

I very much doubt she’s dangerous.. in any case, my DH is 6ft 7 with a detachable projectile Grin

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Lweji · 14/02/2018 17:00

M0 - Glenn Close

I almost posted yesterday to ask about any pet rabbits, but thought it was OTT. Considering the latest developments, maybe not. Keep your pets close. And watch out in the bathroom.

KittyKat73 · 14/02/2018 17:06

WOW M0 sounds sooo crazy Confused I hope shes just spinning a big bullshit story for her friends and not actually told family and kids all these lies!.

I would make sure you keep all these screenshots as evidence just in the off chance she goes a bit full on stalker.

knowwhereyourheadis · 14/02/2018 17:07

I'm going to get soooo pissed at your Fwake and tell everyone I slept with your DH too. It was a 3some don't you know. Grin

cannotmakemymindup · 14/02/2018 17:08

For all the dark turns you keep making me laugh out loud bff good thing I'm on my own in a house atm. Seriously amazing one liners!