What would you (over)think? (Actually laundry related!)

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So I was round at a friend’s house for a catch up on our day off, and we were chatting in her kitchen diner while she carried on wiping sides down etc.
Her washing machine finished its cycle and she bent down and hauled out the contents of the load which was exclusively black/dark grey - jeans, leggings, tights, T-shirts etc; not a colour or pastel in sight.... EXCEPT ... entangled in all this was my DD’s school cookery apron that her DD had borrowed. It’s WHITE AND YELLOW.
I was standing there watching so she had perhaps forgotten that it was in there and couldn’t just stuff it back in so she styled it out “Oh this is yours, I’ll get it dry so you can take it with you.”
Now I know I am very picky when it comes to dividing colours for washing -- those “Chris Martin” coloured T-shirts with white sleeves are my worst nightmare laundry-wise - but... seriously??? Because it wasn’t just a random mixed wash it was definitely a very dark wash with my DD’s white apron stuffed in.
I’ve obviously got plenty worse things to worry about (oh I really have) but even though we met through school, I did consider her a close friend and she has voiced the same to me. I’ve tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming back to me! Was it really mean of her?
AIBU to take this personally..?

1. It's a kids' apron, not a designer shirt.

1. Maybe it got in the dark wash accidentally. That happens to me sometimes.

1. Maybe she was doing a wash & wanted to return the apron to you when she saw you so put it in with the wash she was already planning.

YABVVU.

I don't do separate washes, and never have a problem with the way the lightly coloured stuff comes out. I suspect your perception that the apron looks dull is nothing more than perception, but if it's genuine then wash it in some colour run remover.

Skittlesandbeer I have no need for a colour catcher.

.Many of us don't

I would judge her!

I like to separate laundry by colours, and by person too if I get a chance. It's weird as am not at all that type of person.

Just your average hygiene regime...washing hands properly before food prep, wipe surfaces down, no chicken washing, but I'd fuss the dog then eat a biscuit, share a bottle of water, eat a bit of toast that hit the floor.... :o

But laundry..needs special attention to be done properly.

You are hilarious op if this bothers you.

YABU to take it personally, but I can understand how it could make you feel uncomfortable if you are an obsessive colour sorter yourself.

As others have said, you don’t know if she put it in there herself or her daughter shoved it in the machine and she put the darks in on top without noticing. I doubt it was deliberate if the whole of the rest of the load was sorted into darks.

If it bothers you that much, buy one of the colour run treatments and run it through your machine at home with one of those.

Fwiw, I am not an obsessive sorter, but I do sort into whites, blacks/navy and mixed lights and mixed darks, with the mixed loads getting a colour catcher shoved in, just in case. I wouldn’t be that fussed if something slipped through the net though.

I understand where you're coming from. Clearly she does separate colours - it's just that she only cares about her own family's clothes. I wouldn't put yellow in with whites though. Aprons go in the teatowel/ dishcloth/napkin wash here.

Don't need colour catchers, laundry is separated so don't need it. It isn't wasteful to separate, because there's always a full load going in - it just means that some things sit in the basket for a few days. Also means the clothes last longer as they go on an appropriate programme.

It's a fucking apron, for school.

Maybe she didn't want to put it in with her whites because of what it was covered in?

Maybe she won't be doing a white wash for a while & thought you'd want it back ASAP - and given how you're reacting now, how would you be reacting if you thought she'd stolen the fecker!!!

It’s an apron. It’s going to get covered in food colouring paint and crap.

Why the fuck would thus even bother you?

Trying to ponder whether it would have been worse if she'd just given it back dirty. Personally I would have preferred that.

Before Christmas, someone borrowed something of mine. When I got it back, I washed it by itself to remove Germs That Were From Another Person. These are much worse than Germs That Are Mine.

Some people need to get an actual life. It is an apron- for cookery at school. Who gives a fuck? Life is too short and all that.

she obviously does separate her washes

Does she?

Or was the stuff on the top of the laundry basket all darkish that day?

What should have happened here is that:

1. CF mum should have washed the apron by itself to get the food crap off.
2. You should wash it by itself when you get home. To remove the Germs From Another Person. And to make it smell like yours again. Presumably at the moment it smells like Someone Else's Washing Products.

Aha but it's not just any old apron for school, it's something that belongs to someone else, so you should be more careful with it imho.

Good. Heavens.

Oh dear gods.

I bet she told her DD to put it in the wash (meaning the washing basket) and her DD put it into the washing machine. She then put her load on, not realising it was in there and so was a bit perplexed when it came out.

Agree that white things don't look marvellous if they've been in with darker colours, but it's a cookery apron! Stick it in a hot wash with a scoop of Vanish and it'll be fine.....

Ha ha ha.

Ha ha.

Blimey I wish I had problems like this...

This thread is batshit.

ChickenVindaloo2 you would wash something that has already been washed, just to make it smell like your washing?
This is why our planet is fucked.

I cannot believe you gave it a second thought. Let alone consider it an insult. As for not being able to use the apron ...words fail me.

I think it’s lovely that this is all you have to worry about

Non separaters do annoy me though. I often buy clothes from eBay etc that have to be thrown straight in the bin because other people can’t separate a wash. They always say no damage in perfect condition etc but they just look shit. I can’t trash clothes like that if I try.

Your friend is BBVU to have her washing machine in the kitchen.

Regards

Kirstie Allsopp