Kids names...

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To wonder why people care so much about other people's lives...?

My kids have unusual names and I get constant remarks and it has begun to piss me off my standard reply now is It's not of anyone else's business and it's so rude.

Perhaps we should all care more about important issues and less about other people's names!

Is it Sharlut?

So what your saying is that I have to chose an average name I don't like or I risk random people making negative comments?

Nobody would judge you for choosing unusual names.
But if you choose regular names and then just make them unusual by misspelling them, people will!

Rosa, Luna, Roman - unusual but spelled correctly= fine.

Abbeygayle, Lükas, Alixzandr - popular but misspelled = ridiculous.

Around here if people use 'different spellings' people assume that the parents are uneducated, and they got it wrong. Sad fact, but that's how it is. Kids go through life then having to correct people on the spelling too.

This reminds me of Mean Girls: “I have a nephew named Anfernee, and I know how mad he gets when I call him Anthony. Almost as mad as I get when I think about the fact that my sister named him Anfernee“.

Unusual spellings of names will always attract attention, more so than unusual names spelled correctly.

But why would you purposefully spell a name wrong and then expect people not to comment
like people who use an i instead of y cause its oh so cool.

You can call your kids whatever you want, but if you misspell names on purpose I'm going to think you're a bit thick, which is entirely my problem.

When people say their child's name is "unique" they usually just mean that is it spelled phonetically. It's not unique, it just makes people think you didn't manage very well at school. Judgemental? Yes, but also true.

However... it doesn't just happen to the unique names. Poor Dianas, Claras and Joannas will be no stranger to the "e" that people insist on putting at the end instead of the "a" that should be there.

Pickley but it makes a name look much more glitzy and feminine on paper, everyone knows that.
So don't be so snarki

It’s a difficult one for me....

My first son has a ‘normal’ name but it isn’t spelt what some people would think is the traditional spelling. In my eyes though the way we have spelt it is completely acceptable and it’s never been commented on.

The traditional spelling can result in the name being pronounced in two different ways and one of the ways I really don’t like so we altered the spelling to ensure it was pronounced the version we liked.

I suppose it depends why you changed the spelling?

I’m with most people here, to change it to just make it appear unique and special seems a bit trashy. Sorry OP.

I was at a birthday party with my dc yesterday and met a little girl called Ezzmae (name stickers written by parents). I did think to myself that she's going to be spelling it out for the rest of her life.
I didn't say anything, of course.

One of my D.C. has a rare name, it’s very old and not very often used these days.

We do get questioned about it regularly but people usually just ask the spelling or the background.

I haven’t had anyone be rude about it.

You are right OP whatever their opinions people shouldn’t be rude to you or the children. It’s very poor manners.

My lovely friend gave her daughter (IMO) a dreadful name. Never in a million years would I give her even a hint that I didn’t like it.

So what your saying is that I have to chose an average name I don't like or I risk random people making negative comments?

No, nobody is saying that, OP; don’t be disingenuous.

You said you picked an average name but changed the spelling. So that’s you wanting to be ~creative~ and ~unique~, but by doing that you must understand people will either think you can’t spell or you’re seeking attention.

Sorry but I would be swinging my judgey pants very widely at an incorrect spelling of a common name - I would probably just assume the parents were illiterate.

DH is a cover teacher and in one class last week he had a Sidney (fine), Sydney (also fine) and a Cydnee (most definitely not fine) and only one was a girl. If you want an unusual name then choose one, but an unusual spelling of a normal name is the height of naffness IMO.

Only one of my children has a traditionally British name. The other two have legitimate big unusual names.

I don’t mind explaining spellings or origins. It’s what you get for being a stroppy cow when you’re pregnant and having the mother-in-law of all meltdowns because you want X name but couldn’t possibly live with Y nickname.

I’m eternally grateful for the fact I will never ever be pregnant again! :o

Legitimate but unusual names. Can’t proofread today!

No what everyone is saying is - misspelling an average name doesn’t make it any less average. Just makes for a lifetime of irritation for little Ameelya.

So what your saying is that I have to chose an average name I don't like or I risk random people making negative comments?

Um, no, that's not what people are saying. And you know it.

NotASingleFuckToGive that's right up my street! Brilliant!

DS has a VERY unusual name we chose it because we love it and love the shortened version and its meaning to us. We chose it knowing people would also comment on it too its the price you pay for not choosing a name in the top 20.

Like most other posters I like unusual names. Choosing to misspell a common name doesn't make it unusual and although I wouldn't say anything to you I would privately wonder if it was a lack of education that caused the misspell or a misplaced sense of 'coolness'.

Spelling it out every time they give their email address. Poor kids!

Hersetta Cydney was the Old English spelling. Why was it OK to change the first letter but not the last?

Cydnee probably migrated from the US. Sidney, like Winston, Cyril and other old names were given to slaves. Many families didn't want to not carry on names, but changed the spelling. Which given the circumstances was perfectly valid

My Adult DDs have legitimate but not often used names, they love them, particularly my eldest because she is the only one in her company and its helped her do well.

My middle DD has the only English spelling of her middle name, its also how the old Streets called it are spelt. She likes that and loves correcting snobby stupid people when they try to claim that its a unique spelling.

Elizabella

So it's not technically a different spelling but she is always being called Elizabeth and comments about why would you do that, what's wrong with Elizabeth, did you misspell it, did your DH make a mistake, etc etc etc.

My girls have unusual names. But when they were born I had a very very very bland and common surname and I wanted them to have names that meant staff wouldn't spend hours going through record departments trying to identify them by date of birth and then address...

y eldest son shared a name with a child in the next village and they were born very close together too. Doctor's visits were fun - we had to go through the 'oh, it's not that one, it's the other one' a lot, and several times I had to correct them on what was wrong with him, because they'd got them mixed up again.