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To not give neighbor internet password?

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NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
Italiangreyhound · 29/01/2018 21:47

" she’d give me tonight to think on it as it would help her DP and herself out." What a cheeky mare.

"She then asked how my DD was and if she was still waking at night as they can hear her. DD has ASD, sensory processing disorders and barely sleeps but this is the first time she’s ever mentioned it to me so I feel shite now."

That is a very mean and cheeky tactic of hers and one which would make me not want to speak to her on the doorstep.

Do not feel shite, she is using your own dd as leverage with you to avoid paying for the Internet, do not give in.

"I’ve legitimately never had a close relationship with these people ans I’ve never felt so fucking awkward in my life."

DO NOT feel awkward, they are being rude. If this comes up again I;d just say, No, I'm not giving out my password to neighbors, sorry if that was not clear the other day."

londonrach · 29/01/2018 21:47

No answer to this...NO! Seriously you be sharing bank details, email and opening yourself to problems depending on what he downloads

Italiangreyhound · 29/01/2018 21:48

Or do what @ivykaty44 says, great advice.

shoeaddict83 · 29/01/2018 21:48

Just say NO! Internet security advises against this very thing due to the dangers of people being able to access personal data and use your IP for anything dodgy!!

If he can't get credit he can buy a dongle you can use and use it pay as you go by loading credit to it.. it's not your issue they don't have it.

Huge coincidence they sudddely get pally and ask about your DD etc now they need something Hmm

RaeCJ82 · 29/01/2018 21:48

If a neighbour asked for my WiFi password I would probably laugh and ask them if they were serious! Do not give them your password. How cheeky!

TellsEveryoneRealFacts · 29/01/2018 21:48

give them the wrong code and then be baffled as to why it isn't working.

HappyFeet1212 · 29/01/2018 21:49

I'm sorry to say this but you are being manipulated. They are complete cheeky fuckers & so they will be back.

You are not obliged to speak to these people. They are hateful for mentioning your child.

Get cross & stand up for yourself. They are rude for even asking. Get your angry rant ready, practice it in the mirror & then deliver full force.

FrancisCrawford · 29/01/2018 21:49

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JamPasty · 29/01/2018 21:49

telling me she’d give me tonight to think on it as it would help her DP and herself out. She then asked how my DD was and if she was still waking at night as they can hear her. - this is how you can tell these people are cheeky fuckers, and that it was in no way unreasonable to tell them no.

As they are CFs, they will not take no for an answer and you are not obliged to be polite to them (I know how anxiety can make you feel you must be polite at all costs). If they ask again, say no, sorry, I can't. Don't say why as that gives them a route to try to coerce you. Just keep repeating the same phrase at them. If she says she'll make a complaint about the noise, tell them to go ahead. A child making noise is perfectly acceptable and whoever they complain to will laugh at them. Hugs.

Tink2007 · 29/01/2018 21:50

Absolute CFs!

I can’t believe she tried to use your DD as leverage either. Tell them to sod off.

TrinitySquirrel · 29/01/2018 21:50

"No, I don't give my password out I'm afraid. I can give you Virgin's number if you want to get your own installed though"

Do not include the word 'sorry', not even once.

Fishcalledlola · 29/01/2018 21:50

We gave ndn the password, free of charge. After about 4 months we went on holiday and turned everything off. Dh felt they had had a freebie for long enough and changed the password. No drama, no criminality, no hacking our bank accounts.
These are your neighbours, you might actually strike up a friendship!

EggsonHeads · 29/01/2018 21:51

I don't understand why you are even considering this. Just say no.

UnimaginativeUsername · 29/01/2018 21:51

If she comes back tomorrow, just say that the extra time she gave you to think about it has made you even more sure that you aren’t willing to give out the password.

They’re just chancers.

Straycatblue · 29/01/2018 21:52

So you didnt agree when husband asked, you didnt agree when she came to the door to ask and now shes saying

She’d give me tonight to think on it as it would help her DP and herself out

They are pressuring you into it. Dont be flustered or anxious, get angry, They are behaving badly

She then asked how my DD was and if she was still waking at night as they can hear her.

and this was her basically telling you that they deserve your wifi because they had been woken up by your daughter in the past ie its a borderline threat = you keep us awake, we should get your wifi.

(if they could still hear your DD at night, they wouldnt have to ask if she was still waking at night, they are just using it as way to bully you into complying)

Haffdonga · 29/01/2018 21:52

Would you let them use your electricity supply? Your gas meter?

Thought not.

LaContessaDiPlump · 29/01/2018 21:54

Stand your ground op - she's trying to make you feel guilty and like you owe them something. You do not!

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 29/01/2018 21:54

No... Is a complete sentence....!

Don't make excuses/reasons... They'll find reasons... Try and make you feel guilty.

I wouldn't chase it up with them .... If they come to you again...

'No I didn't say I'd share my Internet with you. I won't share it due to security issues....All Internet providers are the same.'

Idontdowindows · 29/01/2018 21:55

Use the security concerns reason. :) It's blooming true!

iklboo · 29/01/2018 21:55

'Oh yes. Have you got a pen? It's

$-0-D-0-F-F-C-H-3-3-K-Y-G-1-T

drinkswineoutofamug · 29/01/2018 21:55

My son had given out the password to our WiFi to his mates. Fair enough if they are visiting. One day son is at work and l glanced his mate sat on our steps on his phone. I switched my WiFi , if looks could kill I would be dead Grin
I changed the WiFi name to getyourownwificheekyfucker and changed the password.

What people must think when they come in range of my house

Hortonlovesahoo · 29/01/2018 21:55

What CFs! Definitely don’t give them the password and make sure that your network is secure.

If they come around again, say “no, it’s not possible” and repeat. You don’t need to give them a reason

dogletsrock · 29/01/2018 21:55

I think WiFi should be seen the same as gas or electricity. You wouldnt share them. If he looks at anything dodgy it will be down to you. He will deny it. They are trying it on. Don’t say yes.

AhNowTed · 29/01/2018 21:59

Apart from anything else....

Do you really want them knocking on your door asking you to reboot the router cos the internet doesn't seem to be working

ShmooBooMoo · 29/01/2018 21:59

Anxiety is horrible, I know. Put a note through the door politely but firmly stating that you won't be sharing your wifi password with anybody so approaching you again about it will be a waste of time. Ask them, in the interests of maintaining good neighbourly relations, to respect your decision. No explanation at all or they will seek to help you resolve the impediment! And don't mention your child at all... Neighbour was trying to guilt you into sharing the password...don't fall for it! If they feel noise is an issue etc there are channels they can go through!

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