Kids names...

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To wonder why people care so much about other people's lives...?

My kids have unusual names and I get constant remarks and it has begun to piss me off my standard reply now is It's not of anyone else's business and it's so rude.

Perhaps we should all care more about important issues and less about other people's names!

Just wanted to say I'm with you OP and this is exactly why I didn't ask for name opinions on MN before choosing the name of our DS. His name is a perfectly common and acceptable name in Scandinavian countries but isn't common in the UK (only 7 registered last year) and happens to be the name of one of the characters in The Hobbit, so we often get comments about his name. Like you we certainly didn't choose it for attention and actually lost a lot of sleep over whether to go for it or not as it is unusual for this country (neither of us are Scandinavian). However we just didn't like any other name anywhere near as much and his name sounds beautiful to me. We decided it was more important that we went with the name we'd fallen in love with than naming our own child something we weren't as keen on purely because of other people's judgements.

IMO nothing says "hey I'm small-minded" like sneering at unusual spellings. What the sneerers often fail to realise is that a) language is not set in stone b) the alternatives are often perfectly acceptable variants in other languages and / or cultures or c) the names are made-up examples to point and laugh at so-called chavs (as in KVIIIlyn, La-a etc).

It's not about sneering, the Op started the thread because she's fed up of people questioning her on her daughter's name. Except it's not the Op who's going to have to deal with that long term, it's her DD as she gets older.

With a traditional Hebrew name like Elizabeth which if given on the birth certificate has so many possible nicknames/shortenings (Eliza, Liz, Lizzy, Libby, Betty, Beth) and other established variations (Isabel, Isobel, Isabella) it does seem silly to come up with an even longer variation taking two halfs from the others.

It just pointlessly leaves the DD with a lifetime of questions even if she goes by Eliza . . . "short for Elizabeth?" "No Elizabella" " That's unusual, how do you spell that . . ."

All in the name of the parents trying to be different.

Damn, I was looking forward to hearing really terrible name but Elizabella is sweet, but then I adore Elizabeth.

I'm Charlotte and people always ask me to spell it. It isn't just about unusual names

YABU

Unusual is one thing but I never understand why parents mess with the spelling of established names. Always ends up looking chavvy.

^I agree

People ask how you spell your name sometimes because they didn't quite catch it. I know a Sharla, so if you don't sound your t's very clearly, it could sound similar. I remember asking a Janet how she spelt her name cos I thought she's said Janna or Jenna.

I'm fairly confident I say Char-lot or at least Char-lut.

I've seen people spell it with an s, with one t, with no e. Not their own name, mine lol

maybe they're hard of hearing. I would not think you needed to spell Charlotte, it's a classic name.

Yup, and yet...

I was once asked how to spell Jones.

My son is Jaxon on his birth certificate but we call him Jax - named after Jax Teller from Sons of Anarchy - DH's favourite show! 😂

Named after a character on a TV show...will you tell him?

I am a Charlotte too and can't believe how many people can't spell it.

Living in the Midlands lots of people would want to write Sharlit or worse

saoirse31 - probably but once he's older, it's an 18 series.

He's not named after the character, that's just where we heard the name, lol. I wanted Jack but DH said it was too common (lots of jacks round here) and he suggested Jax as a compromise (I haven't seen much of the series) and we both liked it.

I don't comment on people's choice of names for their kids because it's none of my business.
I don't understand people that feel that it's okay to make obvious and intentionally rude comments to the parent on the name. Who made you the name police and why do you think they want to hear your 'valuable' opinion. Bitch about it to someone else if you can't contain the urge to comment on it.

I have to spell my name to everyone who ever has to make me an appointment/take payment etc. Half of the time they still spell it wrong or think it's a completely different name. I've been told I can't have appointments I've turned up for, because my name isn't in the system! It's infuriating.