What would you (over)think? (Actually laundry related!)

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So I was round at a friend’s house for a catch up on our day off, and we were chatting in her kitchen diner while she carried on wiping sides down etc.
Her washing machine finished its cycle and she bent down and hauled out the contents of the load which was exclusively black/dark grey - jeans, leggings, tights, T-shirts etc; not a colour or pastel in sight.... EXCEPT ... entangled in all this was my DD’s school cookery apron that her DD had borrowed. It’s WHITE AND YELLOW.
I was standing there watching so she had perhaps forgotten that it was in there and couldn’t just stuff it back in so she styled it out “Oh this is yours, I’ll get it dry so you can take it with you.”
Now I know I am very picky when it comes to dividing colours for washing -- those “Chris Martin” coloured T-shirts with white sleeves are my worst nightmare laundry-wise - but... seriously??? Because it wasn’t just a random mixed wash it was definitely a very dark wash with my DD’s white apron stuffed in.
I’ve obviously got plenty worse things to worry about (oh I really have) but even though we met through school, I did consider her a close friend and she has voiced the same to me. I’ve tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming back to me! Was it really mean of her?
AIBU to take this personally..?

I put towels in - but according to colour groups of course!
The only thing I separate by “material-type” is jeans.

"I throw all my washing in together and never ever separate. I use a colour catcher and have never ever had a colour run."

Middle class women all over the country are fainting right now, fucksake. FAINTING, I TELL YOU.

She wasn't mean, she didn't fuck up, you are massively ovverreacting. Many people, including me, don't separate washes. Most of our clothes are old enough that no colour at all will leak out on a regular wash. (If I was doing a boil wash, I might separate them.)

As for this:

Not grey but I’d be embarrassed to send DD to school with it.

...don't be ridiculous. The whole point of an apron is that it's there to catch splashes and spills.

I separate, but only into lights, darks and wool/delicate wash. I'd throw things like (light) aprons/teatowels/dishcloths into any wash, because as functional items, they get stained/marked anyway, so a bit of colour run (that never actually happens!) wouldn't really matter. I wash everything at 40.

I really, REALLY don't think this was a slight. Just someone who does things differently to you.

I separate into so many washes that for me to do that to someone else’s white garment I could only imagine doing with an evil laugh hmm but that’s me.

^^ This was the comment Forgot that lead me to my conclusion that you assumed it was deliberate.

I’m sorry that you have been taken advantage of before.

Jesus. No wonder the bloody polar ice caps are melting. This thread is insane.

Word.

Do none of you take a little extra care over items that don’t belong to you then..?

It’s predominantly white, thin yellow stripes. But yes I do a white wash, a white with little bits of other colour wash, a pink wash, a light blue/lilac/green wash, etc etc etc

But don't you end up with loads of separate little washes??

Isn't that really really shit for the environment??

I agree with PPs....this thread is fucking insane.

The amount of environmental damage caused by all these paranoid clothes washers must be immense.

You do realise every time you wash anything man made, like polyester, you release loads of microfibres into the water/environment??

What liquid/powder do you all use, if its something like Persil you are adding even more damage on top.

No wonder our planet is fucked if millions of homes do this pointless shit.

Plus the environmental cost of all that extra electricity use.

Plus the use of precious water resources.

Ffs people...think about what you are doing.

I thought I was some domestic goddess because I separate into black wash, white wash and all-the-other-colours was.

But you do separate lilac and pink washes OP?

For someone counting the pennies doesn't that seem rather....extravagant? Let alone a total pain in the arse of a chore?

Let alone the planet!

How would you all cope in s place where washing clothes in rivers/ buckets of well water is normal?

And people who throw clothes out that aren't irreparable are idiots.

When a white thing goes grey....I put it aside, when I have a few things I dye them a different colour.

Made a shirt last over a decade like that.

Yes, I do take particular care over something I’ve borrowed.

Not everyone has the same standards though.

A friend’s DS once borrowed trousers after an accident at our house.

They were returned 3 weeks later smelling of damp. I eventually had to bin them.

She’s a very nice woman, and she was grateful for the loan she just doesn’t do laundry to the same standards I do.

I am very very fussy about our washing, colour catchers all the way in this house just incase of a mixed wash accident. Our clothes always look nice because I take care to ensure garments are washed correctly. I don’t think anything looks worse than greying whites, just no!

Oh wow. I've seen it all.

I separate by darks, whites, coloureds, towels (wash at a higher temperature) and jumpers (hand wash prog).

Never heard of separating washes according to colour. How can that be efficient unless you are a family of at least 8?

Batshit crazy!!

I would have put this with lights but she might not have realised. I have taken a load out of the washing machine only to realise a dark/light item got mixed in - I don't stress and I wouldn't worry about it.

That being said I do try to take care of others clothes

How would you wash a white and YELLOW apron if you don't use colour catcher sheets?

I wouldn't put it with the white, so unless I had a load of yellow items, I probably would have put it in the dark wash too. I tend to wash all the bright colours with the dark items, never had any colour-accident so far.

I do as a previous poster and save up a full load of each so not ruining the planet, no.
We have big towels in different colours so in reality it’s normally only ever the jeans wash that gets at all delayed.

FFS, wash the way you want to! who gets to tell others not to separate the way they want to?

I had a friend who washed my DS white top and it's now grey, really not happy as DS loves that top and it looks scruffy now.

ShastaTrinity I’m sorry but that’s nonsense!

THANK you Hissy!
(although I wasn’t intending on ending the friendship over it... you say you “had” a friend!)

Hissy dye it??

I dyed a white top that had a black and white print on the front purple.
(red wine accident!)

The print stayed black and white, t shirt lovely purple colour, hid the wine stains....sorted.

ForgotwhatIcameinherefor

Why is that nonsense? I put my bright pink or red clothes and other brightly coloured clothes in the dark wash and it comes out just fine. I would not put yellow with my white.

We do at least one load a day, that's more than enough for me.

Oh no, still love my friend! she's an angel! just annoyed about the top, considering i tried SO hard to keep it white.

was a bloody stupid TK Maxx purchase in the first place