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Colleague can’t drive I’m doing all the driving!!

238 replies

Gisele12 · 08/02/2018 18:00

This may be quite long. I work for a company where we travel for work. The arrangement was that I’d be the one being driven until my old partner left and the only other person who was trained in the role of my old partner cannot drive.

This girl is however taking lessons, I understand they are expensive and she is genuinely doing her best however I am just getting a little of sick of doing all the driving. I get paid probably 5x more per day than what this girl gets paid (my role is higher) so not sure if I am being unreasonable.

I am self employed and my partner is PAYE so I do sometimes feel I have no obgliations to cart this girl around. There is no one else who could replace this girl and in all honesty I love my job and our working days are always fun but I just can’t be sure if I should speak to our boss and see what he thinks?

What does everyone else think?

OP posts:
myrtleWilson · 09/02/2018 23:29

For the love of god - what role is it that is so professional that you need driver?

BakedBeans47 · 09/02/2018 23:30

For the love of god - what role is it that is so professional that you need driver?

OP Are you Alan Sugar?

mojito55 · 09/02/2018 23:31

Actually, if not driving was a condition of you taking the job then they're cheeky for expecting you to. And why would they hire someone for a driving-based role who can't yet drive?

VelvetSpoon · 09/02/2018 23:31

OP, do you understand how IR35 works?

You really shouldn't be driving a vehicle belonging to the company. Company vehicles are only for employees. Which for tax purposes you are claiming you are not.

I think sharing the driving is the least of your problems. I'd be a lot more worried in your position as to what will happen when the Inland Revenue catch up with you...

WitchesHatRim · 09/02/2018 23:35

Because I took this position stating I didn’t want to drive. So I shouldn’t have to now as I could find other work elsewhere so they should be looking to keep me happy as people in my role are hard to find

You sound very full of your own self importance.

It's not a nice trait.

HoneyDragon · 09/02/2018 23:39

Bizarre job. At our factories the senior members of staff are the ones that transport the “underlings” if they are required elsewhere.

That’s been the decorum most places I’ve worked when I think about it.. you learn something new everyday.

HollaHolla · 09/02/2018 23:40

Police or ambulance??

DontPullThatTubeOut · 09/02/2018 23:46

What exactly do you do? If it was an agreed term of you working there then I get it. But that doesn’t excuse your attitude towards someone who is actually learning to drive. Take it up with your boss if you are so important, surely it will be fine and you can get the woman sacked. Seeing as you are needed to be kept happy and all that.

celinequeen · 09/02/2018 23:47

Find "other work" then where you can be chauffeured in a Rolls Royce Phantom if this current company aren't looking to "keep you happy"

GetOutOfMYGarden · 09/02/2018 23:48

I get pissed off with it too OP. I've got a colleague who wants a lift whenever we're on the same shift and she can drive! Yet 'your car is electric, we should use that since it doesn't cost petrol' Angry

Leiaorganashair · 09/02/2018 23:53

I still don't understand. Firstly calling yourself the "professional" is rude. Also, presumably there is more to the other role than just your chauffeur or they wouldn't have given her the job. So why can't you drive? Confused

safariboot · 10/02/2018 00:12

Unless you are expected to work while being driven, YABU. The word "diva" comes to mind.

NewYearNiki · 10/02/2018 00:32

YABAC

Fuck I laughed 😂

RosyPrimroseface · 10/02/2018 01:20

People are super narrow minded here. Just because you don't work in a field where the senior person's work is structured around the expectation of having a driver - possibly a hugely highly trained, life or death responsible role - you're imagining all this crazy stuff about OP being stuck up.

it's like if she was the CEO and complained someone was using her office and everyone piled in going oooh, fancy pants, why do you get an office to yourself, you snob!
Some jobs just have hierarchies and expectations and perks. if OP expects a junior colleague to be with her and do the driving it will make her day harder not to have that.

InToMyHeart · 10/02/2018 01:55

I could find other work elsewhere so they should be looking to keep me happy as people in my role are hard to find

Problem solved. Get a job somewhere else (make sure you stipulate that you don't do driving!) seeing as you are far too superior for this company.

At least this poor "girl" will get a break from a smug bitch colleague.

TheMaddHugger · 10/02/2018 02:44

backs back out the door I accidently opened

Colleague can’t drive I’m doing all the driving!!
Colleague can’t drive I’m doing all the driving!!
Mummyoflittledragon · 10/02/2018 04:43

Go elsewhere then and stop complaining. Or make the company use someone else to drive you - if you want to waste more tax payers money.

MorningstarMoon · 10/02/2018 05:04

You are such an arrogant SOB OP. Looking to keep you happy? If you came at me with that attitude I would gladly open the door for you and show you the way out.

We have always shared the driving regardless of being higher in position or not. It's just something we do. In fact I'm more likely to offer to drive the underlings even though I hate driving because I am the senior person and earn more.

Give your head a wobble OP.

Shouldileavethedogs · 10/02/2018 06:21

Are you Theresa May

Clandestino · 10/02/2018 06:26

Are you genuine? I am not troll hunting but are you for real? I have yet to see an overinflated ego such as yours.

InspMorse · 10/02/2018 07:06

Because I took this position stating I didn’t want to drive. So I shouldn’t have to now as I could find other work elsewhere so they should be looking to keep me happy as people in my role are hard to find*

I'd do everyone a favour if I were you and 'find work elsewhere'.
Your successor may be 'hard to find' initially but believe me, nobody is irreplaceable.

InspMorse · 10/02/2018 07:09

YABAC

Ha! We need to all start using this regularly!

NeverTwerkNaked · 10/02/2018 07:27

Get a job somewhere else then if you are so in demand Hmm

GnotherGnu · 10/02/2018 07:28

What do you want your boss to do about it, OP? Are you suggesting he should sack your colleague because she has no licence.

insancerre · 10/02/2018 07:35

Why do you earn 5 times what she does?
Wouldn't it be better for them to end the contract and take on more people at the lower pay rate?