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Colleague can’t drive I’m doing all the driving!!

238 replies

Gisele12 · 08/02/2018 18:00

This may be quite long. I work for a company where we travel for work. The arrangement was that I’d be the one being driven until my old partner left and the only other person who was trained in the role of my old partner cannot drive.

This girl is however taking lessons, I understand they are expensive and she is genuinely doing her best however I am just getting a little of sick of doing all the driving. I get paid probably 5x more per day than what this girl gets paid (my role is higher) so not sure if I am being unreasonable.

I am self employed and my partner is PAYE so I do sometimes feel I have no obgliations to cart this girl around. There is no one else who could replace this girl and in all honesty I love my job and our working days are always fun but I just can’t be sure if I should speak to our boss and see what he thinks?

What does everyone else think?

OP posts:
Eltonjohnssyrup · 09/02/2018 16:01

Are you a spice girl

Arf. Grin

Imagine expecting poor Baby to drive the tour bus the whole way. Sad

Geri always was a selfish bitch.

GnotherGnu · 09/02/2018 16:12

What do you think your boss should do about it if you do speak to him? Lay on a chauffeur?

PyongyangKipperbang · 09/02/2018 16:12

Please explain, as you havent so far, why it was ok for someone else to drive you around for 18+ hours a week but not ok for you to do it.

Clandestino · 09/02/2018 16:13
  1. I'd be shitting myself if I had a newly qualified driver driving me around the whole time.
  2. So you're paid better and you're not PAYE yet you're working to promote and sell the company's product (was my understanding at least) so that should be the reason for you to offload all the driving on her? How about you share afterwards?

I understand you may be sick of driving even if 18 hours per week doesn't sound so bad but the arguments are slightly off.

lollipop306 · 09/02/2018 16:16

Maybe the old person left because she was sick of doing "all the driving" for you? 😂

Clandestino · 09/02/2018 16:20

Maybe the old person left because she was sick of doing "all the driving" for you?

Probably because he was being paid more than her and got sick of being the single driver Grin.

LizardMonitor · 09/02/2018 16:26

Why will SHE be doing all the driving?

God , sometimes I think Contractors want their cake and eat it. Entitled.

APerfectSky · 09/02/2018 16:28

It's weird that the OP has only been back once to answer a question about the type of work, she's obviously reading the replies.

OP, why haven't you answered the questions about why you think SHE should be doing all the driving once she has passed her test?

ObscuredbyFog · 09/02/2018 16:35

I'd rather do the driving than have someone else inexperienced drive me!

Absolutely agree.
To take someone from just passing their test to immediately be expected to drive 18 hours is a lot to ask. Is any of it motorway driving - if so I wouldn't get in with them for over 12 months.Shock

Traditions in employment only survive because no-one challenges them. Your firm's tradition of making the office junior also be the chauffeur needs to be challenged.

Boulshired · 09/02/2018 16:36

If driving was not on my job description and the company were not paying and paying me crap I would not be telling them when I passed. They want me to drive then they should pay.

G120810 · 09/02/2018 16:41

Just cause ure higher paid don't mean u can't drive and u need the poor girl to hurry up and pass so u can be taken everywhere she is taking lessons maybe driving isn't easy for her to learn she doesn't need to do it for u you are the driver till she passes and u love ure job and she is important part of the team I don't really see your issue there isn't much you can do maybe give her extra lessons in your spare time but it has nothing to do with your pay grade you sound as if you are better than her

PeterPiperPickedSeaShells · 09/02/2018 16:48

She may not be insured to drive company vehicles immediately after passing her test. Many business policies require X amount of time before allowing new drivers onto the policy

sinceyouask · 09/02/2018 16:53

Yabu and weird as fuck.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 09/02/2018 19:21

Why? Women have been referring to younger women, themselves and peers as "girls" for time immemorial, are they all supposed to stop just because you have a stick up your arse about it?

Because it's inaccurate, infantalising, and demeaning.

Fairenuff · 09/02/2018 19:31

Just because something has always been done doesn't make it right. Or acceptable.

Willow2017 · 09/02/2018 19:35

You were quite happy to be driven around by your old colleague but now you want a young inexperienced driver to ferry you around as soon as she has passed her test cos you are bored with it?

UWhyntil she passes ger test what do yoy expect her to do?
Once she passes cant you share tbe driving for goodness sake?

LoniceraJaponica · 09/02/2018 19:37

I smell a rat

starzig · 09/02/2018 21:17

Why the offense with girl? I refer to myself as girl and absolutely cringe when someone calls me a lady or woman (Or worse still-Ms). I only use the term when I am meaning offense. E.g. 'that woman'

Shouldileavethedogs · 09/02/2018 21:35

OP hasn't been back as she needs a PA to answer for her. It's beneath her x5 higher pay

PyongyangKipperbang · 09/02/2018 21:55

I smell a reverse. OP is the learner driver.

Original poster
Gisele12 · 09/02/2018 23:01

Because I took this position stating I didn’t want to drive. So I shouldn’t have to now as I could find other work elsewhere so they should be looking to keep me happy as people in my role are hard to find

OP posts:
Original poster
Gisele12 · 09/02/2018 23:03

It’s just the way it goes in my job role. Even with other companies doing the same job, the professional would be driven by the other person

OP posts:
BakedBeans47 · 09/02/2018 23:10

OP your last 2 posts make you sound like a puffed up numpty with an overinflated sense of your own importance. Go and work elsewhere if it’s such a problem and you’d find work so easily - problem solved.

Aquathest · 09/02/2018 23:13

* OP your last 2 posts make you sound like a puffed up numpty with an overinflated sense of your own importance. Go and work elsewhere if it’s such a problem and you’d find work so easily - problem solved.*

^^ This Hmm

Willow2017 · 09/02/2018 23:19

Pretty one sided 'partnership' there.