AIBU - DH gives DD chocolate at 7.30am

[Nquartz]

DH drops DD off at breakfast club 4 days a week and they leave about 10 minutes after I go to work. Apparently after I have left it is so hard to get DD out the door without a meltdown that DH gives her some chocolate.

I have asked him repeatedly not to (and I get her out of the house on the 5th day without any kind of meltdown) but he says I'm not there so it isn't up to me.

I think giving a 6 year old chocolate 4 days a week at 7.30am is fucking disgraceful but is he right that as I'm not there it isn't up to me?

Could she have SEN?

Considering mum can get her out the house without chocolate then this sounds like a parenting issue.

It isn't ideal, but he's the parent on duty. I think you are overreacting. Let him find his own way.

It may well be that in the long run he sees he is getting into an ineffective pattern and decides to copy your methods instead. You don't need to micromanage him over this.

It's the worst time because it's probably just after her teeth have been brushed and furthest away from having the brushed again.

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StealthPolar- My folks didn't trust fluoride or sealants. We patronized a very painful dentist. It was miserable. Now, dentists insist on constant X-rays, which are expensive and dangerous. In the States, it is recommended children see a dentist before they are a year old. New dentist often insist on redoing work for a previous dentist, and won't quote prices. All this seems precious and excessive.