Colleague can’t drive I’m doing all the driving!!

[Gisele12]

This may be quite long. I work for a company where we travel for work. The arrangement was that I’d be the one being driven until my old partner left and the only other person who was trained in the role of my old partner cannot drive.

This girl is however taking lessons, I understand they are expensive and she is genuinely doing her best however I am just getting a little of sick of doing all the driving. I get paid probably 5x more per day than what this girl gets paid (my role is higher) so not sure if I am being unreasonable.

I am self employed and my partner is PAYE so I do sometimes feel I have no obgliations to cart this girl around. There is no one else who could replace this girl and in all honesty I love my job and our working days are always fun but I just can’t be sure if I should speak to our boss and see what he thinks?

What does everyone else think?

She'll be earning 5 x less and doing all the driving?

Let's just say she's on 8 quid an hour and you're on 40 quid an hour. This boils my blood. She earns less so must do more.

OP what is her role? Is the whole point of her job to do the driving so you can focus on the care? I know I have saw those on call doctors being driven round before. If the whole point of her being there is to do the driving then I can see your annoyance

Can’t you share?

C'mon Gisele. Surely you or Tom Brady could pay for a driver?

18 hours a week. That's less than my commute used to be. What are you making a fuss about?

You'll have someone to talk to and when she passes, you'll be able to share the driving. It isn't even your car, your tyres, your brakes.

Get over yourself.

The joke is, OP explained that the new colleague got this job despite lacking a driving license because she was the only one who had received the relevant training. That implies that the colleague's role is not to be OP's driver.

That makes it all the more weird that OP thinks it's unfair she's doing all the driving

You'd have been gutted if you'd been partnered up with me, OP. It took me SEVEN years of stop-start lessons to pass my test (in an automatic car in the end because my nerves never allowed me to get to grips with a manual, even after 40 hours of lessons plus private practice with my dad). I then sold my car after six months and have never driven again because I hate it so much.

You sound rude, entitled and resentful. I assume this woman didn't get the job to be your personal chauffeur?

Think there is a bit of overreaction on this thread, is everyone this egalitarian at work, where they pick up an equal amount of menial work from their juniors?

The OP is clearly the more senior employee so will presumably be the one leading the meetings and taking responsibility. It's then pretty taxing to then be the one who also then has to do all the driving as well.

If this is how her industry works then she probably did all the driving when she was the junior one. Maybe her driving means she can't make phone calls or read/write emails whilst travelling?

If this was the formally agreed set up then ultimately the employer is responsible for the issue for employing someone in the position who hadn't passed their test. If it is impacting OPs ability to do her job then fair enough to speak to employer about a fast track course for the 'girl'. But if it is just an informal arrangement and the OP is just pulling rank I think she should just be patient and wait for her to past her test.

Why did your original partner leave? Was it because she/he was sick of doing all the driving?

If you've been driving more than 3 years can you stick L plates on and she can drive? With an extra 18 hours a week practice she might pass sooner too so win/win.

sonypony

Would an employer insure a learner driver?

I took it as if OP is thinking she might be being unfair towards the colleague because she earns less - as in in the OPs acknowledging she might be expecting too much and should suck it up because overall she's in the more fortunate position. Not that she's entitled to more because she earns more, and actually she's saying the opposite.

That's how I read it too.

Very odd set up all around. OP appears to have been quite happy with the previous arrangement whereby her old colleague drove her round and a future situation in which current colleague will have to do all the driving.

YABU. I think it's very unfair of you to expect her to do all the driving once she passes, you should split 50/50.

I am self employed and my partner is PAYE so I do sometimes feel I have no obligations to cart this girl around.
You say you 'work for a company', you 'have a boss' - why does your non-PAYE status make so much difference to the attitude towards your obligations and the company's hierarchy?

What's actually going on? There aren't enough details to tell if you are being reasonable or not.

And stop calling her a girl.

Another one confused as to why the driving would't be shared once this girl passes. Why would you not share it?

Also stumped on this matter too, isn't sharing the responsibility the most logical thing to do in a situation like this?

OP sounds a very important person who shouldnt be expected to drive anyone around.
OP Why dont you just ask the company to pay for a chauffeur? Just say that if they dont you will get another job.

And stop calling her a girl.

Why? Women have been referring to younger women, themselves and peers as "girls" for time immemorial, are they all supposed to stop just because you have a stick up your arse about it?

So her former colleague used to chauffeur you around and you got to laud it over him/her. Righto.

Passing her test doesn't mean she is automatically going to have the confidence to drive everywhere.

I'm really curious about what you do for a living now.

Also, YABU, sorry.

Are you a spice girl

If it's part of her job description & she's been given the role on the proviso that she passes her test then YANBU.

If it's affecting your work i.e. can't email, conf call etc when driving then YANBU.

Yes YABU.