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MTB45 · 09/02/2018 10:52

Does the drama get any better as they get older?

Mine is only 7 and she is so full of drama this school year as are many of her friends according to the mums. Regular tears and tantrums because so and so was mean or somebody said this or someone fell out with someone else.

I have an older son and he was fairly easy to Manage with very little drama.

A good friend of mine tells me it gets much worse when they are teens before it gets better!

Please give me some hope......

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Dancingfairy · 09/02/2018 10:54

Not all girls surely? Mine isn't "full of drama"

OuchBollocks · 09/02/2018 10:54

My nephew has his dramatic moments Hmm

Amazingly, nobody can actually answer your question because your daughter is a unique human being not the living embodiment of a lazy stereotype.

KarmaStar · 09/02/2018 10:54

Um,well normally by 25 they are usually settled againSmile

VileyRose · 09/02/2018 10:54

No...it gets worse (3girls...)

SnugglySnerd · 09/02/2018 10:55

I'm a secondary teacher. I'd say it usually starts to get better in year 9.

1ndig0 · 09/02/2018 10:55

High drama will ensue from the age of 12. Sorry I can't tell you if and when it ends yet, I'll have to get back to you in that one!

Though I think it largely depends on the child tbh. My younger daughter rarely has any dramas at all, while the elder one is "permanently disaffected" by something or other.,

theaveragewife · 09/02/2018 10:56

Hmmm, no my 9yo girl has had none of this so far. A lot of the boys in the school have had issues with each other, would you also call that ‘drama’?

saladdays66 · 09/02/2018 10:56

Totally depeends on the individual child IME. If they are a drama queen at 6 they may carry on that way. My dd isn't.

Friendship issues can be tricky for both sexes and at any age - Year 3 and 6 were bad for dd, Year 5 and 6 for ds.

SnugglySnerd · 09/02/2018 10:56

I meant the friendship issue stuff. Not everyone is dramatic about it!

HollyBayTree · 09/02/2018 10:56

It's a girl thing. Boys like football and mud. Girls like holding hands and 'besties'. Boys are such simple creatures, it's like having a puppy. Train it well to clear its plate and teach it to aim straight and you won't have many problems. Grin

toldmywrath · 09/02/2018 10:57

Karma Star Grin

I've 1 DD and sons. DD gave us the most trouble going through the teenage years/ early twenties. We've got a good relationship now she's left home

Ledehe · 09/02/2018 10:57

Its the start of hormones.....it gets worse!

I'm also reliably informed that boys are hormonal nightmares too, just when they're a bit older

MamaLupine · 09/02/2018 10:57

I've 2 girls 7 and 11. Neither are as you describe.

MsJuniper · 09/02/2018 10:58

My son (5) is all about the drama.

Having said that I'm sure girls are socialised to set more store by friendships and their self esteem can become dependent on being involved in these kinds of drama. As a parent I guess the best thing is to build their inner self confidence and interests so they are as resilient as possible and care less about who said what to whom. Easier said than done I know.

donners312 · 09/02/2018 10:58

sorry to tell you but think you have a few years to go yet.

They do normally all end up friends again though so try not to get too sucked in and upset about it - should follow my own advise!

MsJuniper · 09/02/2018 11:00

@HollyBayTree ha nice parody

Scabbersley · 09/02/2018 11:00

I have three dds. Only one is full of drama. The other two are extremely laid back. The drama one is quite entertaining we have some fab gossip

CatMuffin · 09/02/2018 11:01

Mine haven't gone through this yet (10 and 13) I remember being involved in dramas at primary school myself, so probably depends on the child. Some boys at dd's high school had a fight the other day if that counts as a drama

MumW · 09/02/2018 11:02

Blunt answer is NO. DD is at Uni and still the drama goes on. Same drama, slightly different nuances but the same drama nonetheless.

However, all children are different and one sweeping statement doesn't fit all, so fingers crossed your DD grows out of it.

Scabbersley · 09/02/2018 11:03

Ime, the girls that get extremely worked up about this stuff often have mums who give it a huge amount of houseroom. I have a friend who is always going on about how this girl said this and another girl said this and they had a sleepover and her dd wasn't invited and aren't girls mean etc etc it's very wearing

kyrenialady · 09/02/2018 11:04

I have two dds, one is dramatic always has been she is 16 now and is a lot better, although she still has her moments. She had a horrid year 6 in primary, didn't really settle into a good friendship group until year 9. She is full of fun though and I wouldn't change her for the world.

DD2 who is 11 is a lot calmer and laid back and all is good so far - touch wood!

All children are different.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 09/02/2018 11:08

Y7 is drama central. They all go crazy in Y7. Lifelong besties fall out. Gentle boys have full on fist fights. The previously mildly naughty lovable rogues do stuff like telling the teacher to fuck off.

k2p2k2tog · 09/02/2018 11:10

I have a 12.5 year old in her first year of secondary in Scotland and it's CONSTANT drama as they all try to establish their place in the pack and make new friends. Every week she's falling out with someone, has a new bestie, whatever.

Have to agree that my older son didn't really get involved in any of it.

grannytomine · 09/02/2018 11:14

I had more drama with DD than her 3 brothers put together. I don't think it was her it was the bullying little bitches she went to school with.

pigshavecurlytails · 09/02/2018 11:15

in my experience it comes and goes. mine was amazing at 2 - no tantrums at all - then we had the terrible threes. a few social problems in years 1-3 at school, now in year 5 and it has all calmed down, she has a lovely bunch of friends and is very happy in her own skin. I think it goes in phases.

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