What would you (over)think? (Actually laundry related!)

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So I was round at a friend’s house for a catch up on our day off, and we were chatting in her kitchen diner while she carried on wiping sides down etc.
Her washing machine finished its cycle and she bent down and hauled out the contents of the load which was exclusively black/dark grey - jeans, leggings, tights, T-shirts etc; not a colour or pastel in sight.... EXCEPT ... entangled in all this was my DD’s school cookery apron that her DD had borrowed. It’s WHITE AND YELLOW.
I was standing there watching so she had perhaps forgotten that it was in there and couldn’t just stuff it back in so she styled it out “Oh this is yours, I’ll get it dry so you can take it with you.”
Now I know I am very picky when it comes to dividing colours for washing -- those “Chris Martin” coloured T-shirts with white sleeves are my worst nightmare laundry-wise - but... seriously??? Because it wasn’t just a random mixed wash it was definitely a very dark wash with my DD’s white apron stuffed in.
I’ve obviously got plenty worse things to worry about (oh I really have) but even though we met through school, I did consider her a close friend and she has voiced the same to me. I’ve tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming back to me! Was it really mean of her?
AIBU to take this personally..?

red wine accident?

White wine!!!!! Straight away - it works!!

I had a red wine accident with a pair of CREAM wool trousers, poured a glass of white over the red and VOILA! GONE!

I do wash like colours with like colours, although i do have a Mix and Wash programme and that seems to work miracles

There is only me and DS tho, so not a massive amount of washing anyway, tend to save it all up for the weekends

Goodness am surprised by everyone saying that they chuck everything in together! I separate carefully and wait until I have a full load of whatever I’m waiting for. I am careful with my own things and even more careful with other peoples’ things! Believe me I am no domestic goddess, I assumed that everyone did the same.
I completely get where OP is coming from and whilst it wouldn’t make me lose sleep, I would find it irritating for it not to be returned in the same condition that it was loaned. I think OP’s friend was a bit careless.

Chocatoo you win best answer

I would assume my friend messed up. It happens, people make mistakes. It's no big deal.

The 'dull' appearance might be caused simply by using a different detergent, in which case it'll brighten right up again when you wash it yourself. If not you could try vanish or bleach or something.

And as others have mentioned, it's an apron. Only the most vain person would give a flying fig about how bright their apron is.

Maybe she chucked it in the wash she was doing as she knew you were visiting and wanted to give it back to you. Maybe she doesn't bother sorting her own clothes into colours, or maybe she thought it didn't matter as it was only an apron.
I would be a bit annoyed as I like to keep my light and white clothes that way and I wouldn't sling anything pale in a very dark wash (especially if it was someone else's!) I don't think it was malicious or a reflection on your friendship though

I do the same as chocatoo. Separate and easily get a full load of each batch by the weekend. The whole lot gets done, ironed and away by Monday.

I’d be miffed if someone didn’t take care of my belongings.

I wouldn’t dream of mixing colours. The number kids I see wearing grey (formerly white) shirts for school.....no need (they have money and fully functioning parents or foster carers paid to look after them). What’s so bloody difficult?!

I'd be mortified if I did this to someone elses things.

There are some quite, quite mad people posting on here.

You know how people think that others are judging them for not being perfect and nice people always say oh you do your best, no-one is judging....and then you see twats on here saying vile things about judging the whiteness of the other kids school shirts and finding them lacking, and you realise you were right the first time.

But seriously, get a fucking life.

well, kids white shirts would stay white if they were not washed with other colour such as a yellow and white apron which would go in the dark wash in my house

It was obviously an accident stop being a psycho.

I seperate by (knickers and socks in a zipper bag) with a colour catcher with all clothes into the same load this is thrown in with clothes - this can all be bunged in tumble dryer together

the exceptions are jumpers which i wash by hand when needed using woolite and dry flat, bras which i handwash and hang up to dry on sock hanger thing,

The other wash load is hot wash for towels / bedding / bath mats which is all put into together and bone dry cycle on tumble dryer.

Other stuff is decided as for whatever it is and if there are several it can wait till and do all at once. As and when needed.

I don't separate my laundry. If it was me I would wash in my first load to get it back to you as soon as possible... most of my clothes are black and grey as it's winter and that's all I wear (apart from white/grey now undies 😂)

I still think this is bonkers, and the reason why I would never borrow any clothes from anyone, even baby stuff. It's not worth it.

You are talking about an apron, which by definition is designed to catch the dirt. Unless the children are in a play, how could you be sure to get it back pristine anyway?

Taking it personally is way over the top

Mean of her?!?

Are you mental . Not everyone launders to your standard.

It was maybe a little thoughtless of her seen as it was not her item to discolour in a wash but I doubt it was remotely malicious.

We all have different standards when it comes to our housekeeping styles. Let it slide.

I can't understand why people think that separating washing leads to environmental damage. It doesn't lead to more frequent washing, because a full load always goes in - but rather than a jumbled up load every time, each load of similar items might get washed once a week.

Being able to select the most appropriate cycle for each load is quite possibly less environmentally damaging than just bunging everything in at 40 - eg woollens and delicates go in on a much lower energy, shorter 30 wash, many dark loads can go in on a dark wash. It also means clothes don't wear out as quickly, so the environmental impact of frequently replacing clothes is reduced.

Sorry, dark loads on a 30 degree wash!

just give her the apron for her kid who doesn't have one in a really passive aggressive way
"Oh seeing as little poppy doesn't have an apron, and I've bought my Tiffany a lovely new one, would you like it (big smiley face)"

Have I been transported back to the 1950s? Who gives a shit to be honest? If you feel embarrassed about your child's shirt or apron, it's time to get a hobby. Nobody else will notice and you won't get a medal for doing 'lilac washes'.

These competitive domesticity threads are quite funny though. Yes OP, you are the best housewife in all of the land and nobody else comes close.

A yellow and white apron would go in the pastels wash in my house

Oh lord I've heard it all now

This thread is such a rollercoaster!

I don’t have enough clothes to save things up to do a separate pastels load, etc. I just throw it all in together. Same principle for the kids’ clothes (although DS1 is in charge of his own laundry). If there’s enough stuff I’ll separate into broadly light and dark. Towels and bedding get their own wash (at higher temp).

DH likes to separate things out and, because he also doesn’t have enough clothes, ends up washing 3 shirts at a time. (He has OCD - actual, diagnosed OCD - and gets anxious about his shirts being washed with other people’s clothes).

I didn’t actually realise those colour run sheets were so good that you didn’t need to separate washes. Or that they work after the damage has been done so I have learned something else today! Thanks!

Um. They don't always work and they don't fix already spoiled clothes. Basically you need a bleach based product to do that (or just diluted bleach).

But certain fabrics aren't 'fixable'