Kids names...

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To wonder why people care so much about other people's lives...?

My kids have unusual names and I get constant remarks and it has begun to piss me off my standard reply now is It's not of anyone else's business and it's so rude.

Perhaps we should all care more about important issues and less about other people's names!

Think something like a regular name with an unusual spelling.

So you decided to be ~creative~. When you see someone with a regular name that’s spelled ~uniquely~, it doesn’t look ~unique~. It looks like the parents can’t spell.

And you say you picked names you liked, but as a pp pointed out, you chose names you liked and then changed the spelling.

You can deny it as much as you like, but if you’re changing the spelling on a name you’re doing it for attention. If you don’t like said attention, you shouldn’t have done it.

I will never not share this if the opportunity arises

My daughter is named after a song, everyone has always been positive about it. My son goes by a name completely unrelated to the name on the birth certificate. It's not a name I would ever of chosen for him but everyone calls him it (school, doctors etc) and most people say it suits him .

Holly

How do you know that poster isn’t Jewish?

I get what that pp meant though. It’s more about culture than religion per se.

Francesca has crossed cultures no bother. Eyebrows however would be raised if a British couple with no Italian connections called their son Francesco.

I think Priya is a beautiful name but think people would think I was extremely odd if I gave said name to my daughter, given I have no Indian or Hindu heritage whatsoever.

If you call your daughter Gnaterleigh I would assume you know it's gonna get attention. Not all attention is positive. If its the same people just trek them you know what they think, keys change the subject etc bit also think of your kid having a lifetime of it

I have a name popular with white Christians whereas I'm part Arab and part white but look more Arab, i.e brown skin dark hair and eyes, I get asked why I'm named what I am, however my name is also middle eastern but not popular at all over there so it comes from both sides of my heritage.
I do get asked a lot why my name is my name however I do expect it now to be honest doesn't really bother me.

I'm afraid I'm with the majority. If you give your child a known name with a 'unique' spelling, it will attract attention, and not always in a positive way.

I feel you OP, my DC have unusual names (not that unusual name just not top 100)
At least we know earlier on if we want these people around our children by the way they react to their names.
We had a mum the few week ago say 'sorry your DS didnt get an invite to her DS's party because she didnt know how to spell his name', thank god now we dont have to invite her DS to our Ds's party.

Sorry OP. Normal name different spelling is a massive NAFF indicator to me.

Why do it? Go for an unusual name if you want but why spell a normal name the WRONG way?

I think what happens with parents who go down the 'Youneek' route, is that because their baby is the most beautiful and unique individual to them, they believe that using a regular name would risk their special and unique DC 'blending in' with all the other boringly named children.

What you end up with is a self-conscious child who has to explain for the 3rd time that morning, "No my name is just Max. But it's got three X's on the end."
And Maxxx will be doing that for the rest of his bloody life.

You honestly didn’t think ppl would comment that you changed spelling?

Let me guess - Alyzzabeth and Tiphaniee

I chose slightly unusual names, not to draw attention to them but to draw attention away from our slightly ugly surname. When I was at school there were loads of kids called eg Katie, Sarah, David and they were always know by FirstnameSurname So rather than having my kids go through life known always as JackBumface and OliviaBumface I gave them less usual names.

So what your saying is that I have to chose an average name I don't like or I risk random people making negative comments?
Wow... some lovely people here!

But, you chose regular names but just changed spelling? Then you are moaning because people notice you change the spelling?

I like uncommon names, and wouldn’t make any comment about an unusual choice, but there’s a difference between choosing something uncommon and incorrectly spelling your child’s name for your own pleasure. I would judge a parent who deliberately spelt a name in a silly way. The kids then have to spend their whole lives correcting people, which is a bother, and I’d think the parents were trying to be ‘yooneek’ for the sake of it.

DD4 has a 'proper' name which I have revived (think along the lines of Poppie ) with a normal spelling. I either get 'Oh what a beautiful name!' Or occasionally 'oh. that's unusual' . Doesn't bother me in the slightest what other people think of her name (she has classic 'normal' middle names just incase). I do find myself sneering at 'chavvy' I'll get a bollocking on here for using that word for the want of a nicer one names and spellings (though some of the wealthiest people I knows children have total chav names). Also love a good snigger at Persephones/Quentins who stick out like a sore thumb in their social circles. It's just human nature to be critical and nasty and judgy. I wouldn't expect any of the childrens' parents to give any more of a toss then I do. Also pity the great lumps called Tinkerbell or Grace. Horrendously hard to live up to in my humble opinion.

I find names fascinating. So if your kids have an unusual name I may well ask you about it. I’d never be rude about someone’s name (or kids names) to their face but I would secretly judge weird spellings of well known names.

For the record I don't mind people asking or talking about it - it's the rude people who makes mean comments like 'oh why would you do that to them' which people seem to just do a lot here. 😡

My name is very normal but has 2 or 3 variations in spelling and can be shortened or lengthened into different names. It's annoying - not so annoying I'd change my name or anything but low-level annoyance. I wouldn't have chosen a deliberately unusual spelling for my children's names just to save them having the same low-level annoyance in tgeir day to day lives.
But you did and that's fine, completely your choice and I'm sure you and your children love them. But people comment on that stuff, and some people are rude about it. People can be dicks.

No, you chose ‘normal’ names and changed established spellings for no discernible reason which is probably why you get comments.

And I’m guessing it’s not like the difference between Elisabeth and Elizabeth.

You can call them whatever you like, but you can’t expect no comments if the spellings really are unusual.

What are the names OP?

So like Olivia but you spell it Ulliveya or something.

Bit silly to do that, why would you?

You didn’t choose an unusual name though, you just pissed around with the spelling.

I agree. It obviously attracts attention and invites questions when you make up your own names or spelling of names.
Like Anfernee. Awesome.