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Should I have shared?

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werkwerkwerk · 01/02/2018 14:08

I've name changed for this as it is very outing!

Basically, I work in a small office with 2 other ladies doing the admin etc, for a local business. I have been there, full time, for just over 3 years, the 2nd works part time and has been there for almost 1 year and the 3rd is a new starter, still on probation.

We don't socialise outside of work and I wouldn't say we were particularly friendly.

For Christmas, the 3 of us were given a bottle of prosecco, a box of chocolates and a scratch card.

My scratch card was a winner! £25k winner.

I was over the moon! I've had a tough few years financially and this really couldn't have come at a better time. The money paid off a few bills and the rest will be used as a deposit on my very own little house (as soon as I find it!) I'm very excited!

After new year, I invited the 2 ladies I work with out for a champane afternoon tea in a swanky hotel and then we went for manicures and pedicures. All my treat.

This morning, I was taken into the office by the owner of the business and told that the other ladies have asked him to speak to me regarding the winnings, as they feel it should be shared 3 ways. And my boss agrees as he feels that my winning has caused a bad vibe in the office.

AIBU by not sharing? I'll be honest and say that the thought of sharing with them never even crossed my mind and I still have no intention of doing so, but I just wanted to get some other opinions...

OP posts:
KAT0779 · 01/02/2018 21:38

No you are not being unreasonable, I think you have been very generous taking the 2 others out (especially as you haven't worked with them THAT long).

Were the scratch cards given to you by the same person who is now telling you to share your winnings? If this was the intention it should have been made clear to you when they were given to you, too late now and very unfair putting you in this awkward situation x

llangennith · 01/02/2018 21:41

Your scratch card, your winnings.
It’s only £25 ffs.

llangennith · 01/02/2018 21:42

Oops £25k!!!! I can see why they’re pissed off but as I said, your scratch card your winnings.

Birdshitbridgegotme · 01/02/2018 21:53

What cheeky fuckers they are! Defo wouldn't share u all had the same and u luckily got a winner! I would tell them to stop being jealous! .....congrats to u what a great thing to happen Flowers

Rosielily · 01/02/2018 22:00

If this is true then the boss really does need to grow a pair.....

Tistheseason17 · 01/02/2018 22:07

I suspect OP has left as worried about number of responses drawing the attention of the Daily Fail to this thread; which would out her.

It's been a good read even if fake Smile

BadLad · 01/02/2018 22:10

Please change your mobile ring tone to "We're in the money", and hope you get a call in that meeting.

GoingforitNowIthink · 01/02/2018 22:10

I wouldn't share it or expect another winner to. I'd probably be a bit jealous if someone else won 25k but it's just one of those things. Asking for some is weird. Maybe I'd give some to a colleague if I was particularly close to them but not as a matter of course. Demanding you share it is unreasonable. You all got the same gift and you got lucky.

GoingforitNowIthink · 01/02/2018 22:10

Oh yes and you took them out. I think that was nice enough

TenancyTroublesAgain · 01/02/2018 22:18

Yanbu. The fuck?

PotteryLady · 01/02/2018 22:19

They are jealous and ungrateful-your boss is being unreasonable and should have explained that you were all given the same gift and if one of them had won they wouldn't have to share x

SD1978 · 01/02/2018 22:33

This is why I never give these as gifts (not uncommon in Australia to get them from friends) I’d be gutted if someone else won)! You probably should have said nothing- legally it’s yours. There was no written agreement made before scratching that you would share, but the sour grapes is understandable- you would no doubt be a bit seethy if one of the other ladies had got the winning one. There will always be an atmosphere at work now. I would keep it- it would make an amazing difference. If you split it, you will be unhappy. If you don’t, they will be unhappy- there will always be an atmosphere at work now. I’d be looking for another job actively.

Desmondo2016 · 01/02/2018 22:36

Well done OP. I would tell them all to jog on!

tigercub50 · 01/02/2018 22:42

I’m with other posters - you were each given a scratchcard so there is no reason why you should split your winnings. It’s not like one of those lottery syndicates! Your boss should know better too. Congratulations on your £25K. I have never won above £100 at once but I live in hope 🙂

Gide · 01/02/2018 23:03

It was yours, given freely as a gift. Your boss is an idiot for not shutting your colleagues down immediately. Tough shit, they didn’t win, you did. Morally and legally, it is your money. You have no obligation to share it.

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 01/02/2018 23:09

Grabby fuckers! Especially the new starter! Congrats on the win OP, you keep that all to yourself. I'd happily put up with a bad atmosphere at work with 25k in the bank, thank you please. Admin jobs are fairly easy to come by should it become unbearable.

SavvyBlancBlonde · 02/02/2018 05:38

A sandwich and a bit of nail varnish? Cheeky mare. Next time, boots meal deal and a bottle of number 7 cherry red. Much cheaper

pisacake · 02/02/2018 07:12

There are no £25k scratchcard prizes, this is a fact, it's not a matter for debate.

The £25,000 Run For Your Money someone linked to above is an 'interactive instant win game'. It is online gambling, there is no associated physical product or any way that it could be presented as a gift.

An online game is fundamentally different from a scratchcard in that the result is determined at the time of purchase, so each play has the same chance of winning.

A scratchcard on the other hand is like a 'Wonka Golden Ticket' - if there were five winning tickets for £50k and all five have been found, then your chance of winning is zero.

littlebillie · 02/02/2018 07:44

It's yours don't let them brow beat you.

littlebillie · 02/02/2018 07:50

I think it is for your boss to handle, the idea you have to hand over anything is bizarre.

Just ask them to deal with and so you can carry on with your job.

never talk money or politics in the office it's just not worth the grief

StickThatInYourPipe · 02/02/2018 07:53

This is the reason if people give me scratch cards as a gift, I just pop them in my bag and scratch them at home. If you get a winner it avoids bad feelings, they never had to know.

RandomDreams · 02/02/2018 07:54

Hell no.

You each had a scratch card and yours was a winner.

Absolutely do not share the winnings, do you think your colleagues would have shared if they won?

Taking them out for a treat was nice of you, do not share the rest.

poddige · 02/02/2018 07:59

Some people so over invested in this.

Just. Report. It.

GentleJones · 02/02/2018 08:11

Pisacake, I would have thought the OP altered the amount.

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