To not give neighbor internet password?

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I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

I'd advise to just say no. I have really bad social anxiety as well and got asked in my old flat by a man downstairs if he could use mine. I panicked and said yes. He initially paid half, then this dropped to just giving me a fiver then to nothing. Also didn't know at the time anything he looked at my IP address would be liable for. I changed the name and password, he was knocking on my door for days to see why he couldn't get on. Ended up telling him I'd rid of the Internet. We both ended up just blanking each other, ah well. People can be so unbelievably cheeky.

Main thing is you don't know well at all them so you don't know what they could be looking at. Not worth the risk in my opinion.

Your neighbour downloads illegal material or carries out any illegal activity.
Guess who gets the blame.

They can easily hack to anything you have connected to the wifi. (all your computers).

Seriously, bad idea.

Had to phone my sis there for a small talk down. I’ve mentioned before I have a MH issue that can be triggered/set off by practically anything. This is no exception.

I knew what NDN was doing when she mentioned DD but at the same time I feel paranoid as DD does wake up and these walls are paper thin so they’ve more than likely heard her. I keep imagining the worst if I say no to them again and the worst if I give it over. They could be perfectly normal on the outside but could access anything online and it would come back to me. I can’t risk that but don’t want my neighbors to be malicious to me over this. If they tried reporting us for noise would that hold up?

GIven her, at best cheeky at worst blackmailing response to you saying no- I would suggest a snide response.
“No I’m not able to share access but we got a really good deal with x provider, they could probably get you up and running in no time once you sign up”

If they do anything dodgy online, it will be hard to prove it wasn't you. Even without thinking of really awful things, someone freeloading on your internet is probably also downloading media illegally.

Also, once someone is on your network they have huge potential to hack you, getting access to your internet banking, email, everything. Properly geeky security-conscious people have 2 separate internet connections at home: one for themselves and a separate one for guests (ie friends and family).

Only give this guy access to your network if you would not only give him the keys to your house but would also give him your bank card and pin, all your passwords (including work ones if you ever log in from home) and would take personal risks for him (ie your freedom from jail).

tldr; Just say no.

There is no way I would share with a neighbour. I could lose my job if someone was accessing dodgy stuff on my internet.

What a cheeky cow! Do not under any circumstances let her manipulate you, cos that’s what’s she’s trying to do. Just say no and close the door.

I do computer security for a living (though not for home users, and not in the UK). Don't give it to him. If he just wants internet, he could get his own. If he wants to do stuff he might get in trouble for doing, you're going to be the one getting in trouble. No, no, no.

Don’t play games with giving wrong password or giving password and turning of router at mains etc

Just tell them you can’t do it

It’s not allowed you’ve checked
You don’t want to
Your not comfortable with it

People like this are t used to not getting there own way so be prepared to use the broken record technic and keep repeating the same grades over and again

Good luck

(naive emoticon)

"Hi, neighbour. I've just rang BT to inform them that I was giving you my password and they have told me they will terminate contract if I do, and will now be looking for any dodgy activity. Soz"

Well obviously the answer is NO, even more so after that cheeky fuckery from the partner of your neighbour but perhaps rehearse a slightly fuller reply to nip this in the bud

"The answer is still NO and it's going to stay No. It's simply not something I'm going to do."

And if he/she starts to argue say that 'you're making it clear so that they don't think that if they keep asking you, you'll eventually change your mind, because you won't.' "You don't want them having any false hopes" And close the door.......

I work in online industry. No way on earth should you give password. Hold firm. Nothing bad will happen to you

No OP they won't get anywhere with a noise complaint.

Ask him for a key to his flat.

I doubt they would have a comeback regarding noise. If it was a problem, they have had plenty of time to talk to you about it before now.

Jeez cheeky bastards. Why didn’t you invite them in to use your bath and take the food out of your fridge OP?! They’re nasty pieces of work for making you feel so awkward and bringing your daughter into it.

That made me laugh, User. 😂

Thank you, troodie. Going to have to try to grow my backbone.

Currently I’m sat with a notebook taking bits and pieces out of everyone’s replies so I can practice it for tomorrow when neighbors will undoubtably come back.

Are they tenants? Is it a proper flat, or a bedsit? I suspect the issue with their own internet is that they don't have a phone line and either can't get one, or it's too expensive for them.

Regardless, it's not your problem. I wouldn't give my wifi password out to someone I didn't know that well either. I would give it to my immediate neighbours on a temporary basis because 1) I know them and 2) it wouldn't be forever. I reckon people you know are more likely to feel a sense of shame at downloading anything dodgy using your internet and so would self-regulate their usage!

Asking to share someone's internet is quite a personal request.

This has got being picked up by the DM or Wright Stuff all over it

Confrontations with neighbours are always difficult, do you have a partner or anyone who can tell them no for you? They are definitely wifi CFs

Plus if they start using it to download films and large files it will slow down massively for you.

A million important reasons not to do it. Not a single good reason to do it.

"He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them."

That made me laugh. You mean they didn't leave their internet for him? What heartless bastards.

Him and his constant internet leeching was probably the reason that they left anyway.

"I'm really sorry but I won't be able to give you my internet password for the reasons I stated yesterday. I'm also really concerned about the fact that you guys can hear DD through the wall, that's awful so here's the number of the noise nuisance department at the council in case you want to make a complaint. I'm sure they're the best people to advise on that."

Kill them with naivete and they may just give up trying to have a dig....

Good grief, I can’t believe that people are so shameless!

Stay strong OP, and just keep saying no. You don’t have to give them an explanation or an excuse, the word no will do the job.

Name changed for this.

I work for your provider and I am telling you that you really mustn’t give them your password.

I know anxiety is awful but please take me posting this as taking the decision out of your hands; you mustn’t share it. It’s a terrible security risk and in terms of your anxiety the risk to your internet security is far far greater than them filing noise complaints that won’t go anywhere.

Just say no, you don’t feel comfortable with that.
Your WiFi, your rules. You are under no obligation to share it.